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1. Would You Program Your Brain for High Self-Esteem?
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If you are having trouble with your low self-esteem, the first place you should start is your
brain. You need to train it to accept praise from others, and to praise itself as well.
Is it possible to condition and program our brains the same way we would on a computer? The
answer is yes! (And don’t worry, you don’t need high-tech skills to do it!) We are conditioning
our brains every day, without realizing it. We do this when we use phrases and expressions to
talk about ourselves. The little chatter in your head that says, “This I can do, this I can’t, this I’m
good enough for, this I’m not,” etc. can make or break your self-esteem.
Why does this little voice have so much power? Because, if we analyze it, these opinions about
ourselves don’t come from us. they come from years ago, when the first chatter was children,
parents, and others evaluating us according to their standards. Gradually, their voices became
the one we use to talk to ourselves! Think of it as living in a certain area for so long that you
begin to pick up the same accent as the locals.
So, do you have a problem with speaking in public, because you are extremely self-conscious
about your voice? Well, chances are that somewhere in your past, someone teased and judged
you about your voice, and now that opinion has been taken up by your brain as true.

2. This is how smart your brain is: it can take up the smallest instances and fool you (and itself)
into making them valid. However, if it’s smart enough to do this in the first place, it’s smart
enough to reverse it as well, right? To be more confident about yourself, you need to become
self-directed and watch carefully the things you say to yourself (i.e., the inner voice your brain is
supplying you with). Are there lots of critical statements? Dismissing comments? Ironic
appraisals and accusations about your own capacity?
Once you become aware of this internal negative chatter and where it can be coming from (an
unreliable source), you can see how these comments can chip away at your self-esteem. Your
communication processes (internal images, thoughts, feelings) need to screened and
moderated, so that they can be transformed into a self-building stream of positive reinforcement.
Usually, we dismiss the power of this kind of self-programming. We think that we can’t teach our
brain to think in new ways and break out of old routes of logic. If you have been raised as a
person not confident about yourself at all, you will be attuned to those negative comments and
validating them as real truths.
But you know what? Those “truths” are constructed anyway, so what is preventing you from
feeding yourself (constructing) new positive comments?
I know a person who always says things to herself like “Hey, Queen Brilliant,” and “Hey, smarty
pants,” and in those moments, she can feel how she becomes extremely happy! We all need to
create that powerful state of esteem for ourselves so that excitement and significance are
reinforced. That way, we don’t go back into old programmings, those feelings that we are not
good at anything that someone, sometime ago, installed in our brains.
We need to program our brains the same way we would a personal computer. We should install
the feelings we want, the images of ourselves we want, and the strategies to create the states
we want to exist in. Similarly, we need to scour our systems (physical, mental, and emotional)
for things that don’t belong and are only slowing us down! If we don’t, everything will be random
and eccentric; we’ll never have the ability to access good feelings on cue, and they’ll never stick
around.
I have had some wonderful results as I teach these new “programming” or conditioning
techniques to my clients and readers. It’s not an instant process, because you actually have to
reinforce the nerve cells in your brain while you reinforce your good behavior. However, just by
teaching them that low self-esteem is never permanent, they are gaining better self-esteem
and self-awareness , and feel like completely new people because of it! It’s a great thing to see!
If you have low self-esteem and are struggling to find solutions, please contact Coach Nora
today for a coaching session, where you’ll learn more about re-programming the negative
messages that are keeping you miserable!
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