محمد العوضي أكثر الناس

The collective work of Muhammad Hazem Sherif

Contemporary pornography addiction: (CPA): a silent
epidemic

‘’ Pornography robs men of themselves. It robs them
of the chance to be the kind of men they know they
can be. ‘’

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Table of contents:
1st part
1. The secret behind habit creation
2. The difference between habits and
addictions
3. Contemporary pornography addiction
4. External factors affecting exposure to
sexually explicit material
5. Negative consequences of consuming CPA
6. Wrong beliefs surrounding CPA


1. The secret behind habit creation
The pillars of any given habit

Reward

Routine

Cue


‘’ Simply, we discontinue doing what is reward-
free such as confiding to parents who do not
listen, continue doing what is averagely
rewarding such daily habits of tooth-brushing,
snacks-eating, and TV-watching and become
obsessive about elevated sources of pleasure
such as junk food, pornography, medicating
relationships, drugs, shopping, etc. ‘’


‘’ Craving is the anticipation of the reward
triggered at the presence of the cue. The
power of the craving rises in proportion to
the power of the reward. Thus, the more
powerful the reward, the more powerful
the cravings. ‘’ (Tooth brushing example)


2. The difference between habits and
addictions:
Habits Addictions:
1: Moderate, negligible cravings 1: Intense, consuming cravings
2: Moderate, normally 2: Powerful, extremely
satisfying rewards overwhelming rewards
3: Could be dismissed with 3: Could be dismissed with
average efforts strenuous efforts (withdrawal
4: Does not damage or symptoms)
intervene with other life 4: Damages and intervenes
aspects with other life aspects
5: Mild negative consequences 5: Extreme and life-threatening
6: Change could be easily negative consequences
inspired by awareness or 6: Change could be inspired by
slight-to-moderate negative personal tragedy or another
consequences person’s tragedy.


Hallmarks of an addiction:
(Steve Sussman and Alan N. Sussman/considering the definition of an addiction)

o Loss of self-control
o Preoccupation with the behavior
o Negative consequences
o Temporary satiation


 Examples on the power of cravings in
addictive behaviors:
A. Victor B. Cline’s client (behavioral scientist with
publications in the area of the media and pornography effects)

B. Marry Anne Layden ( Psychotherapist & Director of the
Sexual Trauma & Psychopathology Program at the Center for Cognitive Therapy
at the University of Pennsylvania )

C. When do people seriously consider
quitting? (John’s AA story)


‘’ In a 1994 Harvard Study that examined
people who had radically changed their
lives, researchers found that some people
had remade their habits after a personal
tragedy such as divorce or a life-threatening
illness. Others changed after they saw a
friend go through something awful. ‘’


3. Contemporary pornography addiction

Q: Has pornography always been addictive?

‘’ Today’s pornography is shocking, violent,
and artificial delivered through a medium
that allows easily for overconsumption‘’


 Hallmarks of Contemporary porn
1. Fantasy (Distortion of expectations)
2. Novelty/limitlessness
3. Brutality (The question you asked on your FB page)
4. Addictiveness (effect on consumer)


Q: Why contemporary pornography is
addictive?

o Its
supercharged nature
o Masturbatory conditioning (Ivan Pavlov)
o The porn relationship
(The ultimate medication for negative emotions)


‘’ Imagine if all guys started smoking at age
10, and there were no groups that did not,
we would think that lung cancer is normal
for all guys. ‘’
Therefore, to know if something is
damaging, stop it and see if there is a
difference


4. External factors affecting exposure to
sexually explicit material:

Based on a research entitled, ‘’ adolescents’
exposure to sexually explicit material on
the internet ‘’ conducted by Jochen Peter and
Patti M.Valkenburg, University of Amsterdam on
745 Dutch adolescents age 13-18


‘’ Adolescents were more likely to be
exposed to sexually explicit material online
if they were (1) males, (2) were high
sensation seekers, (3) were less satisfied
with their lives, (4) were more sexually
interested, (5) used sexual content in other
media more often, (6) had a fast internet
connection, and (7) had friends that were
predominantly younger. ‘’


 Dissatisfaction with one’s life could stem
from:
1. Stressful environments
2. Continuous boredom and lack of
stimulation
3. Resentment
4. Negative self-image


5. The negative consequences of CPA:

A. Desensitization & numbed pleasure response
B. Sensitization
C. Hyperfrontality/limp self-control
D. Unwanted cravings
E. Self-esteem damage and Social anxiety
F. Possible PE/erectile dysfunction
G. Physical tiredness or fatigue
H. Beliefs distortion
I. Impaired life performance
J. Spiritual impairment
K. Relationships damage
L. Financial loss

6. Wrong beliefs surrounding CPA

 Porn is educational
 It’s temporary/Marriage will end it
 The wife has to live with that/All men are born this way
 I am a victim. It is not my fault that I have turned out
this way
 The awesome sex is porn sex
 It’s the lesser of two evils
 I need pornography to cope with life


2nd part (Healing/the addict’s efforts)

‘’ There’s nothing magical that anyone can
tell you to reverse the effects in a matter of
days. It is a journey of acceptance, patience,
persistence, and endurance. ‘’


1: The truth about CP
2: Accepting reality
3:The right mindset (With the help of your partner in recovery)
(Believing/remembering the pain/Getting back up)

4: Distress tolerance
5: Delaying gratification activities
6: Simulating & rewarding practices
7: Online protection


1: The truth behind CPI
 Awareness
 www.facebook.com/thepornfantasy
 www.fightthenewdrug.org
 www.pornharms.com
 www.yourbrainonporn.com


 Healing and recovery

• www.feedtherightwolf.org
• www.quitpornaddiction.com
• www.purifyyourgaze.com


2: Accepting reality
 Surrender

‘’ The hardest thing for an addict is to keep
remembering that he is an addict. ‘’


‘’ We admitted we were powerless over
our addiction - that our lives had become
unmanageable. ‘’ 1st step/12 steps program


‘’ It is not about the number of days you
have been free or how much control you
think you have over your behaviors. If your
heart is veiled and distanced from your
addiction reality, you are not healed. ‘’


 Tell someone else about your problem

‘’ Admitted to God, to ourselves and to
another human being the exact nature of
our wrongs. ‘’ 5th step/12 steps program


3: The right mindset
 Believing

‘’ Addictions create a mental disability as
they indulge us in disbelief about our
potentials to get better. ‘’
(Here for a Reason:Yasmeen El-Shawy at TEDxCairo 2012)


o The A-B-C-D-E model:
- Activating event
- Belief
- Consequence
- Dispute
- Exercise (ERP Practice)


 Remembering the pain

• Reasons why you want to quit
• Daily reminders
• Audio clips


 Getting back up


4: Distress tolerance


5: Delaying gratification activities

‘’ If you feel a strong emotion forcing you
to do something, practice postponing this
behavior for a short period of time. In this
way, you're weakening the ability of your
emotional brain to drive your actions. ‘’


6: Simulating and rewarding practices


7: Online protection

A. K9 web filter
B. NetNanny
C. Covenant eyes


Final point:

‘’ The addict is not a morally sick person.
He is a person with a powerful problem
that needs help. ‘’


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