1. Relationships Prepared by Miss Naugle Winter 2010

2. a relation between people; a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional connection); a state involving mutual dealings between people or parties or countries; kinship. Relationships

3. Types of Relationships 4 Types Good Bad Influential Abusive

4. Estimating, would you say most of your relationships with friends would be… Good Bad Influential Abusive

5. Equal vs. Unequal Partners The “power” of the relationship Ages and age difference tend to influence “power” in relationship Why are some older individuals attracted to younger ones?

6. If the ... About power, have you ever been in an “uneven” relationship? Yes No How can you change it?

7. Qualities of a GOOD Relationship

8. The Big Trust Honesty Equality Responsibility 4

9. Which do you feel is most important in any relationship? Honesty Trust Equality Responsibility

10. Maintaining the Good It takes HARD work to stay in good and healthy relationship. Every relationship has problems, the important thing is to work through them.

11. Communication Passive “I think I might want to go there for dinner if you like.” Aggressive “We are going there, I don’t care you don’t like seafood.” Assertive “I would really like to go to Red Lobster, I know you don’t like seafood but they have other options as well.”

12. Rules for Arguing Use “I” statements Argue the issue at hand Volume control Body language check Say what you mean, mean what you say

13. Influential Relationships A person that you will look to Can be a positive and/or negative situations Who influences you??

14. Who positively influences you more? Parents Male Friends Female Friends Siblings

15. Qualities of a BAD Relationship

16. Template Provided By Qualities of an Abusive Relationship

17. What are some “side effects” of bad and abusive relationships?

18. Have you at some point in your life questioned your self-esteem? Yes No

19. Abusive Relationships Physical Abuse Physical harm or pain on body Emotional Abuse Attacks self-esteem Sexual Abuse Sexual Harassment Unwanted sexual overtone Sexual Abuse Sexual touch without consent Sexual Assault Sexual touch without consent and threat of violence

20. power TheAbuser CONTROL

21. The Abuse Cycle

22. Have you ever been personally involved in an abusive relationship? Yes No Abstain

23. Have any of your friends been involved in an abusive situation? Yes No Abstain

24. Helping a Friend Education Expressing concern Listening and believing Don’t judge Encourage without blame Talk to trusted adult/counselor Pass along information Offer to go to help with them

25. Rebuilding After the Bad Getting “back on your feet” may take time. It is important to focus on yourself before you move forward and settle for something less again.