Presentation Power Point for March 2012 Clergy Sexual Ethics training in Michigan

1. Detroit & West Michigan
Conferences
March 19, 20, & 21, 2012

2. Psalm 119:10-16
“I am single-minded in my
pursuit of you; don’t let me miss
the road signs you’ve posted.
I’ve banked your promises in the
vault of my heart so I won’t sin
myself bankrupt. Be
blessed, God; train me in your
ways of wise living.

3. I’ll transfer to my lips all the
counsel that comes from your
mouth; I delight far more in what
you tell me about living than in
gathering a pile of riches. I
ponder every morsel of wisdom
from you. I attentively watch
how you’ve done it. I relish
everything you’ve told me of life,
I won’t forget a word of it.”

4. Putting This Conversation
in Context

6. Boundary Violation – any
violation of sacred trust
“…It is not wrong because it
violates norms. It is wrong
because it violates people.”

8. Sexual
Misconduct

9. Sexual
Harassment
Sexual
Misconduct

10. Sexual
Harassment
Sexual
Misconduct
Sexual
Abuse

11. Sexual
harassment
Sexual
Misconduct
Sexual
Abuse Sexualized
Behavior

12. Power and
Vulnerability

13. Video
Power and
Vulnerability
Power and
Vulnerability

14. Questions for
Reflection

15. Power and
Vulnerability
Dating &
Friendships

16. Video
Dating and
Friendships
Power and
Vulnerability

17. Power and
Vulnerability
Dating &
Friendships

18. Power and
Vulnerability
Dating &
Friendships
Gifts

19. Power and
Vulnerability
Transference Dating &
Friendships
Gifts

23. Clergy Ethics &
Multi-Media
Technology

25. Do you have a cell
phone?

26. Three of the world’s most popular
brands online are
social-media related
Facebook
YouTube
Wikipedia

27. Video
The Growth
of Social
Power and
Media
Vulnerability

31. Perception
Privacy
Personal
Feedback

32. The Pastor,
The Internet,
AND
Pornography/Obscenity

33. Pornography/ Obscenity:
What’s the Difference?
Pornography – sexually explicit material
that portrays violence, abuse, coercion,
domination, humiliation or degradation for
the purpose of arousal
Obscenity – “hard core porn”
pornographic material that is beyond what
majority of society will tolerate

36. 1.What are your personal markers
to alert you when your energy and
spirit are low?
2.What needs do you have right
now?
3.What needs are not being met?

37. “Shadow Self”
by Carl Jung

38. Conflict
Danger + Opportunity

40. “You're blessed when you're
at the end of your rope.
With less of you there is
more of God and his rule.”
Matthew 5:3
The Message

41. M – meditation
E – exercise
D – diet
S – sleep
S - support

42. Counseling
1. In which areas are you
trained to counsel?
2. How many sessions?
3. Where do you counsel?

43. Pastoral Care Visits
1. What boundaries have you
developed?
2. Does anyone know who you
visit, where or when?
3. In what ways do you offer
compassion and care without
becoming enmeshed in the
situation?

44. Dual Relationships
1. In what ways do you guard
against dual relationships?
2. Who is your
lover/partner/spouse’s pastor?
3. What boundaries do you
establish when a dual
relationship is unavoidable?

45. Technology
1. What guidelines have you developed
regarding the use of your phone? Text
messages? To whom is your cell number
given?
2. What personal boundaries have you
developed regarding information sharing on-
line?
3. What guidelines have you established
regarding facebook “friends” who are
congregation members when you move to
another appointment?

46. 1. How do you care for yourself
spiritually, emotionally, and physically?
2. In what ways do you meet your needs
beyond the setting of ministry? List the
activities in which you engage that are
unaffiliated with your role as a pastor.
3. In what ways do you seek to meet
your needs for love, intimacy and
affirmation as a person?

47. If someone is drowning,
secure yourself before you swim
out to save them.
Otherwise both of you will drown.

50. Rev. Michelle Foster
mfoster@wnccumc.net
336-442-3844