16. Why Consider EEs
⢠Promote Mourning Process
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17. Why Consider EEs
⢠Promote Mourning Process
⢠Common
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18. Why Consider EEs
⢠Promote Mourning Process
⢠Common
⢠Real to Observer
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19. Why Consider EEs
⢠Promote Mourning Process
⢠Common
⢠Real to Observer
⢠Need to Share
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20. Why Consider EEs
⢠Promote Mourning Process
⢠Common
⢠Real to Observer
⢠Need to Share
⢠Personal Growth and Affects Identity
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47. Common Responses
⢠Permission
⢠Relief
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48. Common Responses
⢠Permission
⢠Relief
⢠Strengthened Faith
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49. Common Responses
⢠Permission
⢠Relief
⢠Strengthened Faith
⢠Iâm Still Loved
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50. Common Responses
⢠Permission
⢠Relief
⢠Strengthened Faith
⢠Iâm Still Loved
⢠The Body Dies,
Love Doesnât
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51. Common Responses
⢠Permission ⢠Freedom
⢠Relief
⢠Strengthened Faith
⢠Iâm Still Loved
⢠The Body Dies,
Love Doesnât
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52. Common Responses
⢠Permission ⢠Freedom
⢠Relief ⢠Iâm Not Alone
⢠Strengthened Faith
⢠Iâm Still Loved
⢠The Body Dies,
Love Doesnât
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53. Common Responses
⢠Permission ⢠Freedom
⢠Relief ⢠Iâm Not Alone
⢠Strengthened Faith ⢠Advice
⢠Iâm Still Loved
⢠The Body Dies,
Love Doesnât
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54. Common Responses
⢠Permission ⢠Freedom
⢠Relief ⢠Iâm Not Alone
⢠Strengthened Faith ⢠Advice
⢠Iâm Still Loved ⢠Hope of Reunion*
⢠The Body Dies,
Love Doesnât
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55. Common Responses
⢠Permission ⢠Freedom
⢠Relief ⢠Iâm Not Alone
⢠Strengthened Faith ⢠Advice
⢠Iâm Still Loved ⢠Hope of Reunion*
⢠The Body Dies, ⢠Reduce Fear of
Love Doesnât Dying*
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58. Test of Authenticity
⢠Suggestive of deceased?
⢠Pattern?
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59. Test of Authenticity
⢠Suggestive of deceased?
⢠Pattern?
⢠Solace?
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60. Test of Authenticity
⢠Suggestive of deceased?
⢠Pattern?
⢠Solace?
⢠Intuitive feeling?
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61. Test of Authenticity
⢠Suggestive of deceased?
⢠Pattern?
⢠Solace?
⢠Intuitive feeling?
⢠Encouraging?
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62. Test of Authenticity
⢠Suggestive of deceased?
⢠Pattern?
⢠Solace?
⢠Intuitive feeling?
⢠Encouraging?
⢠Spiritual Awareness?
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63. Test of Authenticity
⢠Suggestive of deceased?
⢠Pattern?
⢠Solace?
⢠Intuitive feeling?
⢠Encouraging?
⢠Spiritual Awareness?
⢠DID IT BRING PEACE?
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67. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
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68. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
- Open-minded
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69. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
- Open-minded
- On-going familiarity
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70. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
- Open-minded
- On-going familiarity
- Understand various beliefs
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71. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
- Open-minded
- On-going familiarity
- Understand various beliefs
- Comfortable with criticism from
scientiďŹc-oriented colleagues
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74. Therapistâs Function
⢠Timing of an inquiry
⢠Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
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75. Therapistâs Function
⢠Timing of an inquiry
⢠Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
⢠Relate to beliefs of mourner
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76. Therapistâs Function
⢠Timing of an inquiry
⢠Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
⢠Relate to beliefs of mourner
⢠Review message received
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77. Therapistâs Function
⢠Timing of an inquiry
⢠Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
⢠Relate to beliefs of mourner
⢠Review message received
⢠Pose questions
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78. Therapistâs Function
⢠Timing of an inquiry
⢠Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
⢠Relate to beliefs of mourner
⢠Review message received
⢠Pose questions
⢠Explore choices for usage
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80. Key Questions
⢠Whatâs different?
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81. Key Questions
⢠Whatâs different?
⢠Who is it from?
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82. Key Questions
⢠Whatâs different?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠What is the message?
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83. Key Questions
⢠Whatâs different?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠What is the message?
⢠How can you use it?
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84. Key Questions
⢠Whatâs different?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠What is the message?
⢠How can you use it?
⢠Want to respond?
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85. Key Questions
⢠Whatâs different?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠What is the message?
⢠How can you use it?
⢠Want to respond?
⢠What do you need?
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86. Key Questions
⢠â˘
Whatâs different? Expression of love/
caring?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠What is the message?
⢠How can you use it?
⢠Want to respond?
⢠What do you need?
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87. Key Questions
⢠â˘
Whatâs different? Expression of love/
caring?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠Your expression of love?
⢠What is the message?
⢠How can you use it?
⢠Want to respond?
⢠What do you need?
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88. Key Questions
⢠â˘
Whatâs different? Expression of love/
caring?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠Your expression of love?
⢠What is the message?
⢠How to honor?
⢠How can you use it?
⢠Want to respond?
⢠What do you need?
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89. Key Questions
⢠â˘
Whatâs different? Expression of love/
caring?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠Your expression of love?
⢠What is the message?
⢠How to honor?
⢠How can you use it?
⢠New goal/dream?
⢠Want to respond?
⢠What do you need?
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90. Key Questions
⢠â˘
Whatâs different? Expression of love/
caring?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠Your expression of love?
⢠What is the message?
⢠How to honor?
⢠How can you use it?
⢠New goal/dream?
⢠Want to respond?
⢠What can you do now?
⢠What do you need?
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91. Key Questions
⢠â˘
Whatâs different? Expression of love/
caring?
⢠Who is it from?
⢠Your expression of love?
⢠What is the message?
⢠How to honor?
⢠How can you use it?
⢠New goal/dream?
⢠Want to respond?
⢠What can you do now?
⢠What do you need?
⢠What have you learned?
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104. Dangers
⢠Loss of self-reliance
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105. Dangers
⢠Loss of self-reliance
⢠Failure to seek deeper communion
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106. Dangers
⢠Loss of self-reliance
⢠Failure to seek deeper communion
⢠Relying on questionable guidance
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107. Dangers
⢠Loss of self-reliance
⢠Failure to seek deeper communion
⢠Relying on questionable guidance
⢠False sense of security
Monday, March 16, 2009
108. Dangers
⢠Loss of self-reliance
⢠Failure to seek deeper communion
⢠Relying on questionable guidance
⢠False sense of security
⢠Failing to perform grief work
Monday, March 16, 2009
109. Dangers
⢠Loss of self-reliance
⢠Failure to seek deeper communion
⢠Relying on questionable guidance
⢠False sense of security
⢠Failing to perform grief work
⢠Universal need for continuing bond
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