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Why Always Is Never
A Good Idea!
Andy Hunt
Practical Wellbeing

© Andy Hunt, Practical Wellbeing 2013
What to expect
This webinar is about how to:
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Beliefs and how they are formed

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One common form of limiting belief

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How to tackle those kinds of belief using EFT
Problem: Life Is Complicated

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Solution: Simplify

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How Do We Simplify?

Generalise Experience
Is There A Dog?

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Warning!
Generalisations
Have Side Effects

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One Word Limitations
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Very common

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Rarely noticed

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Subtly limiting

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Easy to change

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Meet The Universals
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Always
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody – Everybody hates me
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody – Everybody hates me

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Nobody
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody – Everybody hates me

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Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody – Everybody hates me

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Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me

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Everything
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody – Everybody hates me

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Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me

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Everything – Everything goes wrong
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody – Everybody hates me

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Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me

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Everything – Everything goes wrong

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Nothing
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody – Everybody hates me

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Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me

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Everything – Everything goes wrong

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Nothing – Nothing I do seems to work
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody – Everybody hates me

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Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me

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Everything – Everything goes wrong

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Nothing – Nothing I do seems to work

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All
Meet The Universals
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Always – I always get it wrong

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Never – He never listens to me

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Everybody – Everybody hates me

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Nobody – Nobody pays any attention to me

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Everything – Everything goes wrong

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Nothing – Nothing I do seems to work

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All – All men are selfish
The Consequences
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Creates mental
blinkers

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The Consequences
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Creates mental
blinkers
Sets your
expectations

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The Consequences
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Creates mental
blinkers
Sets your
expectations
Changes your
behaviour

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Everybody Hates Me
What if this were true?
Everybody Hates Me
What if this were true?
You would be:
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Suspicious of everyone you met
Everybody Hates Me
What if this were true?
You would be:
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Suspicious of everyone you met.

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On your guard with other people.
Everybody Hates Me
What if this were true?
You would be:
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Suspicious of everyone you met.

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On your guard with other people.

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Reluctant to trust anybody
Everybody Hates Me
What if this were true?
You would be:
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Suspicious of everyone you met.

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On your guard with other people.

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Reluctant to trust anybody.

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Waiting for a sign that the didn't like you.
Everybody Hates Me
What if this were true?
You would be:
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Suspicious of everyone you met.

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On your guard with other people.

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Reluctant to trust anybody.

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Waiting for a sign that the didn't like you.

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...
BUT ...
How can “Everybody hates me” be true?
There are more than 7,000,000,000 people on Earth
If there are more than 7,000,000,000
people on Earth
How can the 99.99999% of people,
who have never met you, hate you?
They don't even know who you are!
How To Soften A Universal

Search for the exceptions to the belief
that are being ignored or can't be seen
Exceptions

Everyone hates you …
except the people who don't
Exceptions
Everyone hates you …
except the people who don't
He never listens to me …
except when he does
Exceptions
Everyone hates you …
except the people who don't
He never listens to me …
except when he does
All men are selfish …
except the ones that aren't
Exceptions
Advantages:
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Acknowledges perceived reality
Exceptions
Advantages:
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Acknowledges perceived reality

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Invitation to find counter-examples
Exceptions
Advantages:
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Acknowledges perceived reality

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Invitation to find counter-examples

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You don't need to know what the
counter-examples are
Exceptions
Advantages:
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Acknowledges perceived reality

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Invitation to find counter-examples

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You don't need to know what the
counter-examples are
It's very simple: no psychoanalysis, psychic
abilities or therapeutic intuition needed.
To make a good thing even better
Just add tapping!
Exception Tapping
Exception Tapping

Even though everybody hates me,
I accept myself and how I feel x 3
Exception Tapping
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EB: Everybody hates me ...
Exception Tapping
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EB: Everybody hates me ...

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SE: except the people who don't
Exception Tapping
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EB: Everybody hates me ...

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SE: except the people who don't

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UE: Everybody hates me ...
Exception Tapping
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EB: Everybody hates me ...

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SE: except the people who don't

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UE: Everybody hates me …

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UN: except the people who don't
Exception Tapping
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EB: Everybody hates me ...

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SE: except the people who don't

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UE: Everybody hates me …

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UN: except the people who don't

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CH: Everybody hates me ...
Exception Tapping
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EB: Everybody hates me ...

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SE: except the people who don't

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UE: Everybody hates me …

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UN: except the people who don't

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CH: Everybody hates me …

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CB: except the people who don't
Exception Tapping
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EB: Everybody hates me ...

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SE: except the people who don't

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UE: Everybody hates me …

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UN: except the people who don't

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CH: Everybody hates me …

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CB: except the people who don't

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UA: Everybody hates me ...
Exception Tapping
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EB: Everybody hates me ...

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SE: except the people who don't

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UE: Everybody hates me …

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UN: except the people who don't

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CH: Everybody hates me …

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CB: except the people who don't

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UA: Everybody hates me …

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TH: except the people who don't
Exception Tapping Examples
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Always – I always get it wrong, except when I
don't.
Exception Tapping Examples
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Always – I always get it wrong, except when I
don't.
Never – He never listens to me, except when
he does.
Exception Tapping Examples
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Always – I always get it wrong, except when I
don't.
Never – He never listens to me, except when
he does.
Nobody – Nobody wants what I'm offering,
except the people who do.
Exception Tapping Examples
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Always – I always get it wrong, except when I
don't.
Never – He never listens to me, except when
he does.
Nobody – Nobody wants what I'm offering,
except the people who do.
All – All men are selfish, except the ones who
aren't.
Exception Tapping Examples
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Always – I always get it wrong, except when I
don't.
Never – He never listens to me, except when
he does.
Nobody – Nobody wants what I'm offering,
except the people who do.
All – All men are selfish, except the ones who
aren't.
Nothing – Nothing goes right for me, except
when it does.
How Does Tapping Help?
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Loosens the original belief
How Does Tapping Help?
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Loosens the original belief

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Eases the search for counter examples
How Does Tapping Help?
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Loosens the original belief

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Eases the search for counter examples

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Brings the belief and the counter examples
together
How To Use Exception Tapping
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Identify the belief
How To Use Exception Tapping
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Identify the belief

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Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 1
How To Use Exception Tapping
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Identify the belief

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Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10

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Use the Exception Tapping routine
How To Use Exception Tapping
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Identify the belief

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Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10

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Use the Exception Tapping routine

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Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10
How To Use Exception Tapping
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Identify the belief

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Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10

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Use the Exception Tapping routine

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Say the phrase out loud – score from 0 – 10

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If necessary “rinse and repeat”.
Benefits
If you loosen the universal belief you will have:
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Clearer perceptions
Benefits
If you loosen the universal belief you will have:
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Clearer perceptions

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More flexible thinking
Benefits
If you loosen the universal belief you will have:
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Clearer perceptions

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More flexible thinking

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More flexible behaviour
Does Exception Tapping Work
On Everything?
Does Exception Tapping Work
On Everything?
Yes, it works on everything …
... except when it doesn't!
What next?
How often to you use words like always, never,
everbody, nobody etc?
What next?
How often to you use words like always, never,
everbody, nobody etc?
Personal practice suggestion:
When you find yourself thinking or saying one of
these word, take a few moments to tap it out to
give yourself more personal freedom and
flexibility.
Shameless Plug
My good friend Masha Bennett and I are running
a one day workshop devoted to working with
limiting beliefs using EFT.
The workshop is in York on Saturday,
November 16th, 2013
www.ChangeYourMindWithEFT.co.uk
The Next Webinar
Next week's webinar is all about “can'ts” and
“shoulds” and ways of tackling them with EFT.
I hope to see you then.
Thank You!

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