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ASSERTIVENESS
                                   SKILLS: A GUIDE
                                   TO POSITIVELY
                                   SUCCESSFUL
                                   COMMUNICATION
                                   Participant Materials
       PRESENTED BY


       ROCKHURST AUDIO


       CONFERENCE SERIES,


       A DIVISION OF ROCKHURST


       UNIVERSITY CONTINUING


       EDUCATION CENTER, INC.




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                                 Copyright 2008, Rockhurst University Continuing Education Center, Inc.
Participant Notebook

      The Importance of Assertive Communication
           1. Allows you to set boundaries with aggressive people
           2. Provides an avenue for speaking up confidently on your own behalf — this enhances
              your visibility and credibility.
           3. Allows you to express your ideas and convey your value in your organization, which
              boosts your self-confidence. This behavior allows you to establish and project the image
              of a poised and polished professional.


      Key Learning Points:
           1. Appreciate the value of assertive communication and how it helps you influence your
              reputation and manage your professional image.


           2. Know what assertive communication is and make critical distinctions between it and
              aggressive communication.


           3. Understand that assertive communication isn’t a “one size fits all” fix. Get tools for
              understanding when to vary your approach based on the audience and the situation.


           4. Specific guidance on how to use assertive communication to take your career to the next
              level — learn how to toot your own horn without blowing it, so you and your work can
              be recognized, valued, and appreciated.




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Participant Notebook, continued

Mastering the How-to’s of Assertive Communication
for a Confident, Credible, Professional Image
Start, Stop, Continue

             Start             Stop                 Continue




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      Assertive Communication Is:
           • Influencing others
           • Setting your boundaries
           • Respecting your own rights while still maintaining, whenever possible, a positive
             professional relationship with the other person
           • A form of persuasive communication


      Three Elements of Persuasion
           1. Credibility
              • Credibility is other people believing that you know what you’re talking about.
              • Your professional image is entirely based on how other people see you behaving in
                moments taken completely out of context.


           2. Emotional connection
              • Emotional connection is essential when communicating with others. To emotionally
                connect, keep these ideas in mind:
                  — Everyone communicates differently and you must take your audience into
                    consideration before you open your mouth.
                  — Some people are direct and get right to the point when speaking; think of them as
                    blunt communicators, no beating around the bush here.
                  — Others are more indirect and use more words to soften what they’re saying.
                  — Some people are more people-oriented and enjoy socializing at work, and some
                    are task-oriented and prefer to focus on the work at hand rather than visit.


           3. Logic
              • When using assertive communication to project a confident, credible image,
                remember that your audience, as well as the situation, will determine the approach
                you use.


      Your reputation is based on a tiny glimpse of who you are, taken completely out of context.




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Participant Notebook, continued

The Difference Between Being Assertive and Aggressive
and How to Avoid Crossing the Line
Consider your audience. The key is to consider how that person communicates. There are four
general styles:
  1. Entertainers — direct, people-oriented, socially skilled. Their natural exuberance and
     willingness to share opinions and ideas could be perceived as overbearing (that is,
     aggressive)!
  2. Commanders — direct and task-oriented. Their to-the-point, goal-driven style could be
     interpreted as pushy, rather than assertive.
  3. Feelers — indirect and people-oriented. Their natural ability to see different perspectives
     could make them appear as wishy-washy or passive.
  4. Analyzers — indirect and task-oriented. Their ability to deeply focus and tune out social
     distractions could be misinterpreted as aloofness.


Speaking Up for Yourself Without Being Aggressive:
Use the Three C’s
  1. Clear
  2. Concise
  3. Conscientious


The goal of assertive communication moves beyond just speaking up for yourself; you must
also get your point across in a way that the other person wants to hear. You need to respect not
only your own rights, but their feelings and unique perspectives as well.
The key is to practice the Platinum Rule: Speak to others in the way they wish to be spoken to.
To be a truly effective assertive communicator, the goal is positive influence.
To face confrontation head-on and communicate professionally, remember that it is about
influence, not head-on confrontation!


Remember, Dr. Stephen Covey tells us that one of the seven habits of highly successful people is
that they seek first to understand. You should try to understand the emotions behind the words.




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Participant Notebook, continued

      How to Defend Yourself Without Letting Your
      Emotions Get the Better of You
      The key is to defend your position without sounding defensive.
           1. The hit and run — They dump on you then leave. Tell them you’d like to revisit that issue
              after you’ve finished the project you’re working on. Give yourself time to think first.
           2. The hallway ambush — They corner you as you’re on your way to do something else and
              want a response now. Tell them you’ll get back with them as soon as you’ve completed
              this deadline.
           3. The misplaced blame — Not even your fault or responsibility. Say, “I can see where you
              would be frustrated by that. Why don’t you talk with Ted about why he chose to handle
              the project like he did.”
           4. The appropriately placed (but over the top) blame — Your slip. Don’t over-apologize,
              just acknowledge it, and move on.


      How to Show Your Anger Constructively
      STOP: Winging it! Do not address the situation before you mentally rehearse it.
      STOP: Using anger too much, it dilutes the impact.


      Start:
           • See the event as an act of influence, not confrontation.
           • Give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Assume they mean well.
           • Clearly explain why it is a big deal, and connect this consequence to something that’s
             important to them.


      To help you express your anger more appropriately, use this three-step technique to be
      influential in times of conflict. Think “triple A.”
           •   Acknowledge your feelings: “I’m confused.” “I’m concerned.” “I’m frustrated.”
           •   Address the facts. No opinions, speculations, or mind reading allowed.
           •   Ask for buy-in. “What do you think?” “Can we reach an agreement?” “How does that
               sound to you?”




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Make Sure All Elements of Assertive Communication Are Congruent
Remember: Nonverbal cues win over auditory. If you are saying one thing and doing another, it
is the fastest way to lose credibility and appear weak, or worse, dishonest.


The Triple Threat That Suggests Subordinate Status and Passivity
  1. Head down
  2. Chin tilt
  3. Broad smile


Note: Gender differences with head nodding and its meaning
   • Women, “I hear you.”
   • Men, “I agree with you.”


Adaptors: Subconscious hand gestures: i.e., rubbing, patting, scratching when nervous, for
example, when giving a presentation


Solution: Go big! Bigger gestures; OK to speak louder and take strides when talking. It comes
across as confidence.




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Participant Notebook, continued

      What to Do When People Are Talking and You Can’t Seem
      to Get a Word in Edgewise
      Top tips for being heard at meetings:
           1. Be on the agenda so you have a specific time to speak.
           2. Be ready to interrupt.
               • Speak lower and louder.
               • Say the name of the person who is holding the floor.
               • Make sure the first thing you say is just an interrupter and not the most important
                 thing. ( You will likely need to repeat yourself.)
               • Watch how the people who are getting heard are going about it.
           3. Prep before the meeting.
               • Ask an advocate to back you up.
               • Ask for alliances.
               • Ask your mentor for tips.


      Earn the Respect You Deserve —
      Two Foolproof Assertiveness Techniques
           1. Purposefully seek out mentors and advocates because they can:
               • Give you the scoop on how best to present your ideas
               • Suggest people you should get to know
               • Introduce your idea at a meeting, then turn it over to you


           2. Create a professional portfolio which allows you to track letters of appreciation, list
              training you’ve attended, and contributions you’ve made to the company. This allows you
              to subtly, and in a business-savvy way, let your boss consistently know your value.
               • Every month, include a copy of the “memory jog” you give your boss
               • A month before your annual evaluation, give bullet points to your boss that highlight
                 your contributions over the past year.




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Recommended Resources

Audio CDs
The Art of Being Assertive
Building Relationships
Communicate With Confidence
How to Communicate With Power, Diplomacy, and Tact
How to Handle Conflict and Confrontation
How to Handle Difficult People
How to Reach Your Personal Best
Mastering the 7 Habits
The Power of Persuasion
Winning Without Intimidation


Manuals and Handbooks
The Assertive Advantage
Dealing With Conflict and Anger
How to Work With People
Learn to Listen
Negaholics™ No More!
Lifescripts




                  To order resources, call Customer Service at 1-800-258-7246,
                   or visit our Web site at www.NationalSeminarsTraining.com.
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Assertiveness skills

  • 1. ASSERTIVENESS SKILLS: A GUIDE TO POSITIVELY SUCCESSFUL COMMUNICATION Participant Materials PRESENTED BY ROCKHURST AUDIO CONFERENCE SERIES, A DIVISION OF ROCKHURST UNIVERSITY CONTINUING EDUCATION CENTER, INC. 0708 Copyright 2008, Rockhurst University Continuing Education Center, Inc.
  • 2. Participant Notebook The Importance of Assertive Communication 1. Allows you to set boundaries with aggressive people 2. Provides an avenue for speaking up confidently on your own behalf — this enhances your visibility and credibility. 3. Allows you to express your ideas and convey your value in your organization, which boosts your self-confidence. This behavior allows you to establish and project the image of a poised and polished professional. Key Learning Points: 1. Appreciate the value of assertive communication and how it helps you influence your reputation and manage your professional image. 2. Know what assertive communication is and make critical distinctions between it and aggressive communication. 3. Understand that assertive communication isn’t a “one size fits all” fix. Get tools for understanding when to vary your approach based on the audience and the situation. 4. Specific guidance on how to use assertive communication to take your career to the next level — learn how to toot your own horn without blowing it, so you and your work can be recognized, valued, and appreciated. TSAC0708 2
  • 3. Participant Notebook, continued Mastering the How-to’s of Assertive Communication for a Confident, Credible, Professional Image Start, Stop, Continue Start Stop Continue TSAC0708 3
  • 4. Participant Notebook, continued Assertive Communication Is: • Influencing others • Setting your boundaries • Respecting your own rights while still maintaining, whenever possible, a positive professional relationship with the other person • A form of persuasive communication Three Elements of Persuasion 1. Credibility • Credibility is other people believing that you know what you’re talking about. • Your professional image is entirely based on how other people see you behaving in moments taken completely out of context. 2. Emotional connection • Emotional connection is essential when communicating with others. To emotionally connect, keep these ideas in mind: — Everyone communicates differently and you must take your audience into consideration before you open your mouth. — Some people are direct and get right to the point when speaking; think of them as blunt communicators, no beating around the bush here. — Others are more indirect and use more words to soften what they’re saying. — Some people are more people-oriented and enjoy socializing at work, and some are task-oriented and prefer to focus on the work at hand rather than visit. 3. Logic • When using assertive communication to project a confident, credible image, remember that your audience, as well as the situation, will determine the approach you use. Your reputation is based on a tiny glimpse of who you are, taken completely out of context. TSAC0708 4
  • 5. Participant Notebook, continued The Difference Between Being Assertive and Aggressive and How to Avoid Crossing the Line Consider your audience. The key is to consider how that person communicates. There are four general styles: 1. Entertainers — direct, people-oriented, socially skilled. Their natural exuberance and willingness to share opinions and ideas could be perceived as overbearing (that is, aggressive)! 2. Commanders — direct and task-oriented. Their to-the-point, goal-driven style could be interpreted as pushy, rather than assertive. 3. Feelers — indirect and people-oriented. Their natural ability to see different perspectives could make them appear as wishy-washy or passive. 4. Analyzers — indirect and task-oriented. Their ability to deeply focus and tune out social distractions could be misinterpreted as aloofness. Speaking Up for Yourself Without Being Aggressive: Use the Three C’s 1. Clear 2. Concise 3. Conscientious The goal of assertive communication moves beyond just speaking up for yourself; you must also get your point across in a way that the other person wants to hear. You need to respect not only your own rights, but their feelings and unique perspectives as well. The key is to practice the Platinum Rule: Speak to others in the way they wish to be spoken to. To be a truly effective assertive communicator, the goal is positive influence. To face confrontation head-on and communicate professionally, remember that it is about influence, not head-on confrontation! Remember, Dr. Stephen Covey tells us that one of the seven habits of highly successful people is that they seek first to understand. You should try to understand the emotions behind the words. TSAC0708 5
  • 6. Participant Notebook, continued How to Defend Yourself Without Letting Your Emotions Get the Better of You The key is to defend your position without sounding defensive. 1. The hit and run — They dump on you then leave. Tell them you’d like to revisit that issue after you’ve finished the project you’re working on. Give yourself time to think first. 2. The hallway ambush — They corner you as you’re on your way to do something else and want a response now. Tell them you’ll get back with them as soon as you’ve completed this deadline. 3. The misplaced blame — Not even your fault or responsibility. Say, “I can see where you would be frustrated by that. Why don’t you talk with Ted about why he chose to handle the project like he did.” 4. The appropriately placed (but over the top) blame — Your slip. Don’t over-apologize, just acknowledge it, and move on. How to Show Your Anger Constructively STOP: Winging it! Do not address the situation before you mentally rehearse it. STOP: Using anger too much, it dilutes the impact. Start: • See the event as an act of influence, not confrontation. • Give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Assume they mean well. • Clearly explain why it is a big deal, and connect this consequence to something that’s important to them. To help you express your anger more appropriately, use this three-step technique to be influential in times of conflict. Think “triple A.” • Acknowledge your feelings: “I’m confused.” “I’m concerned.” “I’m frustrated.” • Address the facts. No opinions, speculations, or mind reading allowed. • Ask for buy-in. “What do you think?” “Can we reach an agreement?” “How does that sound to you?” TSAC0708 6
  • 7. Participant Notebook, continued Make Sure All Elements of Assertive Communication Are Congruent Remember: Nonverbal cues win over auditory. If you are saying one thing and doing another, it is the fastest way to lose credibility and appear weak, or worse, dishonest. The Triple Threat That Suggests Subordinate Status and Passivity 1. Head down 2. Chin tilt 3. Broad smile Note: Gender differences with head nodding and its meaning • Women, “I hear you.” • Men, “I agree with you.” Adaptors: Subconscious hand gestures: i.e., rubbing, patting, scratching when nervous, for example, when giving a presentation Solution: Go big! Bigger gestures; OK to speak louder and take strides when talking. It comes across as confidence. TSAC0708 7
  • 8. Participant Notebook, continued What to Do When People Are Talking and You Can’t Seem to Get a Word in Edgewise Top tips for being heard at meetings: 1. Be on the agenda so you have a specific time to speak. 2. Be ready to interrupt. • Speak lower and louder. • Say the name of the person who is holding the floor. • Make sure the first thing you say is just an interrupter and not the most important thing. ( You will likely need to repeat yourself.) • Watch how the people who are getting heard are going about it. 3. Prep before the meeting. • Ask an advocate to back you up. • Ask for alliances. • Ask your mentor for tips. Earn the Respect You Deserve — Two Foolproof Assertiveness Techniques 1. Purposefully seek out mentors and advocates because they can: • Give you the scoop on how best to present your ideas • Suggest people you should get to know • Introduce your idea at a meeting, then turn it over to you 2. Create a professional portfolio which allows you to track letters of appreciation, list training you’ve attended, and contributions you’ve made to the company. This allows you to subtly, and in a business-savvy way, let your boss consistently know your value. • Every month, include a copy of the “memory jog” you give your boss • A month before your annual evaluation, give bullet points to your boss that highlight your contributions over the past year. TSAC0708 8
  • 9. Recommended Resources Audio CDs The Art of Being Assertive Building Relationships Communicate With Confidence How to Communicate With Power, Diplomacy, and Tact How to Handle Conflict and Confrontation How to Handle Difficult People How to Reach Your Personal Best Mastering the 7 Habits The Power of Persuasion Winning Without Intimidation Manuals and Handbooks The Assertive Advantage Dealing With Conflict and Anger How to Work With People Learn to Listen Negaholics™ No More! Lifescripts To order resources, call Customer Service at 1-800-258-7246, or visit our Web site at www.NationalSeminarsTraining.com. TSAC0708 9