The document discusses how having a servant's heart for one's spouse is essential for a marriage to last. It argues that one must be willing to serve and consider their spouse's needs and desires over their own. It notes that many lose this servant attitude after getting married, instead wanting to be served. It provides suggestions for regaining a servant's heart, such as openly committing to serve one's spouse, confessing a lack of service, and practicing living for one's spouse with God's help. The overall message is that marriage can only endure if both spouses adopt the attitude of a servant to their partner.

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MARRIAGE CANNOT
SURVIVE WITHOUT A
SERVANT‟S HEART FOR
EACH OTHER
“You have to lose in order to gain.
You don‟t come into marriage to be
served but to serve”
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November 22,
2013

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To have a marriage that will last,
you must have a Servant's Heart
for each other .
 One with a servant‟s heart will
consider the will of others over
their own will and desires.
 Now this is the part that gets down
to the real daily issues that all of
our marriages face.
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John 15:9-17
"As the Father has loved me, so have I
loved you. Now remain in my love. If you
obey my commands, you will remain in my
love, just as I have obeyed my Father's
commands and remain in his love. I have
told you this so that my joy may be in you
and that your joy may be complete. My
command is this: Love each other as I have
loved you. Greater love has no one than
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this, that he lay down his life for his 22, 2013

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You are my friends if you do what I
command. I no longer call you servants,
because a servant does not know his
master's business. Instead, I have called
you friends, for everything that I learned
from my Father I have made known to you.
You did not choose me, but I chose you
and appointed you to go and bear fruit-fruit that will last. Then the Father will give
you whatever you ask in my name. This is
my command: Love each other. (NIV) 22, 2013
Friday, November

5. A. What Is a Servant 's Heart?
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1. In Ephesians 5 the Bible makes
very clear that wives are to submit
to their husbands. Husbands really
love this but in the same passage
is another statement.
 2. The Scripture also points out
that we are to love one another as
Christ loved the Church.
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3. Paul makes it very simple that if
both partners would fulfill their
responsibility then both partners
would want to submit and both
would have a servant‟s heart and
be willing to serve one another.
 4. In the passage we realize this is
for all Christians especially those
who are married.
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5. So what is a servant's heart? It
is one who will consider the will of
others over their own will and
desires. How can you practice that
on a daily basis?
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8. B. When Did You Have One?
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1. This shows the big difference
between dating and marriage.
 2. When you understand this, then
you can see why so many couples
get a divorce.
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3. Before a couple marries, they have
a servant 's heart to the person they
want to marry and as soon as the
wedding ceremony is over, they want
to kick their feet up and expect
everything to be done for them. This
is very common amongst the African
men. They want to be served. They
married to be served. That they are
there to be served. This isFriday, November 22, 2013
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4. Think back to when you first
married:
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a. Isn't that true?
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b. Try hard to think.
 During courting and just before
marriage the man was a servant,
willing to do anything to please the
woman.
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5. That is when you had the
servant 's heart. You did before
you married your companion
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12. C. What Makes Us Lose It?
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1. As soon as the marriage is over,
or when the vows have been said,
some are over as soon as they say
I do.
 2. For some reason after the
marriage we leave the servant‟s
heart behind.
 3. Why do we lose it? We forget
who we are — a servant.
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13. D. How Do You Regain It?
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1. Be willing to make a choice.
 a. Start loving your spouse, not
just yourself.
 b. Quit questioning about whose
job it is to do certain things.
 c. A true servant 's heart does not
get all upset by saying, “That 's
your job and this is my job.”
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d. Knock down the barriers that
prevent a servant‟s heart.
 e. Quit drawing lines and quit being
a legalist.
 f. Quit keeping score on one
another.
 1 Corinthians 13:5
 “Love is not rude, it is not selfseeking, it is not easily angered, it
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Servants are not to be score
keepers.
 g. When you love your companion
love them like Christ loves the
church.
 h. Quit worrying about your image
and worrying what people will say
when they see you serving your
spouse. Be there for each other
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2. Openly tell it to your
companion. They need to hear it
from you.
 3. Confess the lack of it.
 4. With God 's help, practice living
your life for your companion.
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Friday, November 22, 2013

17. SURELY
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You are a somebody in Christ; a
servant for others and especially
for your spouse.
 Is there enough evidence to
convict you that you are a servant
of those in your house?
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18. FINALLY
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It is my prayer and throwing a
challenge to married people to
understand that marriage can only
last for a life time when we devoid
the spirit of „ I am the boss‟ and let
Christ spirit in us be like him, A
SERVANT.
 Let ' s pray a prayer of commitment
to God and handle our spouses as
being servants to them.
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Friday, November 22, 2013