1. RELATIONSHIPS & VIOLENCE/ RHS: Qtr. 3 CHPTS. 6,8,9 A Healthy Relationship Communication and Respect Peers and Friendships Abstinence Conflicts , Violence & Abuse

2. Define: **Relationship A bond or connection you have with other people **Friendship A significant relationship between two people that is based on: trust caring Consideration **Role The part you play in your relationships The Healthy Relationship (chpt. 6/L.1)

3. **Cooperation Working together for the good of all **Compromise Problem solving method in which each participant gives up something to reach a solution DEFINITIONS: CHPT. 6/L.1

4. ***There are 3 Styles of communication: (SEE p.pts. 12 & 13) Aggressive Being overly forceful, pushy or hostile/ may involve bullying or intimidation Assertive Expressing your views clearly and respectfully/ standing up for your rights and beliefs while respecting others and their rights—helps come up with a solution and improve relationships with others Passive Being unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm manner/ usually a person who dislikes conflict and/or arguments Effective Communication (chpt. 6/L.3)

5. A. Assertive Refusal: State your position/ stand your ground/ suggest alternatives to those pushing you-sometimes this takes more than one effort Examples: body language, strong eye contact, ***ultimately must be willing to walk away—when things don’t work How does a teen deal with Negative Peer Pressure?

6. Passive and Aggressive Responses: Passive: **Ultimately you are viewed as a pushover even though it seems easier and more friendly Aggressive: This is so overly forceful that it usually involves Yelling shouting shoving Other verbal and physical forces These reactions are harmful physically and emotionally Role Play p.203 8.7 Cont… dealing with Peer Pressure

7. 1. **Speaking Skills: Say what you mean to the person you need to say it to (I and You messages next slide)) 2. **Listening Skills: You can make sure messages get through by active listening (How to practice….next slide) 3. **Nonverbal : How you say something and the body language behind it can say far more than the words themselves (examples next slide) What are 3 skills we can learn to communicate effectively

8. Ways to practice 1. Don’t interrupt: Give your full attention to the speaker 2. Show interest: Eye contact/ nodding/ positive comments 3. Restate what you hear: 4. Ask questions: Clarifies thoughts **5. Show empathy: Let the other person know that you can relate/ avoid passing judgment **What is active listening:Paying close attention to what someone is saying and communicating

9. DEFINE: **Harassment—Persistently annoying other people **Manipulation—An indirect and dishonest way to control and influence people See 8.5/ What are some common forms of manipulation? **(See RHS slides) Threats Blackmail Flattery Bribing Mocking Guilt trips Peer Pressure and Refusal Skills(chpt. 8/L.2)

10. Avoid high risk activities Ex. **Places with alcohol and drugs **Being alone at home on a date or in an isolated place Take responsibility for your own well being Ex. **It is the only 100% method of eliminating health risks like STD’s (50% are ages 15-24) spread from person to person through sexual contact , unplanned pregnancy (BOTH HAVE LIFELONGCONSEQUENCES) **Make a deliberate decision which takes planning and self-control (actions overriding emotions) **Is it normal to have sexual feelings? Yes Can you control the reaction to these ? Yes What are strategies to help commit to Abstinence

11. Dating: **Establish healthy dating expectations/ what are some? Treat each other with respect and consideration **Be honest with thoughts and feelings—”LISTEN” Never feel pressured to go against your values **Set CLEAR limits: Examples What age will I date where will you go How will you get there what will you do **Set limits on “what is affection” PRACTICING ABSTINENCE (chpt.8/L.3)—How to stay committed

12. Affection: **Think about priorities and set limits on how much affection is okay Communication: **Discuss your limits with the person you date—Realize Movies and Television with sexual content influences your choices to be abstinent **Talk with an adult: Do they have valid suggestions Beware of online friendships and alert adults **Date a person who shares your values & beliefs How to Gain Self Control

13. **Conflicts: (L.1) Any disagreement, struggle, or fight How does conflict Escalate to violence/abuse: **A conflict that is becoming more serious **What causes this? **Power struggles: won’t leave you alone Loyalties **Jealousy & envy Property disputes Attitudes & values **Lack of respect **Is conflict normal? Yes **Can it be positive? Yes (Relationships can be strengthened) CONFLICT, VIOLENCE, ABUSE (chpt.9/ L.1-4)

14. **Practice Conflict Resolution: The process of ending conflict through cooperation and problem solving/compromise **What is negotiation? The use of communication and/or compromise to settle a disagreement **What is mediation? A neutral party coming in and helping others to resolve their conflict How to Prevent Conflicts and Respond:(chpt. 9/ L.1&2

15. Violence: Threats or actual physical force to harm another person or their property **Most violent crimes center around alcohol and drug use Gang Violence: Usually involves robbery, drug dealing, violent attacks **Teens belonging to gangs are more likely than others to commit serious crimes and acts of violence Homicide: **The willful killing of one human being by another 2nd LEADING cause of death in TEENS (#1 Car Accidents) VIOLENCE (chpt.9/L.3)

16. Rape: Any form of sexual intercourse that place against a person’s will ***Survivors need time to heal physically and emotionally. Most will suffer from fear, guilt and shame. ***Professional Help will always be needed Date Rape: One person in a dating relationship forces the other to take part in sexual intercourse (most common form of rape) Fact: 40% of female rape victims know their attacker or are romantically involved with them Tips to Avoid Rape: If you don’t know them REALLY well—don’t be alone Avoid Alcohol and Drugs Don’t leave beverages unattended Make sure you have a way home if things don’t go well RAPE/ DATE RAPE (chpt. 9/L.3 & 4)

17. North Carolina General Statute 115C-47(52) To Ensure That Certain Students Receive Information Annually on Lawfully Abandoning a Newborn Baby. Students in grades nine through 12 receive information annually on the manner in which a parent may lawfully abandon a newborn baby with a responsible person, in accordance with G.S. 7B‑500. : Give handout and answer questions on this Law…