This presentation describes traditional bullying and the consequences that impact individuals in today\'s society.

1. BY: MS. K. WILSON, COUNSELOR Traditional Bullying

2. What Do These People Have in Common?

3. Not only are they celebrities, but they were also victims of bullying. These individuals had the opportunity to become successful and share their story with others. ANSWER

4. What is Bullying? A negative action when someone intentionally inflicts, or attempts to inflict, injury or discomfort of another. A student is being bullied or picked on when another student says nasty and unpleasant things to him or her. It is also bullying when a student is hit, kicked, threatened, locked inside a room, sent nasty notes, and when no one ever talks to him/her.

5. Who Are Bullies? Children who are bullies usually demonstrate a strong sense of self-esteem. They like to feel powerful and in control. They often come from homes that use physical punishment to discipline. Caregivers of bullies are typically uninvolved and lack warmth. Children who bully are often defiant toward authority figures and are apt to break the rules.

6. Bullying includes the following: Harm is intended. There is an inbalance of power. There is often organized and systematic abuse. It is reproductive, occurring over a period of time; or it is a random but serial activity carried out by someone who is feared for the behavior. Hurtful experiences by a victim of bullying can be external (physical) or internal (psychological).

7. Continuum of Behavior Physical bullying: Behavior that intentionally inflicts bodily harm (hitting, pushing, punching, kicking). Emotional bullying: Word or verbally orientated and includes using words to humiliate or hurt the victim (name calling, teasing, racial slurs, insults). Relational bullying: Bullies attempt to harm the relationships of the victims. It’s often peer oriented, which includes peer exclusion and rejection through rumors, lies, embarrassment, and manipulation. This type of bullying is closely related to emotional bullying that occurs among girls.

8. Bullying Versus Play The difference lies in the relationship between the bully and the victim, and the intent of interaction. In play, children usually do not use their physical strength, whereas the bully often does. Children often regroup after they play, whereas they part ways following bullying. Children often choose their roles and engage in role reversal (good guy, bad guy) whereas in bullying roles often remain stable. Victims of bullying do not voluntarily participate in activities in which there is an inbalance of power.

9. Common Bullying Locations Bullying does occur away from school, especially on the school bus. A major predictor of where bullying occurs in unsupervised and unmonitored time. Common locations include hallways, classrooms, restrooms, playgrounds, cafeterias, locker rooms, and bus loading zones.

10. Types of BulliesThe Aggressive Bully Initiates aggression Characterized as fearless, coercive, tough, and impulsive Inclinations toward violence and desire to dominate Shows little empathy Openly attacks victims Enjoys having control over others Sees victim’s behavior as provocative regardless of the victim’s intentions Views world through paranoid lens Pushing or hitting, threatening physical harm, stealing money, lunches, or materials, trapping victims in hallways or bathrooms

11. The Passive Bully Less common Tends to be dependent on the more aggressive bully Can be insecure and anxious Seeks the attention and acceptance of aggressive bully May value the norm of aggression and violence Is likely to join in if there is an indication that there is an award for bullying Lacks a defined social status among peers Is referred to as a follower Common behaviors are being present and supporting the aggressive bully’s actions, copying the actions of aggressive bully, using indirect methods to bully such as a name calling without the bully’s presence

12. Relational Bully Most common among females Is effective in girls’ social groups Often attempts to gain social status and power through the exclusion of others Intentionally isolates peers from social activities and events When upset with a peer, “gets even” by excluding the person from the peer group Manipulates social relationships to get something.

13. Common behaviors include: Spreading rumors or lies about a peer. Attempting to get others to dislike the peer. Excluding others from social activities on the playground, lunch table, or during after-school events. Threatens not to be friends with a peer unless the peer does what the bully wants.

14. What Do These People Have In Common?

15. ANSWER These individuals are victims of bullying, but unfortunately; they will not have the opportunity to share there stories with others. As a result of being victimized by their peers, their lives were shortened by suicide and other acts of violence.

17. Basketball Player

18. Football Player

19. Soccer Player

20. Constantly harassed by classmates. Accused him of being “gay”

21. Mother found him in his room with an extension cord around his neck

23. Types of Victims Passive Most frequent Feel abandoned and isolated Feel more nervous, anxious, and insecure, and insecure than their peers Are cautious, sensitive, and quiet Often lack physical skills in comparison to bullies Have low self-esteem Display emotional outburst (crying) Proactive Set out to deliberately provoke the bully Are more active, assertive, and confident than passive victims. Create management problems within the classroom Engage in distracting behaviors that may provoke irritation and tension, resulting in negative reactions from others May engage in this behavior to get the attention of the rest of the class in an inappropriate attempt to gain acceptance

24. Types of Victims Cont… Provocative Are a higher risk of negative developmental outcomes (peer rejection and suicide) Are unpopular among peers but often do not suffer from low self-esteem May associate with bullies to increase their social status Often receive positive reinforcement from bullies and peers through attention May learn aggressive strategies by modeling the bullies’ actions and employ these tactics with their more vulnerable victims Relational Frequently female Are usually not physically threatened or abused Are excluded from meaningful peer interactions and peer social activities Are hurt by indirect aggression in the form of social manipulation Are often overlooked because of indirect nature of bullying Are more common as children age and develop verbal skills

25. Types of Victims Cont… Bystanders Witness the act of bullying Tend not to tell an authority figure for fear that they will be the bully’s next target Experience fear and apprehension, especially if bullying goes unpunished Often feels helplessness, sadness, guilt for not doing anything to stop it Experiences a “Catch 22” and may carry guilt for years Can develop “learned helplessness”

26. Victim Response to Bullying Avoiding or ignoring conflict Non-victim responses Avoid giving bully an emotional payoff Be physically and verbally assertive, not aggressive Do something unexpected Strengthen existing friendship and make new friends

27. Bullying by: By Chelsi D., Houma, LA The truth is simpleWe mean it allWe joke and grin but, When will it endNot one person, And not one gangWe all hate the sameAnd we are all to blameSome call it bullyingOthers say it's name callingI call it what I wish it was notIt's human nature and it will not stop. We criticizeWe analyzeBut do we everTurn to seeWe are all differentNever made the sameSome laugh, some point, some call namesSo who is the one to blame?The jocks, the freaks, The preps, the geeks,We all say thingsAnd later respond, that’s not what I mean

28. What Will You Do To Stop It? Website Information For more information on bullying, please visit the following websites: www.bullying.org www.stopbullyingnow.com Thanks for your attention!