This document provides dating advice and guidelines for teenagers. It discusses the purposes of dating as social, establishing roles, and finding a mate. It lists must-haves and can-do-withouts in a dating partner. The document warns of drama, fickleness, and making a fool of oneself when dating. It advises focusing on principles over a boyfriend/girlfriend and provides red flags and advice on abusive relationships. Guidelines include dating in own age group, getting to know many people, dating in groups, and setting physical boundaries.

1. Dating

2. Journal #11(A) #10 (B)
• List 5 must haves in a person you want to date
• List 5 “can do without!!”

3. •DATING Basic
PRinCipaLs!!!!!!

4. 3 purposes of dating:
• ** We date for social reasons
• ** We date to establish male & female roles
• ** We date to eventually get married/find a
mate :)

5. •Universal Dating
Questions

6. What should I expect?
• ** Expect drama
• ** Expect fickleness, pickiness, and
indecisiveness
• ** Expect to make a fool of yourself

7. What should I expect?
• ** Expect drama
• ** Expect fickleness, pickiness, and
indecisiveness
• ** Expect to make a fool of yourself

8. Who should I go out
with?
• ** Begin with the end in mind
• ** Establish your non-negotiables VS would
likes

9. What if I never get asked
out?
• ** Ask yourself some questions:
• Am I friendly with everyone?
• Instead of waiting to be asked, could I ask
someone instead?
• Am I making excuses for not dating?
• Am I doing everything I can to make myself
attractive?

10. What is the biggest mistake
teens make when dating?
• BECOMING CENTERED ON YOUR BOYFRIEND
OR GIRLFRIEND
• ** Make sure you are PRINCIPLE centered
rather than overly focused on your
boyfriend/girlfriend

11. How will I know when it's
time to break up?
• There are different types of relationships
• ** Win-Win: The relationship is good for both of
you. Enjoy it!
• ** Win-Lose: The relationship is good for you but
bad for them. Fix it or get out!
• ** Lose-Win: The relationship is bad for you but
good for them. Fix it or get out!
• ** Lose-Lose: The relationship is bad for both of
you. Get out fast!

12. RED FLAGS!!!!
• ** Ultimatums
• ** The savior complex
• ** Lies
• ** "You'll never find anyone else who will love
you."
• ** "If you leave me, I'll hurt myself."

13. How do I get out of an
abusive relationship?
• HAVE A PLAN
• Break up over phone, tell family members and
friends your plan, seek help to deal with emotional
feelings after the break up.
• ** Talk with a trusted adult if necessary. Get that
adult on your side during the break up.

14. •INTELLIGENT
DATING

15. Group Do’s & Don’ts
• Hanging out
• Dating
• Being a boyfriend or girlfriend
• Breaking up
• Post Break up

16. DON’T date too young
• ** 16 is a good age to start dating. You can
drive yourself, you are more mature, etc.
However, you can start dating later if you
don't want to start at 16.

17. DO ate people your own age
• ** You are at the same phase in life as people
your own age

18. DO..Get to know lots of
people
• ** Remember our cars... we want to test drive
lots of different cars :)

19. DO date in groups
• ** Group dating can help to minimize awkward
situations
• ** Group dating can also help you avoid
dangerous situations from being alone

20. DO Set your own
boundaries
• 5. Set your own boundaries
• ** We all have a sex drive, and it is NORMAL! We need to control our natural sex
drive by setting physical boundaries for ourselves. It is normal to want to hold
hands and kiss people you date; however, without boundaries you are more likely
to get caught up in dangerous intimate situations.
• ** It is crucial that boundaries be set. Anything past kissing and you are playing
with fire

21. • ** Avoid settings where this could be more of
a temptation...being alone in the
house, staying out too late, a parked car, dark
places where you are alone, etc.

22. • ** The difference between a kiss and making
out is the length of time. 10-15 seconds is a
good kiss. Anything over 15 seconds turns into
making out and from there, it is a slippery
slope.

23. • ** The funnel of intimacy--this is the natural progression...hence
BOUNDARIES:
• -- Hug
• -- Hold hands
• -- Cuddle
• -- Kiss
• -- Make out
• -- Petting
• --Intercourse

24. • It is crucial that boundaries be set. Anything
past kissing and you are playing with fire

25. Do HAVE A PLAN
• Have a plan when dating.

26. DATING Basic PRinCipaLs???????
BE YOURSELF 

27. Love Language