13. Spouse: Yes, it’s almost a waste of time. Therapist: Any other thoughts or beliefs about it? Spouse: Yes, I also think that I will be placed in a position of expending a lot of energy toward making the marriage work, and then the joke will be on me when we still end up in divorce. So, I view it to some degree as a trap. Therapist: So, you believe that going ahead in marital therapy will only result in making a fool of you. Spouse: Yes, I do and, therefore, I am reluctant to believe my wife when she says that she wants to try.
14. Therapist: What is your belief about change in general? Spouse: Well, basically, if you want to know the truth, I truly feel that people basically remain the way they are and are impervious to change, even though they might state that they wish to change. I believe in the old adage, “ A leopard never changes its spots .” Therapist: I see. Then your underlying belief is that change is futile. Therefore, nothing can improve your relationship.