Virtues Workshop - Two Rivers, WI Aug. 2010

1. Michelangelo “ I saw the angel in the stone ~ and carved to set it free.”

3. HOUSEKEEPING Bathrooms Refreshments Lunch Cell Phones

4. From the Family Virtues Guide “ Idealists dare to have big dreams and then act as if they are possible... Idealism does not mean that you are an idle dreamer. Idle dreamers just WISH that things were better. Idealists do something to MAKE things better.“

9. Virtues: The Gifts of Character Assertiveness Caring Cleanliness Commitment Compassion Confidence Consideration Cooperation Courage Courtesy Creativity Detachment Determination Reliability Respect Responsibility Self-discipline Service Tact Thankfulness Tolerance Trust Trustworthiness Truthfulness Understanding Unity Diligence Enthusiasm Excellence Flexibility Forgiveness Friendliness Generosity Gentleness Helpfulness Honesty Honor Humility Idealism Integrity Joyfulness Justice Kindness Love Loyalty Moderation Modesty Orderliness Patience Peacefulness Perseverance Purposefulness

10. Every Child Is Born In Potential

16. The A.R.T. Of Boundaries A ssertiveness R espect T rust Do what is right for you Be deeply present without advising interrupting rescuing criticizing teasing Be worthy of trust. What we say here stays here.

22. Dr. Dan Popov Linda Kavelin-Popov John Kavelin

28. Name a Virtue Encourage Mastery Encourage Meaning

29. A Rainbow of Respect Create Visual Symbols

30. When to Speak the Language of the Virtues

31. Speaking The Language

33. ACT With Tact TM Make a virtues “positivity sandwich”

36. In Teachable Moments Stop Shaming Start Naming Virtues

44. Boundaries Keep Us Safe

52. What Is Your Leadership Style?

53. Create a Virtues-based Vision

54. Create a Virtues Based Vision Statement

55. Boundaries Courtesy Respect Trust Assertiveness Follow directions and treat each other as you would want to be treated. Listen to each other, fully present, without interrupting, rescuing, advising, comparing or teasing. Hold all personal information shared among us as private during and after this workshop. Participate in a way which is right for you. Share what you are comfortable sharing.

56. The A.R.T. Of Boundaries A ssertiveness R espect T rust Do what is right for you Be deeply present without advising interrupting rescuing criticizing teasing Be worthy of trust. What we say here stays here.

57. Guidelines for Establishing Clear Boundaries 1. Be Moderate 2. Be Specific 3. Be Positive - Virtues Based 4. Have Specific, Relevant Consequences 5. Make Consequences Educative 6. Be Consistent 7. Communicate Rules Clearly 8. Be Sure Consequences are Understood 9. Make Bottom Line Rules Non-Negotiable 10. Make Expectations Clear

63. Restorative Justice

66. What Re-creates You?

67. Honor the Spirit Mastery Mystery Meaning

68. 14 th Century Samurai “ I have no magic secrets. I make character my magic secret. I have no miracles. I make right action my miracles.“

69. Explore Mystery Honor Meaning

70. Simple Steps for Spiritual Health Create a Routine of Reverence Take time every day for reflection. Enjoy Yourself Spend non-compulsory time alone and with people you enjoy. Make Time for Friendship For listening and companioning, for being together. Lead your life with Integrity Tell the truth. Do it now. Expose yourself to Beauty Be in nature. Spend time with the Arts.

71. Personal Virtues Shield

75. Getting to the Heart of the Matter Offer Companioning

76. Don’t Get Furious. Get Curious!

77. Is Not Is What It Is and What It Is Not A Fix Walk Along A Rescue Respect Curing Caring Advice Presence Sympathy Compassion & Detachment Telling Listening Victim-based Virtues-based

79. The Companioning Process

80. ACTIVITY SPIRIT WALK