1. CHAPTER – 7 MANAGING ANGER FOR SELF GROWTH

2. ANGER MANAGEMENT WORKSHOP PRESENTED BY PROF. ABHA SINGH AMITY INSTITUTE OF BEHAVIOURAL & ALLIED SCIENCES SECTOR – 44, NOIDA

8. DEGREE OF ANGER Anger is “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage”.

9. Aggression is an intentional desire to harm someone. Rage is when anger explodes into completely irrational behaviour and there is loss of self-control.

10. Hostility is a chronic state of anger and antipathy toward people. Anger is temporary and episodic reaction to a frustrating situation whereas hostility is a personality characteristic

24. Think before you react Is anger really justified Releasing Anger Safely Hit a pillow or cushion Throw safe items into a container Go for a walk Throw stones into water Jump on old egg boxes Write/draw your feelings, tear them up and throw away Tear up old newspapers. Shout in a safe place Pretend to talk to the person who makes you angry

25. Rational Emotive Therapy (RET) To Control Anger A – Situation You are working on an important document, your roommate trips on your computer cord and shuts the machine down. B – Beliefs Your first reaction is, “Dammit, why did he/she do that? C – Feelings And Actions You yell at person who unplugged your computer and blame them for all the work you lost.

26. D – Dispute You start to question your demandingness: “Accidents happen. God knows I’m clumsy enough myself. It’s not like him/her to do it on purpose. E – Realistic Goals You decide that in the future you’d like to have less risk of having your work interrupted and lost by unexpected intrusions without making anyone unhappy. F – Constructive Options You opt for options like moving the computer cord to make it harder to accidentally unplug and saving your work more often. G – Put option into practice You move the computer cord and you set up your programs to auto-save every three minutes.

31. ANCIENT WISDOM ON ANGER When a man thinks of objects attachment for them arises, From attachment, desire is born and thwarted desire arises anger , From anger comes delusion, From delusion loss of memory occurs, From loss of memory occurs the destruction of discrimination of choice And from destruction of discrimination one perishes

32. Verses from Bhagavad Gita Chapter II.62, 63 trace the cause and effects of anger in 8 steps as follows: Brooding over the sense objects > Attachment > Desire > Anger (Unfulfilled desire) > Delusion > Loss of memory > Power of discrimination > One Perishes

34. “ Cast off anger from your heart like an arrow from the bow, so that you may again be friends and live together in harmony” Atharva Veda