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Become emotionally intelligent.
More than possessing the best cognitive skills,
“Become according to an American psychologist Daniel
Emotionally Goleman, it is having well-developed personal
Intelligent” qualities such as able to listen & accept other
viewpoints, integrate others’ ideas, and recognize
In this issue
and manage their own emotions, that make one a
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successful leader.
Finishing Well, Books 1 & 3
2 Goleman
studied
around
200
leaders
from
global
companies
and
By Bob Buford
arrived
at
this
conclusion
–
that
there
is
a
direct
correlation
between
emotional
intelligence
and
successful
leadership!
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Become Emotionally
3
Intelligent
What
is
emotional
intelligence
(EI)?
Goleman
described
emotionally
adept
people
as
those
who:
“Know
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to
manage
their
own
feelings
well
and
who
read
and
deal
Self-Assessment of 5 EI effectively
with
other
people's
feelings
across
borders
and
4
Competencies cultures.”
According
to
Goleman,
there
are
five
competencies
of
EI
that
we
should
develop:
self-­‐awareness,
self-­‐
EVENTS
regulation/management,
motivation,
empathy
&
social
5 skills/relationship
management.
PROGRAMS
(Continued
in
page
3)

2. 2
FINISHING WELL,
Books 1 & 3
By Bob Buford
FINISHING WELL, Book 3: FINISHING WELL: What
WHAT’S NEXT? People Who REALLY Live
Do Differently!
In this last of three
installments, author Bob Read Bob Buford’s interview
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times, and learns the key to differently in their second
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Elaine Cercado
of life. book’s table of contents
says a lot about the book:
I was inspired by the story of It’s about relationships &
Frances Hesselbein, former priorities (chapter 1); It’s
head of Girl Scouts of about family first (chapter 2);
America and volunteer in It’s about saying no (chapter
many other non-profit 3); It’s about giving &
organizations. She said: "I receiving a blessing (chapter
have a strong belief we are 4); Its about the power of
called to do what we do. purpose (chapter 5); It’s
And when we're called, about repositioning (chapter
we're given the energy... 6); and It’s about finding (or
You move, a door opens, creating) (chapter 7).
and you walk through that
door. In time, another door The book confirmed my
opens and you walk through definition of personal
that door.." success and affirmed the
path I’ve taken at the start
There is another section of of my second halftime. It is
the book I like entitled "The indeed assuring to know that
way out is always through" I’m on the right track to
from Robert Frost's poem. finishing well.
What a simple phrase to say
that in life, we need to go
through the challenges to Thank
you
to
my
friend,
gain faith and wisdom, and Lillibeth
Ortiz,
who
gave
me
to go through the changes these
two
books
as
gifts!
and resistance to gain
muscles.
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3. 3 (Continued
from
page
1)
one
belongs
to.
When
the
area
to
BECOME
improve
is
self-­‐management/
EMOTIONALLY Why
is
EI
important?
control,
then
he/she
needs
to
take
more
responsibility
with
how
INTELLIGENT In
today's
global
world,
where
he/she
expresses
her
feelings,
people
live
as
“global
citizens”
–
negative
or
positive.
By Elaine Cercado moving
and
working
beyond
borders
and
cultures
–
it
is
EI
that
Third
is
to
practice.
Good
practice
has
become
more
critical
to
success
makes
perfect.
Knowing
the
areas
than
IQ
(intelligence
quotient).
A
of
strength
and
improvement
is
person
could
be
the
brightest
in
the
first
step.
Consciously
doing
his/her
class
or
division
but
not
specific
steps
to
maintain
the
necessarily
get
promoted
into
a
strengths
and
improve
the
gaps
is
leadership
position
if
the
person
the
next
important
step.
It's
a
lacks
some
EI;
compared
to
a
continuous
process
and
journey.
person
who
demonstrates
high
EI
And
it
is
easier
said
than
done,
as
but
not
necessarily
the
one
with
the
one
needs
to
go
beyond
his
/
her
highest
IQ.
If
one
develops
and
comfort
zone
and
change
his/
her
demonstrates
high
levels
of
habits.
Example
would
be
a
performance
in
the
five
change
like
empathizing
more.
competencies
listed
above,
they
People
naturally
want
to
think
and
could
result
to
outstanding
talk
about
them
selves
first,
and
performances!
to
be
appreciated
or
recognized.
This
is
one
of
our
most
deep-­‐
How
can
one
become
more
seated
desires.
Hence,
to
put
emotionally
intelligent?
oneself
in
another’s
pair
of
shoes
in
every
situation
is
easier
said
The
process
I
teach
is
simple
-­‐
ALPF
than
done.
-­‐
which
stands
for
assessment,
learning,
practice,
feedback.
Lastly,
is
to
get
feedback
from
people
one
interacts
with
and
First
is
to
assess
self.
This
is
trusts.
An
honest
feedback
should
important
as
it
establishes
areas
of
lead
to
a
new
round
of
ALPF.
strengths
and
improvements.
There
Becoming
emotionally
intelligent
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several
self-­‐assessment
is
a
dynamic
process,
as
one
questionnaires
available
today
that
continuously
meets
new
and
one
may
use
to
understand
oneself
“…When a person is able to better
in
the
5
EI
competencies.
challenging
situations
in
this
Check
out
a
web
link
on
page
4
for
constantly
changing
world.
But
master emotional
one
type
of
EI
self-­‐assessment
when
a
person
is
able
to
master
intelligence, he/she can
questionnaire.
emotional
intelligence,
he/she
can
certainly drive outstanding
certainly
drive
outstanding
performances at work, Second
is
learning
to
continuously
performances
at
work,
enhance
enhance quality of improve.
As
the
saying
goes,
"half
of
quality
of
relationships
in
both
relationships in both the
problem
is
solved
when
you
personal
and
professional
lives,
know
what
the
problem
is".
When
personal and professional and
ultimately,
live
a
more
one
is
aware
that
he/she
needs
to
lives, and ultimately, live a improve
on
his/her
social
skills
then
satisfying
and
peaceful
life.
more satisfying and he/she
can
try
several
things
such
peaceful life.” as
empathizing
more,
or
researching
about
the
culture
and
traditions
of
the
network
or
group
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SELF- There are five EI people are feeling. Self-
competencies according to awareness is an essential
ASSESSMENT of 5 Daniel Goleman, as underpinning of empathy.
EMOTIONAL follows: If you are not aware of
your own emotions, you will
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• MOTIVATION. This is the
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emotions to move and
guide you towards your
goals. This ability enables
you to take initiative and to
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• EMPATHY. This is the ability
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