School Psychologist Shannon Davis discusses the ways we can cultivate healthy emotional regulation skills in our children. How can we recognize our kids' triggers, avoid power struggles, coach kids to cope with strong, negative feelings, and work with our kids' educators to provide appropriate support? What are schools' protocols for de-escalation and reporting their interventions when kids' explosive feelings become challenging behaviors?

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Emotional Regulation
at School and at Home
Shannon E. Davis, Ed.S., NCSP and
Rachel Valenti Fan Club, Member since 2007
Let’s Build a Brain!

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Dr. Daniel Siegel’s Hand Model of the Brain
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Flipping your Lid*
* Dr. Daniel Siegel

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Body Regulation
Compassion
Emotional
Balance
Response
Flexibility
Empathy
Self Knowing
Fear
Modulation
Intuition Morality
Individual Differences
¡ Temperament/Personality
¡ Life Experience/Trauma
¡ Transient Events
¡ Protective Factors

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Making Feelings Visible
Making Feelings Visible

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Making Feelings Visible
Teaching the Zones

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Find Your Own Strategies
¡ Take a break
¡ Get a drink of water
¡ Belly breathing
¡ Cool down spot
¡ Safe Person
¡ Draw, journal, white board
¡ Stress ball/Play dough
¡ Weighted blanket/heavy
stuffed animal
¡ Glitter jar
¡ Meditation app
¡ Physical activity/throwing a
ball/punching bag
¡ Humor

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Keep it simple.
Only 3 strategies per zone.
¡ Visit the cool down center
¡ Get a drink of water
¡ Belly breaths and count to 20.
Teaching Emotional Regulation
¡ Explicitly teach
¡ Model
¡ Praise
¡ Fade

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Power Struggles
¡ Two choices and walk away
¡ Use of timer, schedules
¡ Scripts
¡ Know when to tag out or ask for help
Stay calm.
Stay in the Green
Two Choices – Walk Away
¡ Give the child two choices that are
acceptable to you.
“Do you want to do your homework when you get
home from school for after dinner?”
“Do you want to use the bathroom before you put
your shoes on or after.”
“If you don’t make a choice, then you are telling,
that I get to decide.”
Keep a calm voice.

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Use a Timer or a Schedule
¡ When you use a timer or a schedule,
then the “power struggle” is not with
you.
“It’s 4:30, time to start your homework.”
“The schedule says we brush our teeth before reading
stories.”
Keep a calm voice.
Use a Script
¡ If there is a predictable power struggle,
then create a script that will keep you
calm and on track.
“I’m not going to leave you and I’m going to keep your
safe, and me safe, and we’re going to be ok.”
This will help you stay
calm and in control.

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Know when to tag out or ask
for help.
Questions?
Thank You!