About Design Your Life: A series of workshop-style courses that provides an eye-opening inquiry into what it takes to live an extraordinary life on your own terms. This series aims to stimulate vital questions about life; confront pertinent issues that stop us from excelling; tackle the modern struggle of how to find and experience meanings; discuss how to live life to its fullest, how to enjoy it, and how to learn from it. To help you think through what you really want from your life and how you can passionately and sustainably engage in areas that matter most to you, the workshop is divided into 4 sections. 1. DISCOVER who you really are, your personal values, and the things you value most in life. We'll also address factors that shape our identities and choices and whether these help or hinder our search for opportunities. 2. PLAN your life's purpose which stems from your values 3. ACT on your life's purpose with our accountability blueprint and catapult your vision to reality. Our blueprint helps you break down a big purpose or vision into feasible goals and actionable plans. 4. EXCEL in life by tackling fear barriers, conventional beliefs and your deeper instincts which are holding you back from excellence. Learn to release yourself from the barriers and experience new levels of confidence, courage and freedom. For more information, visit www.theblueroster.com or connect with us on contact@theblueroster.com

1. DESIGN
YOUR LIFE
The Craft of Being Alive

2.
“Be patient. Nothing worth doing is
worth doing quickly. Nothing worth
building is worth building in a rush.
Nothing of value is formed in a minute.
Plan in decades. Think in years.
Work in months. Live in days.”
Nic Haralambous
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3. Four-Step
Refinement
DISCOVER
PLAN
ACT
EXCEL
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4. DISCOVER
01

5. A typology to gain insights into self-
awareness and personal development.
Knowing your Enneagram can help you
“catch yourself in the act” and react in
productive ways in the context of business,
relationship, parenting, personal growth,
and all forms of communication.
You can orient yourself to higher cognitive
and psychological qualities based on your
Enneagram type.
Discover:
Uncover Self
Through Enneagram
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6. Type Basic Fear Basic Desire Temptation Addiction/Trap
1 Being bad To be reasonable Self-righteousness Perfection/Justice
2 Being unloved To be loving People-pleasing Service
3 Being worthless To be outstanding Driven to excel Achievement
4 Being without identity To be unique Given to fantasy
and mood
Elitism
5 Being incapable To be perceptive Conceptual and
removed from
immediacy
Knowledge
6 Being without
support
To be reliable Invest in external
source of security
Security
7 Being deprived To be enthusiastic Restless and
acquisitive
Idealism
8 Being To be strong Highly pragmatic
and self-sufficient
Arrogance
9 Being separated To feel whole and
peaceful
Highly
accommodating
Indecision/Self-
abasement
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Discover:
Uncover Self Through Enneagram

7. Take the free test or a full test for USD12 here:
www.enneagraminstitute.com/guide-to-all-riso-
hudson-tests
Now that you understand your internal structure
and your continuum of behaviors, attitudes,
defenses and motivations, how would you use
this understanding in your life?
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8. Driver Inner Outer
Basic Certainty – Need for control, order,
predictability, safety, security
Uncertainty – Need for adventure,
challenge, change, excitement, variety
Self Significance – Need to feel important,
special, wanted, worthy of love
Love & Connection – Need for
attachment, communication, intimacy
Spirit Growth – Need for constant emotional,
intellectual and spiritual development
Contribution – Need to care, give, protect
and serve other
Every day we react, respond, and make choices in ways that are driven by
our human needs. Meeting our human needs is key to becoming fulfilled
and successful.
by Tony Robbins
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Discover:
Identify Your 6 Human Needs

9. What are your top two human needs? Find out
here:
six-human-needs-test.herokuapp.com/
members/new
How are you meeting your human needs? Are
you meeting your needs in a constructive or
damaging ways?
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associated with any partnerships or sponsorships.
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10.
“…Your work is the process of achieving your values, and to lose your
ambition for values is to lose your ambition to live--that your body is a
machine, but your mind is its driver, and you must drive as far as your mind
will take you, with achievement as the goal of your road--that the man who
has no purpose is a machine that coasts downhill at the mercy of any
boulder to crash in the first chance ditch, that the man who stifles his mind is
a stalled machine slowly going to rust, that the man who lets a leader
prescribe his course is a wreck being towed to the scrap heap, and the man
who makes another man his goal is a hitchhiker no driver should ever pick
up--that your work is the purpose of your life, and you must speed past any
killer who assumes the right to stop you, that any value you might find
outside your work, any other loyalty or love, can be only travelers you
choose to share your journey and must be travelers going on their own
power in the same direction.”
Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged
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11. Your value system is a set of principles that
drives and guides your perceptions and
behaviors.
It determines what is important, meaningful,
or ethical to you.
It shapes your priorities and defines your
views on success.
It protects you from “going with the flow”,
impulse, and instant gratification by giving
you an inner personal compass for solid
reasoning and decision-making.
Values can change over time.
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Establish Your Value System
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12. 1. When do you feel happiest?
2. When do you feel most fulfilled and satisfied?
3. When do you feel most peaceful and relaxed?
4. What are the achievements you are most proud of?
5. What’s the biggest risk you’ve taken?
6. What do you think about / daydream about / your
dominant thought?
7. What do you talk about in social setting?
8. What do you love to learn and read about?
9. What are your goals?
10. What inspires you?
11. How do you fill your personal physical space?
12. How do you spend your time?
13. How do you spend your energy?
14. How do you spend your money?
15. In which areas of your life do you have the most order
and organization?
16. In which areas of your life are you most reliable,
disciplined and focused?
17. In what ways have you allowed fear to hold you back
from doing what you wish to do?
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13. Legacy
Love
Loyalty
Making a difference
Mastery
Merit
Obedience
Openness
Order
Originality
Patriotism
Perfection
Piety
Positivity
Practicality
Preparedness
Professionalism
Prudence
Reliability
Resourcefulness
Restraint
Results-oriented
Rigor
Security
Self-actualization
Self-control
Accountability
Accuracy
Achievement
Adventurousness
Altruism
Ambition
Assertiveness
Balance
Belonging
Boldness
Calmness
Carefulness
Challenge
Cheerfulness
Clear-mindedness
Commitment
Community
Compassion
Competitiveness
Consistency
Contentment
Contribution
Control
Cooperation
Correctness
Courtesy
Creativity
Curiosity
Decisiveness
Democracy
Dependability
Determination
Devoutness
Diligence
Discipline
Discretion
Diversity
Dynamism
Effectiveness
Efficiency
Empathy
Enjoyment
Enthusiasm
Equality
Excellence
Excitement
Expertise
Exploration
Expressiveness
Fairness
Faith
Family
Fidelity
Fitness
Fluency
Focus
Freedom
Fun
Generosity
Goodness
Grace
Growth
Happiness
Health
Holiness
Honesty
Honor
Humility
Independence
Ingenuity
Inquisitiveness
Insightfulness
Intelligence
Intellectual Status
Intuition
Joy
Justice
Leadership
Selflessness
Self-reliance
Sensitivity
Service
Simplicity
Spirituality
Spontaneity
Stability
Strength
Structure
Success
Support
Teamwork
Thankfulness
Thoroughness
Thoughtfulness
Timeliness
Tolerance
Traditionalism
Trustworthiness
Understanding
Uniqueness
Unity
Usefulness
Vision
Vitality
This list is a guideline. You may use your own word outside of this list.
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14.
“It’s not hard to make decisions when
you know what your values are.”
Roy Disney
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15. My basic fear and desire are _________________.
I am inclined to _________________.
To feel happy and satisfied, I strive to meet my
top 2 needs of ____________ and ____________.
My life is shaped by my values of:
1. _________________
2. _________________
3. _________________
4. _________________
5. _________________
6. _________________
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16. PLAN
02

18. If you don’t plan your own life, someone
else will.
You can’t get what you want out of life until
you know what you don’t want and what
you want.
The level of success in your life depends on
how clear the image is fixed in your mind.
The challenge is getting clarity on what you
really want.
Today’s objective is to help you articulate
your purpose which stems from your
personal values, and then create an
actionable plan that you can focus on.
Plan:
Why is Purpose Important?
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19. 1. When are you most productive? When do you lose track of time?
2. What did you enjoy doing as a child that you’ve stopped doing as an adult?
3. What’s one thing that is most often on your mind that you’d like to bring change
or manifest into your life?
4. If no obstacles stood in the way, what would you most like to achieve in life right
now/in 10 years/in 20 years?
5. What’s the most important thing you can do with your time?
6. What’s one thing that you think is wrong about the world/your community and
bothers you the most?
7. When do you enjoy working? When does work become more challenging or
draining?
8. Whose career or work ethic do you admire, and what characteristics do you
admire them for?
9. How do you define success for yourself? How would success fulfill your value
system?
10. What are you willing to struggle for? What would be one problem worthy of your
life which would inspire and enliven you?
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21. ACT
03

22.
“Passion is the result of action,
not the cause of it.”
Mark Manson
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23. You are your word.
Declare your purpose and plan, become
emotionally invested, and take actions
towards it. Articulating and accomplishing
your commitment is a way to build up your
personal integrity. The muscle of doing
what you say you will do takes practice.
Break down your purpose into goals and
weekly promises to ourselves. Promises
build on each other as a process of learning
what works for you and toward bigger
plans.
Promise should be realistic: something you
believe can happen and can be turned into
a habit or routine. Be as specific as possible:
duration, how long, how, far.
Create consequence for failing to meet
promise so you can restore integrity.
Act:
Structure for Success
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24. 1. Career
2. Character
3. Emotional Life
4. Financial Life
5. Health & Fitness
6. Intellectual Life
7. Life Vision
8. Parenting
9. Quality of Life
10. Romantic Relationship
11. Social Life
12. Spiritual Life
Act:
12 Key Areas in Life
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25. Act:
Turn Purpose
into Commitments
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End Result Doors
Specific
Activities

26. Area Attachment Action Accountability
Why I want it /
How does it
serve me?
Start
doing
Stop
doing
Action Kept/
Not Kept?
Action Not
Kept -
Consequence
Milestone
to achieve
Timeline
Career
Character
Emotional Life
Financial Life
Health & Fitness
Intellectual Life
Life Vision
Parenting
Quality of Life
Romantic
Relationship
Social Life
Spiritual Life
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28. Taking responsibility means declaring you
are the cause in the matter and you have
both the power and resources to shape the
result you desire.
When you place accountability on other
people for your outcomes and
circumstances, you give your personal
power away and remove yourself as the
primary creative force in your life.
Lack of absolute responsibility leads to
pessimism, resignation, cynicism and
resentment.
When you blame other people, it becomes
an invisible shield to keep us safe from
looking bad. It is also a barrier that stops
you from getting what you want.
Act:
Take Absolute Responsibility
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29. Refer to the 12 areas and pick out the areas n your life where you do not
have power, freedom or full self-expression. Begin to tell the truth about the
unworkability in each area of your life. Tell the truth without any validation,
loss of power or embarrassment. Get present to the impact of them.
Select one area and answers these questions:
• Which area in my life am I not taking full responsibility right now?
• What are some of my patterns of pessimism or helplessness?
• What triggers negativity or victimhood in me?
• What is my pretense?
• What is the cost of my pretense?
• How can I begin to take responsibility?
• How will my life change when I take responsibility?
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31. EXCEL
04

32. 3 sources of upset: thwarted intention, unfulfilled expectation, undelivered
communication.
Distinguish a persistent upset in your life -
• My usual complaint is:
• My fixed way of being is:
• The payoff is: being right / own domination / winning / justify yourself
• The cost is: love / affinity / self expression / satisfaction / fulfillment
• What I am going to do to drop this upset:
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Excel:
Upset Barrier

33. When an expectation is not met, disappointment or upset occurs.
Expectation is a way of perceiving how the future “should” or “must be”.
Looking back and using the words “should have” create a space in your
mind that is separate from reality and what actually happened. You attach
yourself to that space and it becomes an anchor on your tail that keeps you
from being in the present or moving forward into the future.
“Should-ing all over yourself” disassociates you from reality.
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Excel:
Expectation Barrier

34. Select areas where you have had fear of failing, rejection or looking bad.
• What worries you?
• What are you trying to protect?
• What are you avoiding?
• What steps can you take to face your fear head on?
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Fear Barrier

36. Thank You!
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