2.  Wife  Babysitter
 Daughter  Therapist
 Sister  Nurse
 Aunt  Accountant
 Friend  Granddaughter
 Coach  Daughter-in-law
 Teacher  Chaperone
 Church member  Student
 Chef  Sister-in-law

3.  Role: a part you play in your relationship
 Relationship: the bond or connection you
have with other people
◦ Acquaintances
◦ Friends
◦ Family

4.  Communication  Compromise
◦ We will discuss all ◦ Problem solving
about this next class method in which
each participant
 Cooperation gives up something
to reach a solution
◦ Working together for
that satisfies
the good of all
everyone
◦ “Cheaper by the
Dozen”

5.  Person #1 is the ONLY person who may talk,
but cannot touch anything!!
 Person #2 CANNOT talk. He/she may only
use ONE hand and can only touch
marshmallows
 Person #3 CANNOT talk. He/she may only
use ONE hand and can only touch toothpicks

7.  Trustworthiness:  Caring:
◦ Do what you say you ◦ Show sympathy
will do and/or empathy
 Responsibility:  Citizenship:
◦ borrow something, it ◦ Be a good neighbor,
breaks, you replace help by shoveling
it. walks, etc.
 Fairness:  Respect:
◦ take turns, share ◦ Listen when someone
is talking

8. Respect: A feeling of deep admiration for someone
or something obtained by their
abilities, qualities, or achievements
 Respect for Self  Respect for others
◦ When you respect ◦ Listen
yourself you are ◦ Considerate others
more likely to seek feelings
relationships where ◦ Mutual trust: being
others will treat you dependable
with respect. ◦ Realistic in
expectations: cant
always be top priority

9.  A way to gage the strength or weakness of
your relationship.
 Much like a real checking/saving account at a
bank.
◦ As you make “DEPOSITS” the relationship
strengthens.
◦ When you make “WITHDRAWALS” the relationship
weakens

10.  We have a different “bank account” with
everyone we know.
◦ These relationships can be in the „positive‟ or the
„negative‟
 It requires conscious deposits in order to
maintain the relationship

11.  Deposits tend to evaporate or be forgotten
about.
 Where withdrawals turn to stone (not
forgotten…harder to forget)
 Too many withdrawals requires even more
deposits to bring the account back into the
positive.
 We must continually make deposits if we want
our RBA to stay positive.

12.  Breaking promises  Asking for a curfew
 Gossiping about extension
others  Borrowing the
 Not listening car…again
 Being arrogant  Waiting to be told
 Losing trust to do something
 Not fulfilling
expectations

13.  Understand the  Clarify Expectations
individual
 Show Personal
 Small courtesies Integrity
and kindness
 Use the most
 Keep our important words
commitments

14.  Recognize what is
important to that
person and take
interest in it
 Ex: Sam discusses
the stock market
with his dad who is
a stock-broker

15.  These are often
underrated, but
kind notes, winks,
hugs, etc quickly
add up in the RBA.
 These small acts
demonstrate
appreciation

16.  Doing WHAT we say
we will WHEN we
say we will
 Promising to be
somewhere & not
showing up =
withdrawal

17.  Critically important in
avoiding
contention, misunder
standings, & hurt
feelings
 Don‟t read minds or
expect others to read
yours.
 Ex: Moms idea of a
clean room might be
different than yours.

18.  Demonstrate
character in all your
actions &
relationships
 Be trustworthy &
honest. Don‟t
gossip

19.  Small, but
important words
make all the
difference in a
relationship.
 Ex: Please… Thank
you… I love you…
I‟m sorry… How can
I help…?