1. The Art + Science of the Rethink:
7 Steps to
Expand Your Possibilities +
Succeed at Your Pursuit of Happiness
Tara-Nicholle Nelson, M.A., Esq.

2. Timeline
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3. “There’s no there there.”
Gertrude Stein
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5. Fast forward to
happy.
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6. • Being rich doesn’t make you happy.
• Finding “the one” doesn’t make you happy.
• Being “normal” “like everyone else” doesn’t
make you happy:
54% of US adults are "moderately mentally
healthy yet not flourishing”
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7. How can we fast forward to happy?
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8. How to fast forward to happy:
• Move past perfect.
• Stop fighting what is – respect what’s real
right now.
• Lean into the fear, anxiety and grief of painful
circumstances.
• Rethink failure as fodder.
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9. What is happiness?
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10. The Philosophers
Aristotle: Happiness = Virtuous Activity
eudemonia
“eu” = well; “daimon” = divinity, spirit
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11. The Philosophers
Oprah: Happiness = living your best life now
The Power of Evolution + Intuition
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12. The Self-Experimenters
Benjamin Franklin: 13 Virtues
Henry David Thoreau: Walden Pond
Liz Gilbert: Eat, Pray, Love
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13. The Academics
Sonya Lubomirsky, Ph.D.: Happiness = Formula
50% genetic
10% life circumstances
+ 40% intentional activities
Your Happiness
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14. The Academics
Mikhail Csikszentmihalyi: Happiness = Flow
“. . .being completely involved in an activity for
its own sake.. . . Your whole being is involved,
and you’re using your skills to the utmost.”
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15. The Academics
Martin Seligman, Ph.D.: Happiness = Flow ++++
P – positive emotion
E – engagement {flow}
R – positive relationships
M – meaning
A – accomplishment
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16. Tara on Happiness
• Seligman left something out
• Circumstances – can’t make us happy, but can
make us very unhappy
• Happiness = PERMA + “The Rethink”
– Flexibility around circumstances
– Resilience
– Ability to reinvent, transform on desire or on
demand
– Mindset management
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17. The Art + Science
of the Rethink
7 Steps
Belief . Language . Action
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18. Why do we need The Rethink?
• Eckhart Tolle – 3 Options: Leave, Change
or Accept situations – anything else is
suffering.
• We want to, but can’t or don’t make
situational or mindset changes we want.
• Rethink is the mise en place that
optimizes our ability to make these
changes.
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19. Step One:
Diagnostics
Identifying what’s not working.
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20. Step Two:
Stabilization
Managing chaos and energy
• Certainty anchors
• Capture + complete
• Decathexis
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21. Step Three:
Getting Unstuck +
Urgent
Momentum building
Cultivating traits of the unstuck
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22. Steps Four + Five:
Belief Remodeling
Unlearning
Creating new belief systems
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23. “If I feel myself to be wronged, a loser or a
victim, I will tell myself that some assumption
I have made is the source of my difficulty.”
Benjamin Zander
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24. Step Six:
Future Framing
Generative Language
Speech Acts
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25. Step Seven:
Prosperity
Practices
Practice makes perfect permanent.
Skill-building
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26. My house
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32. Ready to Rethink?
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email: Tara@REThinkRealEstate.com
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