Culture and religion both often get it wrong when it comes to our sexuality. This message focuses on how that relates to married people.

1. Warning: This message is rated pg-13.
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2. I [ insert your name here ]
Promise not to use Noel’s teaching today
As a weapon against my spouse.
Really I mean it,
Seriously dude.

4. The store is composed of 6 floors,
and the men increase in value as
the shopper ascends the flights.
There is, however, a catch. As
you open the door to any floor you
may choose a man from that
floor, but if you go up a floor, you
cannot go back down except to
exit the building.

5. FLOOR 1
These men have jobs

6. FLOOR 2
These men have jobs
and love kids

7. FLOOR 3
These men have jobs,
love kids and are
really really good looking

8. FLOOR 4
These men have jobs,
love kids, are really
really good looking and
help with the housework

9. FLOOR 5
These men have jobs,
love kids, are really really
good looking, help with
the housework and have
a strong romantic streak

10. FLOOR 6
You are visitor No.
3,456,789,412 to this floor.
There are no men on this floor.
This floor exists solely as proof
that women are impossible to
please. Thank you for shopping
at The Husband Store and
have a nice day.

11. FLOOR 1
These women love sex

13. Marriage is a civil ceremony

14. marriage is a civil ceremony
If a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged to
anyone and has sex with her, he must pay the
customary bride price and marry her.
exodus 22:16

15. marriage is a covenant

16. marriage is a covenant
Here is another thing you do. You cover the LORD’s
altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he
pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t
accept them with pleasure.
malachi 2:13

17. marriage is a covenant
You cry out, “Why doesn’t the LORD accept my
worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the LORD
witnessed the vows you and your wife made
when you were young.
malachi 2:14
But you have been unfaithful to her, though she
remained your faithful partner, the wife of your
marriage vows.

18. marriage is a covenant
But you have been unfaithful to her, though she
remained your faithful partner, the wife of your
marriage vows.
malachi 2:14

19. marriage is a covenant
Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body
and spirit you are his.
malachi 2:15

20. marriage is a picture of jesus
and the church

21. marriage is a picture of jesus
and the church
And what does he want? Godly children from your
union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the
wife of your youth.
malachi 2:15

22. marriage is a picture of jesus
and the church
“For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of
Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her
with cruelty,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies.
malachi 2:16

23. Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with
this question: “Should a man be allowed to
divorce his wife for just any reason?”
matthew 19:3

24. “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied.
“They record that from the beginning ‘God made
them male and female.’”
matthew 19:4-6
And he said, ‘This explains why a leaves his father
and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two
are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two
but one, let no one split apart what God has
joined together.”

25. And he said, ‘This explains why a leaves his father and
mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united
into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no
one split apart what God has joined together.”
matthew 19:5,6

26. Fission - The splitting of an unstable atomic
nucleus into two or more nuclei.
dictionary.com

27. “Then why did Moses say in the law that a man
could give his wife a written notice of divorce
and send her away?” they asked.
matthew 19:7

28. Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as
a concession to your hard hearts, but it was
not what God had originally intended.”
matthew 19:8
And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and
marries someone else commits adultery—unless
his wife has been unfaithful.”

29. “And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and
marries someone else commits adultery unless
his wife has been unfaithful.”
matthew 19:9

30. Jesus’ disciples then said to him, “If this is the
case, it is better not to marry!”
matthew 19:10

31. “Not everyone can accept this statement,”
Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps.”
Some are born as eunuchs, 19:11 12 been made
matthew some
eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry
for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let
anyone accept this who can.”

32. “Some are born as eunuchs, some have been made
eunuchs by others, and some choose not to marry
for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let
anyone accept this who can.”
matthew 19:12

33. “I wish everyone were single. just as I am. But
God gives to some the gift of marriage, and to
others the gift of singleness.
I Corinthians 7:7

34. Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter
than wine. How fragrant your cologne; your name
is like its spreading fragrance. No wonder all the
young women love you!
songs of songs 1:2,3

35. dwø;d
dod — “Carouse, swing, rock, fondle, love,
and to move by thrusts and pushes.”

36. How happy we are for you, O king. We praise your
love even more than wine.
songs of songs 1:4

37. How right they are to adore you.
songs of songs 1:4

38. I am dark but beautiful, O women of Jerusalem—
dark as the tents of Kedar, dark as the curtains
of Solomon’s tents. Don’t stare at me because I
am dark — the sun has darkened my skin.
songs of songs 1:5,6

39. My brothers were angry with me; they forced
me to care for their vineyards, so I couldn’t
care for myself — my own vineyard.
songs of songs 1:6

40. How beautiful you are, my darling,
how beautiful! Your eyes are like doves.
songs of songs 1:15

41. You are so handsome, my love, pleasing beyond
words! The soft grass is our bed; fragrant
cedar branches are the beams of our house,
and pleasant smelling firs are the rafters.
songs of songs 1:16,17
Song 2:1
I am the spring crocus blooming on the Sharon
Plain,
the lily of the valley.

42. I am the spring crocus blooming on the
Sharon Plain, the lily of the valley.
songs of songs 2:1

43. Like a lily among thistles is my darling
among young women.
songs of songs 2:1

44. Like the finest apple tree in the orchard is my
lover among other young men. I sit in his
delightful shade and taste his delicious fruit.
songs of songs 2:3

45. Promise me, O women of Jerusalem,
by the gazelles and wild deer,
not to awaken love until the time is right.
songs of songs 2:7

46. Promise me, O women of Jerusalem,
by the gazelles and wild deer,
not to awaken love until the time is right.
songs of songs 3:5

47. Your teeth are as white as sheep, recently shorn
and freshly washed. Your smile is flawless,
each tooth matched with its twin.
songs of songs 6:6

48. Awake, north wind! Rise up, south wind! Blow on my
garden and spread its fragrance all around. Come
into your garden, my love; taste its finest fruits.
songs of songs 4:16

49. I slept, but my heart was awake when I heard my
lover knocking and calling: “Open to me, my
treasure, my darling, my dove, my perfect one.”
songs of songs 5:2

50. But I responded, “I have taken off my robe.
Should I get dressed again?
I have washed my feet. Should I get them soiled?”
songs of songs 5:3

51. “The biochemical urge we call the sex drive comes
in two basic styles: aggressive and receptive. The
aggressive sex drive is controlled not just by
testosterone, as most people think, but by
Theresa Crenshaw
vasopressin, DHEA, serotonin, dopamine, and LHRH as
well. (I have no idea what that means…I just felt
smarter by reading it). The receptive sex drive…
has been overlooked altogether. Receptive
doesn’t necessarily mean passive but available,
and perhaps willing, but without the initiative to
pursue sex.”

52. vasopressin, DHEA, serotonin, dopamine, and LHRH as
well. The receptive sex drive…has been
overlooked altogether. Receptive doesn’t
necessarily mean passive but available, and
perhapsTheresa without the initiative to
willing, but Crenshaw
pursue sex.”

53. perhaps willing, but without the initiative to
pursue sex.”
Theresa Crenshaw

54. My lover tried to unlatch the door, and my heart
thrilled within me. I jumped up to open the door for my
love, and my hands dripped with perfume. My fingers
dripped with lovely myrrh as I pulled back the bolt.
songs of songs 5:4,5

55. I opened to my lover, but he was gone! My heart
sank. I searched for him but could not find him
anywhere. I called to him, but there was no reply.
songs of songs 5:6

57. Yes, it is good to live a celibate life. But because
there is so much sexual immorality, each man
should have his own wife, and each woman should
have her own husband.
I corinthians 7:1-5
1Corinthians 7:3
The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual
needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s
needs. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to
her husband, and the husband gives authority over
his body to his wife.

58. The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs,
and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.
The wife gives authority over her body to her
husband, and the husband gives authority over his
I corinthians 7:1-5
body to his wife.
1Corinthians 7:5
Do not deprive each other of sexual relations,
unless you both agree to refrain from sexual
intimacy for a limited time so you can give
yourselves more completely to prayer.

59. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations,
unless you both agree to refrain from sexual
intimacy for a limited time so you can give
yourselves more completely to prayer.
Afterward, corinthians 7:1-5 again so
I you should come together
that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of
your lack of self-control.

60. Afterward, you should come together again so
that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of
your lack of self-control.
I corinthians 7:1-5

61. Your Husband Needs to be Wanted
- Shaunti Feldhahn, for women only

62. Your Husband Needs to be Wanted
Choose to love him in the way he needs
- Shaunti Feldhahn, for women only

63. Your Husband Needs to be Wanted
Get into it
- Shaunti Feldhahn, for women only

64. Your Husband Needs to be Wanted
Get into it
“We want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed.”
- Shaunti Feldhahn, for women only

65. Your Husband Needs to be Wanted
Make sex a priority
- Shaunti Feldhahn, for women only

66. Your Husband Needs to be Wanted
If you need help, get it.
- Shaunti Feldhahn, for women only

68. “For guys, it seems, sex provides relief or escape
from exhaustion. For women, we have to pull
ourselves out of exhaustion in order to want to
have sex.”

69. It’s not about you!

70. It’s not about you!
Love your wife the way Jesus loves the church

71. It’s not about you!
Warm her up

72. It’s not about you!
Help her around the house

73. It’s not about you!
Don’t take “Not tonight” personally--use it as a
learning tool