This document provides steps for recovering joy according to Dr. Nora Femenia. The 4 steps are: 1) Cancel negative emotions like sadness, anger, stress by recognizing and releasing them. 2) Love yourself by identifying and appreciating your positive qualities and successes. 3) Express joy by deeply breathing, feeling pleasure in your positive qualities, and doing spontaneous creative acts. 4) Create small daily joys by laughing, letting things go, and congratulating yourself for mistakes as learning experiences.

2. Recovering Joy
Nora Femenia, Ph.D

3. 1st Step: Cancel negative emotions
• You cannot experience joy if you focus on
sadness or anger;
• Being stressed, anxious and worried takes
your energy away;
• Recognize them and let them go!

4. 2nd Step: Love yourself
• Make an effort to identify all your positive
aspects
• Tell yourself how good you are at the things
you are good at
• Remember to appreciate each one of your
successes

5. 3rd Step: Expressing joy
• Breathe deeply and connect with your positive
aspects;
• Feel the pleasure of having them;
• Let yourself go, do something spontaneous,
silly and completely creative;
• Just for the heck of it, there doesn’t have to
be a reason, only because you are alive!

6. 4th Step: Let it go
• Remember to laugh at the world, and
yourself;
• Let the little things drop away;
• And create small joys each day;
• Find the fun in your own mistake, and forgive
yourself…
• Even better, congratulate yourself for the
learning involved in your mistakes!

7. Open the door to your joy
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8. Get to Know Coach Nora!
Nora Femenia is a conflict coach, the author of several books that will support you
in your search for personal growth and joyful, nurturing relationships... so you can
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9. Testimonial from an abused wife
• "I wish I had know from the beginning what I know now. I feel things
would have been so different, and I would been spared the amount of
pain, drama and humiliation I suffered in my married life, since according
to him: "everything was my fault”, of course.
• I was a perfect personality type to be the victim of an aggressive
boyfriend, as my mother and other relatives were too in my childhood.
Ironically, this has been the cause of my painful inability to establish a
positive self-esteem and find happiness in my life. I feel so blessed to have
found your help.
• Nora, you are a great coach. I now have permission to fight back! The
awareness you have given me has changed my life. I am no longer a victim
of other people’s aggressive behaviors, and it feels wonderful!"
• Denise Withers, Pennsylvania

10. Testimonial from a person lacking self-respect
• “I was in a miserable situation. I never understood what I did to
deserve being yelled at by my husband and made fun of when he
was drinking with his friends.
• I would make myself sick from crying; both my body and heart were
tired and I was completely unhappy.
• I didn’t understand that I had an obligation to myself to stand up and
say NO to this behavior in my husband and by any other person.
• Nora, you gave me the right to defend myself with grace. Now, he’s
actually apologizing to me and being gentler and attentive!”—
Terry Nichols, Naples, FL