5. EQ and groups
Why should we care?
Effective teams
Participation, cooperation, collaboration
But behavior can’t be mandated
Photo: woodleywonderworks [link]
More at www.edbatista.com/2012/06/building-the-emotional-intelligence-of-groups.html
6. EQ and groups
3 essential conditions…
Mutual trust
Group identity (feeling of belonging)
Group efficacy (belief in value of the team)
Strongly affected by group EQ
Photo: woodleywonderworks [link]
More at www.edbatista.com/2012/06/building-the-emotional-intelligence-of-groups.html
7. EQ and groups
Individual EQ
Emotional awareness
Emotion regulation (≠ suppression)
Inward (one’s own emotions)
Outward (others’ emotions)
Photo: woodleywonderworks [link]
More at www.edbatista.com/2012/06/building-the-emotional-intelligence-of-groups.html
8. EQ and groups
High EQ individuals ≠ High EQ group
Group norms determine group EQ
Create awareness of emotion
Help regulate emotion
Operate at individual & group levels
Photo: woodleywonderworks [link]
More at www.edbatista.com/2012/06/building-the-emotional-intelligence-of-groups.html
9. Talking about
Affect labeling
Amygdala
Talking disrupts negative emotion
Talking about emotion > Thinking about emotion
feelings
Photo: Andrew Yee [link]
More at www.edbatista.com/2008/02/talking.html
10. Talking about
Group norms
Norms define what’s normative
Can we talk about feelings here?
Overcoming embarrassment
feelings
Photo: Andrew Yee [link]
More at www.edbatista.com/2008/02/talking.html
12. Safety, trust &
Critical to group development
Safety = A belief that we won’t get hurt
Trust = We mean what we say…
Intimacy = Able to make the private public
intimacy
Photo: Alex Guerrero [link]
More at www.edbatista.com/2010/03/safety.html
14. View of self & others
Work in progress
Capable of change
Carol Dweck
Mindset
Photo: jm3 [link]
More at www.j.mp/dweck99
15. Talent & intelligence
are inherent traits
Mistakes are failures or
character flaws
Negative emotional
response to mistakes
Talent & intelligence
can be developed
Mistakes are learning
opportunities
Pay close attention to
mistakes & learn
more
Fixed Growth
Mindset
More at www.j.mp/dweck99
16. Mental models matter
Stereotype threat
Perception shapes our experience
Mindset
Photo: Renato Ganoza [link]
More at www.edbatista.com/2011/12/corn-mazes-and-mental-models.html
17. Norms & EQ
Create awareness of emotion
Help regulate emotion
What norms do we have in place?
What norms would we like to try?
What will we need from each other?
Photo: woodleywonderworks [link]
25. SCARF model
& feedbackThreat to…
Status?
Certainty?
Autonomy?
Relatedness?
Fairness?
More at www.edbatista.com/2013/02/give-it-to-me-straight-effective-feedback.html
26. Use the model
When giving feedback…
Be mindful of status
Minimize uncertainty
Maximize autonomy
Build the relationship
Play fair (“the net”)
27. Use the model
When getting feedback…
Recognize our threat response
Manage our emotions
Reframe
29. The net
Stay on our side of the net
Focus on observed behavior
Disclose our response
Don’t guess at motives
Minimize social threat
More at http://j.mp/the-net
Photo: The Mighty Tim Inconnu [link]
30. Work styles
Based on your worksheet
Where am I most comfortable?
Where are others most comfortable?
What impact does this have on the team?
Photo: Alex Proimos [link]
31. Concepts #4
More on feedback…
Leveraging emotion
Building the relationship
Managing defensiveness
Soft startup
Photo: Lee Nachtigal [link]
32. Emotion and reasoning
Emotional memories stick
Just enough emotion
Highly situational
Emotion
Photo: Ivan Walsh [link]
More at www.edbatista.com/2011/07/antonio-damasio-on-emotion-and-reason.html
35. Feeling known by the other
A culture of appreciation
Mutual influence
Responding to “bids”
5:1 positive to negative
“Emotional bank account”
Relationship
More at www.edbatista.com/2007/01/john_gottman_on.html
36. Defensiveness
Form of threat response
Cognitive impairment
Feel misunderstood and want to explain
Photo: roger alcantara [link]
37. Defensiveness
When others are defensive…
Empathy is key
Restate our intentions
Focus on behavior and its impact on us
Photo: roger alcantara [link]
41. Begin with positive intent
(But no bullshit)
Emphasize mutual goals
Be aware of our own stress
Soft startup
More at www.edbatista.com/2007/01/the_value_of_so.html
42. Building the
bridgePart 1
What feedback did we just hear?
What does it motivate us to do?
Photo: Leonardo Pallotta [link]
43. Building the
bridgePart 2
What are the implications of today?
How will this impact our work?
How will we hold ourselves accountable?
Photo: Leonardo Pallotta [link]
44. Photo:seelumstrum
www.edbatista.comPhoto Credits
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of belief…
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