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If you have been married for a number of years and the marriage dissolves, entering into single
parenthood can be a daunting experience if you as the mother don't have a grasp on things. No
doubt, single parenting is tough and no one signed up for it.
5 top single parenting tips to employ:
No matter how lonely you feel and how much you need to be understood, do not talk to your child
about her father and do not discuss grievances with her. This is too much responsibility for a child
and besides you will transfer your sadness to her which is grossly unfair. Your child is not your
confidante. She is not your protector. You are hers and so it must remain. Your child must always
feel that someone is in charge. Don't make your child a pawn in your failed relationship. He or she
looks to you for love and guidance and to feel safe and protected.
Now that there is only one parent in the home, you are both mother and father and will need all
your wits about you to run the home. You need to make up a list of rules for leisure time, study,
chores and so on. You have to enforce the rules right at the beginning and stick to them. If they try
their luck and do not do their chores, you have to either cut television or computer time, or
something that your child enjoys. As a single parent who works outside of the home you have to
run your house like a well-oiled machine so that when you come home from work you are not
entering a house where the dishes are stacked up in the sink and the beds are unmade. You are
the new rule-setter now. This does not mean, however, that their father has no say. He has his
rights too, and you should never punish your children by refusing them contact with their father
albeit it by telephone or weekend outings with him.
Have a plan and stick with it. Children like order; they just do not know it. One of the most common
things single parents do in a situation where there is a breakup is that they compensate with gifts.
This is especially true of the single father who feels guilty that he has left or that he is not with his
children. The child will start to expect it and the next time she cries and you don't buy that new doll
she wanted, she throws a tantrum.
If your young children are used to going to bed at eight at night, do not let them stay up an extra
hour to watch a movie as you want to establish a regular time each day when all the children can
relax in their rooms.
Don't go completely against the above by being a hard-nosed mom and being too strict. This is a
time when children need love and understanding and you have to find time in your day to spend
time with them in the evenings. Take them out at least once on the weekend unless they see their
father.
2. Looking for single parenting support and help? Learn about single parent grants, financial
assistance, daycare support and get tips and advice to help you face the tough task of being a
single parent at www.singleparentcenter.net.
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