The document provides an overview of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It discusses each habit in turn, beginning with Habit 1 of being proactive. It explains the difference between reactive and proactive mindsets and behaviors. Habit 2 is to begin with the end in mind, focusing on having clear goals and priorities based on your values. Habit 3 is to put first things first, emphasizing time management and prioritizing important tasks over urgent ones. Habit 4 is to think win-win, seeking mutual benefit in relationships and interactions. Habit 5 is to seek first to understand, then be understood, highlighting the importance of active listening. Habit 6 is to synergize, recognizing the value that

1. 7 Habits of
Highly Effective People

2. What did you do when you got
out of bed today?

3. What is a habit?

4. Good
habits
Neutral
habits
Bad
habits

5. What is a paradigm?
Split into 2 groups

7. The way you see something, your
point of view or belief.
The way we understand and
interpret the world.

8. It is like a map in our head.
We assume that the way we
‘see’ things is the way they
really are or the way they
should be.

9. If… Then….
• If I ________, then I will be happy.
• If I get this job, then I will be happy.
• If I get married, then I will be happy.
• If I pass this test, then I will be happy.

10. Psychologists have found that
happiness actually leads to success

11. Inside-out

13. Sow a thought, reap an act;
Sow an act, reap a habit;
Sow a habit, reap a character;
Sow a character, reap a destiny.

14. The thought manifests as the word; The
word manifests as the deed; The deed
develops into habit; And habit hardens into
character. So watch the thought and its ways
with care, And let it spring from love. Born
out of concern for all beings.
Buddha

15. First, we make our habits,
then our habits make us.

16. Habit 1:
Be Proactive

17. REACTIVE vs PROACTIVE

18. Proactive
Reactive
• Proactive people
make choices
based on
principles and
values
• Reactive people
make choices
based on
emotions, feelings,
their moods and
on impulse

19. Stimulus
Response
• Bad traffic or
weather
• Bad boss
• Laid off
• Quarrel with
partner
• Quarrel with
family member
• Get angry and
sad
• Feel powerless
• Cry and moan
• Take stress out
on friends
• Get drunk

20. Circle of
concern
Circle of
influence

22. How do you define yourself?

23. Everything can be taken
from a man but one
thing: the last of the
human freedoms — to
choose one’s attitude in
any given set of
circumstances, to
choose one’s own way.
- Viktor Frankl

24. Stimulus
• Bad traffic /
weather
• Bad boss
• Laid off
• Quarrel with
partner
• Quarrel with
family
member
Freedom
to choose
• Selfawareness
• Imagination
• Conscience
• Independent
will
Response
• Stay positive
• Look for new
job
• Cool off
• Work things
out
• Remember
that we love
each other

25. Proactive
Reactive
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I choose to
I can
I prefer
I will
Let’s look at our
alternatives
I have to
I can’t
They won’t let me
I’ll try
If only

26. Reactive people feel like
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Victims
Are easily offended
Blame others
Get angry and say things they regret
Whine and complain
Wait for things to happen to them
Change only when they have to

27. Proactive people
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Are not easily offended
Take responsibility for their choices
Think before they act
Bounce back when something bad happens
Always find a way to make it happen
Focus on things they can do something
about and not about the things they can’t

28. Be proactive.
“I am in control.”

29. 1. Do you use reactive language?
– “I can’t…”
– “I have to…”
– “Why can’t they…”
How can you be proactive in each
situation?

30. 2. Identify something outside your circle of
control that you are always worrying
about.
Now, decide to drop it.
The thing I can’t control that I always
worry about is….

31. 3. Do something today that you have wanted
to do but never dared.
Leave your comfort zone and go for it.
The thing I have always wanted to do but
never dared is….

32. 4. If I were 5% more proactive, I would….

33. Habit 2:
Begin with the End in Mind

34. It’s time for dinner…

35. All things are created twice;
first mentally, then physically.

36. What about your life?

37. If you don’t plan for your future,
someone else will.
Decide on your own goals and values.

38. What happens when
you don’t begin with
the end in mind?

39. Top 5 regrets of the dying
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true
to myself, not the life others expected of
me.
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my
feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

40. Means goals  End goals

41. Means goals  End goals

42. Means goals  End goals
Scholarships
Dream Class
Skilled
employment
All young
Cambodians
empowered
to achieve
their dreams

43. Means goals  End goals
“I want to
help people”
“I want to
work in an NGO”
“I want to
open a school”
“I want to
be a teacher”

44. Means goals  End goals
“I want to
be a teacher”
“I want to
work in an NGO”
“I want to
open a school”
“I want to
help people”
*S.M.A.R.T. goal-setting
applies when setting
means goals

45. Focus on the end goals

47. Habit 3:
Put first things first

48. Habit 1: You are in the driver’s seat
Habit 2: Decide where you want to go
Habit 3: How to get there

49. Things which matter most
must never be at the mercy of
things which matter least.

50. http://www.youtube.com/watch
?v=Lpau5YXk46Y

52. What are your big rocks?

53. Two factors to define any activity
1. Urgency
An activity is urgent if you or others feel that
it requires immediate attention.
2. Importance
An activity is importance if you personally
find it valuable, and if it contributes to your
mission values, and high-priority goals.

54. Urgent
Not urgent
Not important
Important
1 The Procrastinator
2 The Prioritizer
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• Planning and goal-setting
• Project report due in a
week
• Relationships
• Self-improvement,
exercise
Crisis
Project report due today
Deadlines
Meetings
Last-minute plans
3 The Yes-Man
4 The Slacker
• Unimportant phone calls
• Meeting other people’s
expectations
• Interruptions
• Some meetings
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Too much TV
Surfing the internet
Facebook
Shopping

55. Urgent
Not important
Important
1 The Procrastinator
Leads to:
• Stress
• Burnout
Not urgent
2 The Prioritizer
• Planning and goal-setting
• Project report due in a
week
• Relationships
• Self-improvement,
exercise
3 The Yes-Man
4 The Slacker
• Unimportant phone calls
• Meeting other people’s
expectations
• Interruptions
• Some meetings
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Too much TV
Surfing the internet
Facebook
Shopping

56. Urgent
Not important
Important
1 The Procrastinator
Leads to:
• Stress
• Burnout
Not urgent
2 The Prioritizer
• Planning and goal-setting
• Project report due in a
week
• Relationships
• Self-improvement,
exercise
3 The Yes-Man
4 The Slacker
Leads to:
• Short-term focus
• Feel out of control
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Too much TV
Surfing the internet
Facebook
Shopping

57. Urgent
Not important
Important
1 The Procrastinator
Leads to:
• Stress
• Burnout
Not urgent
2 The Prioritizer
• Planning and goal-setting
• Project report due in a
week
• Relationships
• Self-improvement,
exercise
3 The Yes-Man
4 The Slacker
Leads to:
• Short-term focus
• Feel out of control
Leads to:
• Irresponsibility
• Fired from jobs

58. Urgent
Not urgent
Not important
Important
1 The Procrastinator
2 The Prioritizer
Leads to:
• Stress
• Burnout
Leads to:
• Vision
• Balance
• Discipline
3 The Yes-Man
4 The Slacker
Leads to:
• Short-term focus
• Feel out of control
Leads to:
• Irresponsibility
• Fired from jobs

59. Urgent
Not urgent
Not important
Important
1 The Procrastinator
Leads to:
• Stress
• Burnout
REDUCE
3 The Yes-Man
AVOID
Leads to:
• Short-term focus
• Feel out of control
2 The Prioritizer
Leads to:
• Vision
• Balance
• Discipline
INCREASE
4 The Slacker
LIMIT
Leads to:
• Irresponsibility
• Fired from jobs

60. Put first things first
Exercise

62. Activity

64. Habit 4:
Think win-win

65. Win-Lose
• Competitive mindset
• More for you is less for me
• Use of position, power, credentials,
possessions or personality to get
one's way
• Examples:
- Jealous of other people’s success
- Using other people for your own
gain

66. Lose-Win
• Always give in
• Set low expectations
• Compromise standards
• Give in to peer pressure
• Buries feelings

67. Lose-Lose
• Misery loves company
• Revenge
• “I don’t care what
happens to me as long
as _______ doesn’t do
well”

68. Win-Win
• The All You Can Eat Buffet
• “I can win, and so can you”
• There is plenty of success to go around
• Sees life as cooperative, not competitive
• Seeks mutual benefit

70. How to think win-win
• Starts with YOU
• You must be secure and confident in yourself
• If you are extremely insecure it is hard to
think win-win because you are threatened by
others successes. These people get jealous
easily.

71. Avoid the “Tumor Twins”
• Competing
• Comparing

72. Competing
• Healthy
 Compete against yourself
 Challenge to do your best
• Unhealthy
 Tie your self-worth to winning, fear of failure
 Willing to win at any cost

73. Comparing
• Comparing yourself can become an addiction
• You feel superior one moment and then
inferior the next moment

82. Abundance mentality
Scarcity Mentality
There’s only one pie
Abundance Mentality
There is plenty for
everybody
Sense of worth and
Define themselves form
security comes from being within
compared
Deep inner sense of
worth and security
Someone else’s success
Someone else's success is
means their failure
our success – sharing it

83. Examples

84. Habit 5:
Seek first to understand,
then be understood

85. Game

86. A short poem on listening
When I ask you to listen to me
And you start giving me advice,
You have not done what I asked.

87. A short poem on listening
When I ask you to listen to me
And you begin to tell me why
I shouldn’t feel that way,
You are trampling on my feelings.

88. A short poem on listening
When I ask you to listen to me
And you feel you have to do something
To solve my problem,
You have failed me,
Strange as that may seem.

89. A short poem on listening
Listen! All I ask is that you listen.
Don’t talk or do – just hear me.

90. 5 poor listening styles
1. Spacing out
2. Pretend
listening
Wandering off when someone is
speaking to us
Pretend by making comments like
“yeah”, “sounds great”, etc
3. Selective
listening
Listening to only the part of the
conversation that interests us
4. Word listening Only listen to the words someone is
saying, not the meaning behind them
5. Self-centered
listening
Listen but see everything from our
point of view

91. Obstacles to listening
1. Judging
2. Advising
3. Probing
Judging what the other person is
telling us
Giving advice instead of listening
Digging up information the other
person isn’t willing to share

92. Identify the listening styles

93. Genuine listening
• Higher form of listening
• Leads to real communication
• Listen to not only what is said, but to what
is not said
• Watch body language, tone, and feeling
reflected in someone’s voice
• Listen to understand

94. Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears
Body
language
53%
Words
7%
Tone of
voice
40%

95. Facts
Emotions
Values & beliefs

96. Mirroring
• Stand in their shoes
• Practice mirroring
• Reflect back to the person what they just
said, but in your own words
• Shows them you understand what is
going on without judging

97. Mirroring phrases
• “So, as I see it…”
• “I can see that you’re feeling…”
• “So, what you’re saying is…”

98. Reflect facts, emotions, values
You feel
You feel
You feel
You feel
Intensity
a little bit
quite
very
extremely
Emotion
sad/angry?
helpless?
stressed?
Embarrassed?
Example:
“I just don’t understand my boss. One minute he says
one thing and the next minute he does the opposite.”
“You feel very confused by him?”

99. Reflect facts, emotions, values
Example:
“The people at school are so fake! All they care about is
showing off their phones and new clothes. Image is all
that matters to them.”
“You are frustrated with people at school because
authenticity is important to you.”
Example:
“I think he is a very nice guy. He’s so
thoughtful, sensitive, and kind. I also really enjoy talking
to him.”
“You really like him.”

100. Reflect facts, emotions, values
Example:
“I just don’t know how I am going to get all this math
homework done before tonight’s game especially since I
don’t get most of this stuff you taught us today.”
“You are feeling frustrated and stuck…You are feeling
frustrated and stuck with math you don’t know how to
do and you’re worried that you won’t figure it out before
you go to the game.”

101. Listening
• Mirror
– “You felt a little anxious”
• Clarify
– “Did I hear you correctly?”
• Ask open-ended questions
– “When did you first start to feel this way?”
• Summarize
– “So what I heard you say was…”

102. Active listening practice

103. Now, seek to be understood

104. Habit 6:
Synergize

105. Synergy is everywhere
• You have been a part of synergy in many
forms
– Nature
– Group projects
– Music group
– Working at PEPY
– Living in society

106. Strengths
Experiences
Knowledge
Religion
We are all different
Friends
Beliefs
Education
Attitude
Family

107. True colors/
working style

108. What is diversity?

109. What is synergy?

110. Synergy is:
It is not:
• Celebrating
• Tolerating
differences
differences
• Teamwork
• Working
independently
• Open-mindedness
• Thinking you’re
• Finding new and
always right
better ways
• Compromise

111. How do you handle diversity?
1.
Shun
Afraid of differences. Convinced that their way
of life is the ‘best’ or ‘right’ or ‘only’ way.
2. Tolerate
Believe everyone has a right to be different.
“Don’t bother me and I won’t bother you.”
3. Celebrate
Value differences. Celebrate differences.
Difficult to do on every issue.

112. Roadblocks to celebrating differences
1. Ignorance
• You don’t know what other people
believe, how they feel, or what they
have been through.
• Someone has a disability and you ask
them what it is like. They don’t know
what it is like not to have a disability.

113. Roadblocks to celebrating differences
2. Cliques
• Nothing wrong with being with people
you are comfortable, but cliques
exclude people that aren’t just like you
• Breaking into a clique isn’t hard, just
lose your identity and assimilate and
suffer superiority complexes

114. Roadblocks to celebrating differences
3. Prejudice
• Although we are created equally, we
are not treated equally
• Have you ever been pre-judged based
on skin color, your clothes, your
accent, where you live
• Prejudices are learned

118. Finding the “High” Way
• Compromise
• Cooperation
• Synergy
1 + 1 = 1.5
1+1=2
1+1=3
– The Whole is greater than the sum of its
parts
– Creative cooperation

119. Getting to Synergy – Action Plan
1.
2.
3.
4.
Define the problem or opportunity
Their way (seek first to understand)
My way (seek to be understood)
Brainstorm (create new options and
ideas)
5. High Way (find the best solution)

120. Role play

121. Habit 7:
Sharpen the saw

122. A man was struggling in the woods to saw
down a tree.
An old farmer came by, watched for a
while, and then quietly said, “What are you
doing?”
“Can’t you see?” the man impatiently
replied, “I’m sawing down this tree.”

123. “You look exhausted,” said the farmer. “How
long have you been at it?”
“Over five hours, and I’m beat,” replied the man.
“This is hard work.”
“That saw looks pretty dull,” said the farmer.
“Why don’t you take a break for a few minutes
and sharpen it? I’m sure it would go a lot faster.”

124. “I don’t have time to sharpen the saw,”
the man says emphatically. “I’m too
busy sawing!”

125. 4 key areas

126. Balance all 4 areas
• If your tires are out of balance, all 4 will
not wear evenly
– It’s hard to be friendly (social) when you’re
exhausted (physical)
– When you are motivated and in tune with
yourself (spiritual) , it’s easier to focus on
your studies (mental) and to be more
friendly (social)

127. Physical
• Exercise
–Quadrant 2 activity
• Eat well
• Get enough sleep

128. Mental
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Read
Learn a new skill
Teach
Write
Solve puzzles
Discuss ideas with friends

129. Social / emotional
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Spend time with family
Spend time with friends
Call home
Say thank you to someone
Plan social activities
Laugh
Show someone you care

130. Spiritual
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Meditate
Write a journal
Spend time alone
Listen to music
Volunteer
Find a peaceful spot
Watch children and birds

131. Now, it’s your turn!