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How to Save Your Marriage ALONE
1. How to Save Your Marriage
ALONE
He doesn’t seem to
care about
salvaging your
marriage.
Can you save your
marriage alone?
By Lisa Penn
Http://How-to-Save-Marriage.org
2. Marriage is a 2-way
street and when a
relationship is in
crisis, both sides
are supposed to do
their best to it from
slipping away for
good.
3. Sadly, many spouses get their
heart broken when they find out
that their partner is not doing the
same effort or even not trying at
all to save the marriage.
4. Sometimes the spouse
is just looking for a
way out and doesn’t
want to salvage the
relationship. But
many times, he or she
is too depressed,
confused or wants
to avoid more
conflicts.
5. • A spouse who is reluctant to work on the
marriage may be in a place where he or
she has lost hope that the relationship
can be salvaged. Your spouse may feel
the marriage is too far gone for any efforts
to actually result in a positive outcome.
• The only thing that is within your power is
your commitment to the relationship,
and the actions you take.
6. Step #1: Deepen Your Own
Commitment
• Regardless of the effort your
husband or wife is or is not
making in working to save your
marriage, you can strengthen
your own efforts in committing
to salvaging the relationship.
• You may have already been
pulling double-duty in terms of
giving your marriage
everything you’ve got. Now, if
you want to save your
marriage, you may need to
draw on your inner reserves of
strength and give a little bit
more.
7. No one can decide for you what your
relationship is worth, and what
measures you’ll go to in order to save
it. But if you feel strongly about saving
your relationship, deciding that you’re
committed to do so will help you feel
empowered.
8. Step #2 - Be A Best Friend
A lot of couples find that as
their relationship has
gone on in time, their
roles have become more
adversarial than
supportive. If you have a
best friend outside of the
marriage, think of times
when that friend has been
down. What type of
support have you
offered them?
9. • It can be easy to forget that your husband or wife may
need a friend—in you. Examine your relationship and
see if both of you have forgotten how to be a friend to
one another.
• Again, you can only control your actions, but this is a
way to lead by example. Your actions, such as making
positive changes in how you talk to and behave with your
spouse, may be the catalyst needed to get your husband
or wife to want to make changes, as well. Taking a more
friendly approach can create a “safe” environment, one
where your husband or wife may begin to trust that
things really can improve.
10. Step #3 - Work on Yourself
You may wonder how you
can give your “all” to the
relationship and still have
time for you. Part of
giving in a relationship is
being strong within
yourself. You need to
nurture yourself as much
as your relationship,
because a healthy
relationship requires
healthy partners.
11. Many couples become adversarial because
one or both spouses can become
resentful, feeling they’ve given up
everything for the relationship and
there has been nothing left to give to
their self. It’s critical to carve time for
yourself, examining your thoughts and
emotions and working through your own
internal struggles, as well as nurturing
your own hopes and dreams.
12. How to Save Your Marriage When
You’re the Only One Trying
Your husband has
chosen the immature
cop out and no longer
wants to fight for your
marriage. But you
haven’t. You want to
save your marriage,
but how can you do it
without him on board?
13. You CAN “love you husband back
to your marriage”, but it requires
that you KNOW the right steps to
take if you really want to make
that happen.
14. This book, which I can personally reco
, will show you new ways to
connect emotionally, how to
rebuild love and respect again,
how to open up without getting
hurt and how to see the lasting
results, even if you are the only
one trying.
15. Don’t wait, act NOW, before it’s
too late.
Start here:
http://How-to-Save-Marriage.org