Attraction relativity theory is a unified theory of human relationships and decision making. It proposes that love is an interdependent constant determining a rate of change.

1. Willinger, 2012
A.R.T.: Attraction Relativity Theory

2. We begin with a critique of attachment theory. For 80 years, the old language
of avoidance, attachment and security has persisted like a bad habit. We are
aware of the debilitating effects of negative words on the psyche, and yet we
have continued to label people in one of these three categories without
forgiveness and worse, we call it a “trait.”
We have reached an environmental point of no return. The planet is dying.
Forests are disappearing. Natural environments have become vacations. A
new theory of attachment is necessary for own social defense (Ein Dor &
Mikulincer).
If a person who is the first to call attention to a smoking computer also tends to
be “anxious,” then perhaps it is not a ‘positive’ by-product of a negative trait.
Rather, we intuitively begin to understand that anxiety and avoidance are
actually by-products of a natural system. A.R.T. calls this system, “The
Interdependence Constant.” It is biological, measurable, and embodied reality.

3. We hold all findings of Shaver & Mikulincer and Ein-Dor to be solid and highly
relevant at this time – it is essential that we carry forward this deep knowledge
into the evolution of attachment theory, for without it we will soon be lost in a
new language without a translation,
A.R.T. (Attraction Relativity Theory) introduces a complementary upgrade to
existing attachment theory in the tradition of John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth,
Tiffany Field, Sigmund Freud, Philip Shaver, and many others inside the
attachment disciplinary field.
ATTRACTION RELATIVITY replaces existing terms with the following:
AVOIDANT = Independent
ANXIOUS/DISTRESSED = Dependent
SECURE = Interdependent
A.R.T. ASSUMES:
1. Human beings beloing to a whole, interconnected system.
2. Every person has an irreplaceable role and purpose.
3. The interdependent constant is limitless abundance yet each
person's experience is his own, unique universe.

4. Dependent Independent
Attraction: Attraction:
Circadian Moon Cycles Circadian Sunlight
Does require another Does not require
body another body
Internal (left- insula External (right- insula
dependent) dependent)
Embodiment of fluidity Embodiment of solidity
Parasympathetic Sympathetic activation
activation

5. Simple Definition of Key Terms:
Circadian = circadian rhythms
Does/Does Not Require body = Does this system require another physical human body
in order to regulate itself?
Internal/External Insula = The left insula is internal body processes and the right insula
is external body sensations.
Embodiment of fluidity/solidity= Is the attachment partner attracting the attachment
target in a state of fluid motion (sexual intimacy) or in a state of solid fixedness (group
status or intelligence)
Parasympathetic/Sympathetic activation = Is the body relaxed or it is aroused?

6. Proof of A.R.T. (in process):
Given:
E=MC(2)
Force=Mass*Acceleration
Time=Force*Distance
Acceleration=SpaceTime*Velocity
Velocity=Acceleration*Orientation
DEFINE:
“Sync” = syncopation (mimicry=1)
“Swim” = timing (velocity of time) [see endogenous dimethyltryptamine]
“LOVE” = Long-term Ongoing Velocity of Evolution
If:
SYNC = acceleration*velocity p=1 then;
SYNC= acceleration/mass * (force * distance) [a moving human being (woman/man) *
‘flow’[self-subtraction=1, see Wolpert] (i.e. smoothness and skill)] and;

7. Proof of A.R.T. (in process):
SWIM = “viscosity of time” via slowed acceleration [DMT/phenylalanine-pineal
processes?]
Since,
Acceleration of matter is defined as matter=energy – speed of light squared, then
mind-based light is the square root of flow without distance: i.e., swim.
THEREFORE
L.O.V.E. = SYNC
√SWIM
Long-term Ongoing Velocity of Evolution = moving human being * flow [self-subtract p=1]
other-based mimicry-ego
Therefore,
L.O.V.E. of a non-moving (deceased or non-present) individual is not available in this
time-space continuum; i.e. not possible. The system must be ‘inside’ of the
observer’s time to operate.

8. Solar Circadian Rhythms and Attraction
ATTRACTION AND
INDEPENDENT ATTACHMENT:
REVEALED
BODY-INDEPENDENT
DAY
EXTERNAL
SUN
RATIONAL
HOT
FIXED
The solar circadian rhythm of the human being operates on a 25-
hour cycle. Processes are geared toward direct arousal and
physical movement for the sake of working and productivity
independently of another physical body.

9. Lunar Circadian Rhythms and Attraction
ATTRACTION AND
DEPENDENT ATTACHMENT:
HIDDEN
BODY-DEPENDENT
NIGHT
VISCERAL
MOON
SPIRITUAL
COOL
FLUID
The lunar circadian rhythm of the human being operates on a
lunar-month cycle. Processes are geared toward shedding of
excess arousal and mental movement for the sake of releasing
and renewing the body such as menstruation, sexual arousal and
“creative destruction”.

10. Lunar Circadian Rhythms and Attraction
Lesser-known than the solar cycle, the moon-cycle effects all
natural systems on earth because of cosmic gravity and angular
tilt. We can also call gravity, “attraction” and tilt, “orientation”.

11. Phase II: 1st Adolescence Phase IV: Acquiescence
Resources Stored
Conservation, Climax, Renewal, Consumption,
Consolidation, K-Strategy Restoration, Nourishment
(maximum variation with (using broken-down pieces to re-
minimum resources) construct new elements
RA OW
PI SL
D
Phase III: 2nd Adolescence Phase I: Birth
“Creative Destruction” (dividing Exploitation, Opportunity,
that which was created into smaller High-Risk, R-Strategy
parts in order to re-create) (minimum variation with maximum
resources)
Organization & Connection
Visual Structure from Holling, 1986

12. A.R.T. and the Moon, Sun and Human
Attachment relativity theory takes into account four
dimensions of reality. It is a new language to re-make
old categories of avoidance, anxiety and fixedness, or
what some call, “security.” These categories are illusions
– why? Because on this planet, time is always moving.
No category of fixedness can holistically describe any
living thing.
The four dimensions are:
LUNAR: Lunar Circadian Cycles
SOLAR: Solar Circadian Cycles
ATTRACTION: Dependence, Independence & The
Interdependence Constant
ORIENTATION: Starting Positions and Measures

13. A.R.T. and the Moon, Sun and Human
The four dimensions of A.R.T. assume:
First,
The human being is a balance between dependence and
independence. Between the two is an “interdependence
constant” (see paper).
Second,
Men and women follow the circadian rhythm of the
moon and sun (see Biology).
Third,
Attraction is possible from any moment. The only
variable factor for behavior is its starting point and
measurement (see Lorenz Butterfly).
Fourth,
L.O.V.E. (see definition) is a rate of change:
L.O.V.E. = SYNC
√SWIM

14. PART II
Tuning into Lunar Flow:
Yoga and Decision Making