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3. “Companies with the most women
in senior management positions
had a 35% higher return on
equity and a 34% higher return
to shareholders.”
– Catalyst Study
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4. yet...
Only 15 Fortune 500 companies (3.0%)
and 28 Fortune 1000 companies (2.8%)
are run by women. Only 20% of top
management positions in the U.S.
are held by women.
– CNNmoney.com, May 2009
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5. and:
“Women who adopt a
masculine, ‘alpha-female’
approach in the office
earn more [and get
promoted more] than
than their more passive
female colleagues.”
– Businessweek, July 2010
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6. by the way:
“When women bully,
they choose fellow
women as targets
71% of the time.”
– Workplace Bullying
Institute (quoted by
Time.com)
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7. “the
feminization
of leadership”
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8. overcoming the
“credibility gap”
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12. poll: where are you?
• just right
• always needs to win • never needs to win
• doesn’t listen • only listens
• doesn’t trust • too trusting
• loud • quiet
• talks very fast • talks very slowly
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30. do you ask for
permission to
speak up?
Can I ask a question?
I just want to add one thing
Would you mind if I said
something?
I have an idea I’d like to
share, if you don’t mind
May I add something?
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31. “blah, blah, blah...” “Be in the moment...
“present...” “The Secret...”
“The Law of Attraction”
lose the
“psychobabble”
rambling & “I feeeeel...”
nervous chatter
“I’m suuuuch an Aquarius and... and... and...
(giggle)”
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33. not effective
blames you for issues
leadership (it’s
that aren’t yours
not about you)
often leads to
“psychobabble”
(i.e., “feel,”
“think,” “believe”)
“I” childish
takes focus off the facts
* How To Say It For Women
Phyllis Mindell, Ed.D.
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36. only
just
you know
really
in my opinion
sort of
kind of
apparently
I’m not an expert, but
I may not be qualified, but
but
maybe
I guess
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37. “the job is too complex for the time given”
_________time __complete______
_____have enough ___ to ______ that job”
“I don’t
“nice job on closing that deal”
__like the___________that ____
“I _____ way you closed ___ deal”
“who was supposed to clean up?”
_____ office wasn’t cleaned __
_______that the_______________up”
“I noticed
“our team will do a great job on this project”
________about _________
“I feel good ____ this project”
* How To Say It For Women
Phyllis Mindell, Ed.D.
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38. volume, tone,
tempo & inflection
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39. which is preferable?
lower higher
slower vs faster
louder softer
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44. “Everything is great.
“Thanks for doing such a Just perfect.”
great job. Really, thanks.
“It’s not like you do anything
anyways.”
“Whatever you
say.”
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45. the
fake smile...
(the real one too)
•we often use to “soften”
•men can’t read well
•smiling when angry
•passive aggressive
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46. • be solution-oriented
• address sarcasm straight-up “was
that meant to be sarcastic?”
• ask for alternate behavior
• use active listening to uncover the
real issue (ask!)
• talk about that (honestly)
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50. Humility
Modesty
Shyness
Bashfulness
Constraint
Coyness
Demureness
Diffidence
Humbleness vs.
Inhibition
Innocense
Meekness
Lack of pretension
Purity
Quietness
Reserve
Self-effacement
Timidity
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51. How do you
respond to
compliments?
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52. what will you work on to
communicate more powerfully
(without being a you-know-what)?
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