This document discusses self-esteem and provides tips to improve it. It defines self-esteem as how one views themselves and their value or worth. Good self-esteem is important as it gives one confidence, courage, and helps them make good choices. Factors influencing self-esteem include temperament, upbringing, peers, self-talk, and media. Tips to boost self-esteem involve challenging negative thoughts, acting confidently, asking for help, and focusing on personal strengths. The document provides steps to change self-esteem like re-evaluating beliefs about the self and adopting new, more positive behaviors and attitudes.
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Module Fifteen SELF-ESTEEM
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SELF-ESTEEM
Introduction
You can’t touch it, but it affects how you feel. You can’t see it, but it’s there when you
look at yourself in the mirror. You can’t hear it, but it’s there every time you talk or
think about yourself. What is this mysterious but oh-so-important thing? It’s your self-
esteem!
What is Self-Esteem?
To understand self-esteem, it helps to break the term into two words. Let’s look at the
word “esteem” first. “Esteem” is a fancy word for thinking that someone or something is
important or valuing that person or thing. “Self” means just that—yourself! Putting
these two words together equates to how you see yourself and how you feel about your
achievements. Self-esteem isn’t bragging about how great you are. It’s more like quietly
knowing you’re worth a lot (priceless, in fact)! It’s not about thinking you’re perfect—
because no one is—but knowing that you’re worthy of being loved and accepted.
Why is Self-Esteem Important?
Good self-esteem is important because it helps you to hold your head high and feel proud
of yourself and what you can do. It gives you the courage to try new things and the
power to believe in yourself. It lets you respect yourself, even when you make mistakes.
Good self-esteem is also the ticket to making good choices about your safety, your
feelings, your health—your whole self. Good self-esteem helps you know that every part
of you is worth caring for and protecting.
Influences on Self-Esteem
Self-esteem, sometimes called self-image, is that internal picture we hold of ourselves—it
is who WE think WE are. There are a number of factors which influence one’s self-
esteem. Among these are:
• Temperament—your inborn, natural tendencies. Temperament combined with
one’s life experiences equals personality. A person who is naturally shy may
change his/her outward behavior to appear outgoing, but the basic temperament
toward shyness always remains.
• Upbringing and parental message
• Childhood peers
• Self-talk
• Teachers
• Other family members
• Adult peers
• Significant others
• Media
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• Authority Figures
Tips for Boosting Self-Esteem
1. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” Don’t waste time or
energy worrying about potential problems; take action on what you have control
over and minimize risks for what you don’t.
2. In doing something for the first time, imagine that you have already done it.
VIVIDLY imagine your success.
3. Find someone who is already confident in that area and copy them. Model their
behaviors, attitudes, values, and beliefs.
4. Use the “as-if” frame. Act “as-if” you are confident: fake it until you make it!
5. Ask yourself, “Will this be such a big deal in the future?” Keeping things in
proper perspective diminishes fear.
6. To get what you want, ask for it. Believe people want to help you if they can.
7. Disarm the negative self-talk. Imagine a volume control and turn it down—or
off! Imagine Mickey Mouse is criticizing you. List three good things about
yourself and three things that make you feel good.
8. Learn to say “NO!” You are not alone, or crazy, or a bad person, or need to feel
guilty because you say, “No.” None of us are any good to anyone else unless we
do what is right for us first.
9. Learn to listen to your inner self. Your instincts are usually your truest guide to
your truest self. As you honor yourself, you reclaim your personal power.
10. Choose how YOU want to spend your time and how YOU want to live your life.
Not only is it all right, it is imperative that you question the things you do and
consciously choose how to spend your time and energy. It’s your life. You can
live it by design or by default. Either way, you only live once.
Changing Your Self-Esteem
Changing your self-esteem means changing how you see yourself. It involves
challenging the beliefs you have about yourself. Try these steps:
1. Sit down and write out the key points you believe to be true about yourself—all
the things that influence how you act and feel; they can be both negative and
positive.
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2. Challenge each item on this list. Is this really true? Do I feel that way, or is this
based on my perception of how I think someone else feels about me? Have I
given this too much sway in my life? How important is this to me?
3. Develop a new list of beliefs. Imagine that you get to move to a new place where
no one knows you. How would you behave differently in these new
circumstances?
4. Begin to implement these new behaviors. Reinforce to yourself that this behavior
is you—not what you said or were told before.
5. Take time to change. Beliefs about self don’t change overnight—but the effort is
worth it to create a new healthier, happier, and more confident YOU!
Conclusion
By focusing on the good things you do and all your great qualities, you learn to love and
accept yourself, and that’s the main ingredient for strong self-esteem. Even if you’ve got
room for improvement (and who doesn’t?), realizing that you are valuable and important
helps your self-esteem to shine.
I Dare You
From Oscar Bruce
I DARE YOU to resist the pressure to become ordinary and to ignore those who give you
their version of why you cannot rise above mediocrity.
I DARE YOU to free yourself from the shackles of your past conditioning, to break the
chains that bind you to false beliefs about what you can do with your life.
I DARE YOU to aim at something worth of the best that is in you. You are a better,
more capable person than you have experienced so far, or that others have led you to
believe you are.
I DARE YOU to go after what you want, pursuing what is important to you. A life that
satisfies is impossible without a sense of achievement and fulfillment.
I DARE YOU to think bigger, to act bigger, to become bigger. There are no limitations
on dreams.
From Norman Vincent Peale:
Have great hopes and dare to go all out for them.
Have great dreams and dare to live them.
Have great expectations and dare to believe in them.
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MY DECLARATION OF SELF-ESTEEM
I am me.
In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There are persons who
have some parts like me, but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore,
everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone chose it.
I own everything about me: my body, including everything it does; my mind,
including all its thoughts and ideas; my eyes, including the images of all they
behold; my feelings, whatever they may be: anger, joy, frustration, love,
disappointment, excitement; my mouth, and all the words that come out of it:
polite, sweet, or rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud or soft; and all my
actions, whether they be to others or to myself.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.
I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By doing
so, I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I can then make it
possible for all of me to work in my best interests.
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I
do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can
courageously and hopefully look for the solutions to the puzzles and for ways to
find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel
at a given moment in time is me. This is authentic and represents where I am at
that moment in time.
When I review later how I looked and sounded, and what I said and did, and how
I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting. I can discard that
which is unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting, and invent something new
for that which I discarded.
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to
others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people
and things outside of me.
I own me, and, therefore, I can engineer me.
I am me and I am okay.
Copied from the poster “I Am Me” by Celestial Arts
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SOURCES
The Essentials of Credibility, Composure, and Confidence, Skill Path Seminars, 1996.
Life Strategies: Doing What Works, Doing What Matters, Phillip McGraw, Hyperion
Press, 2000.
Self Matters: Creating Your Life from the Inside Out, Phillip McGraw, Free Press, 2003.
Web Sites:
http://www.brelaxed.co.uk--“Self- Esteem” by Michelle Pearson, 2003
http://kidshealth.org--“The Story on Self-Esteem” by D’Arcy Lyness, Dec. 2002
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles:
“FAQs on Self Image/Self Concept, by Hal Warfield
“I Dare You” by Oscar Bruce
“Say Yes to You” by Julie Fuimano
“Seven Helpful Tips to Immediately Increase Your Confidence” by Kent Sayre
“Stages of Learning to Say ‘No’” by Donna Birk
http://www.ucalgary.ca/~egallery/volume2/small.html
“Addressing Body Image, Self-Esteem, and Eating Disorders” by Kelly Small, A Peer
Reviewed Journal, Vol. 2, No. 2, March 12, 2001.
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Module Fifteen Evaluation
Self-Esteem
1. Write 2-3 positive characteristics about yourself including:
a. 2-3 physical attributes
b. 2-3 personal characteristics
c. 2-3 skills/talents
2. In your own words, define self-esteem.
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3. List three reasons why self-esteem is important.
4. Name four factors which influence self-esteem. Beside each, give a brief
statement as to how you think this influences self-esteem.
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5. List three tips for boosting self-esteem. Describe how each might be beneficial.
6. What are the five steps for changing self-esteem? Briefly discuss each.
7. What three suggestions would you give to one of your tutees who has difficulty
with low self-esteem?