LESSONS ON ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail PERSONAL ‘SELF ’DEVELOPMENT

1. Arabic (plural) of Adab : meanings – “good breeding, decency, nurture, good manners, refinement, cultured, decorum, courteous, etiquette, propriety, social grace, to educate, discipline, the humanities, etc.” sense of proportion and knowledge of their rightful place in the order of things, the absence of which indicates injustice LESSONS ON ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail Insha’Allah -This is a follow-up course, after completion of 18 weeks course on the kitab “ Ta’lim al-Muta’allim Tariqit Ta’allum ” of Sheikh Tajuddin Nu’man Zarnuji ( 9 November 2011 ) Every Wednesday night @ 8pm Wisma Indah 448 Changi Rd,#02-00 (Next to Masjid Kassim), LESSON# 4 IN THE NAME OF ALLAH MOST COMPASSIONATE MOST MERCIFUL. All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011) 2 ND RUN OF THE MODULE

3. “ We are (much) in need of a little adab, from (that of) going out (seeking) after much of ‘ilm (knowledge)” – Imam ‘Abdullah al-Mubarak All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

4. “ In understanding our ‘Self’ ( Nafs ), each one of us as Muslims, must be reminded of our covenant made is the world of the Souls – which in this world we, as Muslims, have renewed alHamdulillah , with our shahadahtain .” RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON LESSONS ON ISLAMIC ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

5. “ To be as witnesses in attesting Tauhiid , we are commanded to uphold Justice. By justice, we have the terms “ qistw ” and “ ‘ adalah ” with their profound significations quite different from the English word “justice” generally understood. Thus our understanding of Ada b connotes this imperative towards Justice, tampered with I h san and generosity. RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011) LESSONS ON ISLAMIC ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail

6. Also defined as – “sense of proportion and knowledge of their rightful place in the order of things, the absence of which indicates injustice (zulm). ” RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011) LESSONS ON ISLAMIC ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail

7. “ OUR RELATIONSHIPS” RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011) LESSONS ON ISLAMIC ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail

9. “ And interact with people in the best manner of disposition (i.e. adopt a noble character).” ( Hadith reported by at-Tabrani ) In interacting with people, our Prophet s.a.w. commands us to adopt the best manner in our disposition, which when applied would require knowledge with “ Adab .” RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

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12. “ Has there not been over Man a long period of Time, when he was nothing--(not even) mentioned?― Verily We created Man from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: so We gave him (the gifts), of Hearing and Sight. We showed him the Way: whether he be grateful or ungrateful (rests on his will).” ( Qur’an: Insan: 76: 1-3 ) All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

13. Relationship with the Self THE WORLD TIME SELF BODY TONGUE MIND DESIRE HEART Initial traits : [1] Appetite, [2] Emotion still link to needs, [3] curiosity, memory, [4] imitative, see, listen & do, [5] application of basic sensory feelings NAFS al-AMMARAH (Commanding self) Link to various Quwwah (powers): [1] shahwiyya (desires) [2] ghadabiyya (anger) [3] Wahmiyah (imaginative) [4] ‘aqliyya (thoughts) Importance of linguistics to thoughts: All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

14. Relationship with the Self THE WORLD TIME SELF BODY TONGUE MIND DESIRE HEART Initial traits : [1] Appetite, [2] Emotion still link to needs, [3] curiosity, memory, [4] imitative, see, listen & do, [5] application of basic sensory feelings NAFS al-AMMARAH (Commanding self) Link to various Quwwah (powers): [1] shahwiyya (desires) [2] ghadabiyya (anger) [3] Wahmiyah (imaginative) [4] ‘aqliyya (thoughts) Importance of linguistics to thoughts: All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011) “ He (Allah) has created man: He has imparted unto him articulate thought and speech.” (Q:55: 3-5)

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21. “ Pulau pandan jauh ketengah, Gunung Daik bercabang tiga, Hancur badan dikandung tanah, Budi baik dikenang juga” “ Island of Pandan glistens in the wave, Mountain of Daik with three peaks appeared, Though our body be destroyed completely in the grave, But our deeds of kindness will forever be remembered” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

22. “ Tinggi sungguh gunung Daik, Mercunya nampak terang berkilau, Kalau asal benih yang baik, Jatuh ke laut menjadi pulau.” “ Majestic is mount Daik with awe and radiance, With the sun atop its peak they appear to merge, If a seed is truly derived from that of excellence, When thrown in the sea an island will emerge” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

23. “ Pisang emas bawa belayar, Masak sebiji di atas peti, Hutang emas boleh dibayar, Hutang budi dibawa mati.” “ Golden banana for a journey is laid, One is ripen upon a crate aplenty , Debt in gold can certainly be repaid, But the debt of kindness is to be borne for eternity” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

24. “ Bunga melati bunga di darat, Bunga seroja di tepi kali, Hina besi kerana karat, Hina manusia tidak berbudi.” “ Wide is the fragrance a jasmine cast, The lotus excel in its beauty and purity, Iron is despised because of its rust, A person is despised for lacking in morality” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

25. “ Halia ini tanam-tanaman, Ke barat juga akan rebahnya, Dunia ini pinjam-pinjaman, Ke akhirat juga akan sudahnya” “ Ginger is a plant that grows in clumps, Towards the west it’s shoot will turn, Life in this world is but on borrowed times, For the Hereafter is where all must eternally return” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

26. “ Berburu ke padang datar, Mendapat rusa belang kaki, Berguru kepalang ajar, Bagaikan bunga kembang tak jadi” “ To go hunting on the plains deserted, Tracking a deer till it meet its doom, If in learning one is lazy, dull and half-hearted, Like flower that wilted as bud, before it can ever bloom.” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

27. “ Buah cempedak di luar pagar, Ambilkan galah tolong jolokkan Saya budak baru belajar, Kalau salah tolong tunjukkan” “ Out on the fence a jackfruit is leaning, To pull it with a pole the fruit can be harvested, I am just a learner very new to this learning, Hoping to be corrected wherever I have erred.” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

28. “ Ke hulu memotong pagar, Jangan terpotong batang durian, Carilah guru tempat belajar, Jangan menyesal dihari kemudian.” “ The fence needs cutting as well as cleaning, But do not destroy the branch of the durian tree, Seek out a teacher to guide you in your learning, Lest great is the regret, your future will be.” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

29. “ Anak teruna menanam betik, Buah cempedak di dalam raga, Apa guna berwajah cantik, Kalau kurang budi bahasa.” “ A young man planted a papaya tree, A jackfruit is placed inside a basket, What is the use having only physical beauty, When you lack humanity, culture and etiquette ” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

30. “ Berakit-rakit ke-hulu, Berenang-renang ke-tepian, Bersakit-sakit dahulu, Bersenang-senang kemudian” “ Rafting upriver to reach the forest trees, Swimming to the beach to rest on the sand, So patiently persevere all initial difficulties. To certainly attain the happiness in the end.” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

31. “ Orang Daik memacu kuda, Kuda dipacu deras sekali, Buat baik berpada-pada, Buat jahat jangan sekali” “ People of Daik on horses in a valley , Racing on their steed in rows of two, Spread you goodness with wisdom appropriately, Not a single deed of evil must you ever do.” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

32. Berbunga lebat pohon rambutan, Hinggap tempua berjuntai kaki, Bila dapat memandang rang bulan, Jangan dilupa rumput di kaki.” “ The bloom of the flower on the rambutan tree, The weaver bird’s nesting is amazing indeed, When you can marvel at the full moon and its beauty, Forget not the grass which humbly lay at your feet ” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

33. “ Dikala pagi pergi berdagang, Menyara hidup untuk keluarga, Rela ku mati berputih tulang, Dari hidup berputih mata.” “ Morning to the market where trading is assured, Seeking provision for family not for fame, Honouring justice and truth, death is preferred, Rather than life of self-pity, perpetually in shame.” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

34. “ Salam menghadap, hamba dan dayang, Raja bermalam di dendang teruja, Dalam kitab ada terlarang, Perkara yang haram jangan dicuba.” “ With looks so dignified, all the servant and maiden, With manners and charm, before the resting king, The Book (Qur’an) has clarified all that is forbidden, Whatever is ‘haram’ therefore, refrain yourself from doing” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

35. “ Gelama, senohong disalut lumpur, Masak nasi santan biasa, Apa guna sombong dan takbur, Rosak hati badan binasa.” “ Fishing for trout from the muddy river, Coconut milk with rice, the usual way of cooking, Avoid being proud and arrogance in behaviour, Such corrupted heart destroys, your entire being” All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

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41. By retracing our life, we start with understanding our basic nature as a human being - having inherent powers and their potentialities to be developed. All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

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45. AllRightsReserved©Zhulkeflee2005 *Diagram from Wikipedia Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a theory in psychology that Abraham Maslow (1908 –1970) proposed in his 1943 paper “A Theory of Human Motivation” TASAWWUR ISLAM All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

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47. SELF-ACTUALIZATION WITH ‘SHAHADATAIN’ Esteem, Love / belonging Safety, Physiological, GUIDED BY THE “SHARI’AH” RIGHTEOUSNESS & PIETY ( Bir/ Taqwa ) HONOUR & SELF-ESTEEM, ( ‘Izzat/Ikram ) SENSE OF BELONGING ( Usrah/Ummah ) SECURITY, ( Ahkam/Jihad/Salaam ) BASIC NEEDS ( Halal/Haram ) “ SELF-PURIFICATION” Tazkiyyatun-Nafs “ INSAN KAAMIL” “ INSAN ROB-BANI” Human perfection Thoroughly shedding every base, egoistic, animalistic, devilish, materialistic tendencies & desires, for higher angelic spiritual traits – termed ‘selfless Godliness’ “ RobbaaniyIn ” modelled after Prophet Muhammad’s noble disposition ( Akhlaq ). TASAWWUR ISLAM ISLAM BEGINS WITH "Be ye (Robbaniyin) worshippers of Him (Who is truly the Cherisher of all) for ye have taught the Book and ye have studied it earnestly." (Q:3:79) All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

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49. In our relationship regarding our Education – we are to encounter, i.e. assisted by our educators - with what is referred to as, “ knowledge ”. All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

50. Yet, we are born helpless and have to be cared, nurtured, to be inculcated with discipline, taught and developed by a Murabbi’ (EDUCATOR) – the first of whom are our PARENTS. All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

51. Yet, we are born helpless and have to be cared, nurtured, to be inculcated with discipline, taught and developed by a Murabbi’ (EDUCATOR) – the first of whom are our PARENTS. All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011) Relationship with the Parents and Teacher

52. Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. THE WORLD TIME SELF BODY TONGUE MIND DESIRE HEART Obedience to Parents and teachers Beginning of education: [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator: [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. PARENTS TEACHERS KNOWLEDGE Relationship with the Parents and Teacher All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

53. Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. THE WORLD TIME SELF BODY TONGUE MIND DESIRE HEART Obedience to Parents and teachers Beginning of education : [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator : [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. TEACHERS KNOWLEDGE Relationship with the Parents and Teacher All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011) PARENTS

54. “ [O man] be grateful towards Me and towards thy parents, [and remember that] with Me is all journeys’ end.” ( Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 14 ) All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011)

55. “ [O man] be grateful towards Me and towards thy parents, [and remember that] with Me is all journeys’ end.” ( Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 14 ) All Rights Reserved © Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail (2011) TO BE CONTINUED – INSHA-ALLAAH!

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