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Ed’s welcome 1
What lies ahead and also looking at the importance
of belonging
Ur say 4
Letters to the Ed
Reader writes 5
A reader values her virginity and refuses to give it up

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gB profile 6
A former groundBREAKER tells us about her challenges

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and becoming a valued member of the loveLife team
Celebs 8
Taking a look at TKZee’s journey from their split eight
years ago to their recent reunion

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Staying in school 10
Why it’s important to leave school with a Matric -
and tips to help you stay

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Taking a closer look at the intricacies of the printing
industry
Marching for Education
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Emulating the 1976 protest generation, learners took
to the streets marching to get libraries in their schools
2010 Soccer 30
Who does the World Cup belong to?
A helping hand 48
loveLife's goGogetter programme helps aids orphaned
and vulnerable children

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This is my hood 18
Getting to know Phoenix, KwaZulu Natal
Global ID 20
We travel to Uganda and meet up with a young man
who started his own youth empowerment initiative
Generation chat 22
Change is inevitable and sometimes traumatic – one

about of those instances is when it happens to your body

loveLife
loveLife promotes healthy, HIV-free
living among South African teenager
a sustained high-powered multi-me s. Organised under the auspices of
dia campaign with nationwide commun the loveLife Trust, loveLife combine
ity-level outreach and support programm s
are implemented by a national yout es for youth. loveLife’s programmes
h volunteer service corps known as
non-government organisations, 5600 groundBREAKERS in partnership
schools and 500 government clinic with more than 150 community-based
African Government and the Henry s across South Africa. Major funding
J. Kaiser Family Foundation. Addition for loveLife is provided by the Sou
al support is provided by Barloworld, th
BMW, Cellsmart Technologies, Cha the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundatio
ngeWright Consulting, DED (German n,
Jumpstart, Mondi, Murray & Roberts, Development Service), Dewey & Le
Rapport, the South African Broadcas Boeuf, IBM, Independent Newspap
ting Corporation, South African Insti ers,
Sun, Ster-Kinekor and the Vodacom tute for Entrepreneurship, Southern
Foundation. For more information
visit www.lovelife.org.za or call 0800
121 900.
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Relationships 24
An inter-racial couple looks to each other to find
belonging
Beat the bully tips 25
Tips on how to deal with bullying
Mizz B 26
Answering all your questions about sex, love and life
New kid 28
Tips for settling into a new school
1 in 49 million 32
From street boy to B-boy
Street cred 34
What does it mean to belong?

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Real song
Award winning musicians Rhythmic Elements tell
us about their hit track Hello Mr
Imagine Afrika
The T.V series that takes you around the continent
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Sport 39
Eastern Cape Sports Academy offers free training to
athletes who show potential
MYMsta 40
Hanging out with one of SA’s hottest groups
Gang Of Instrumentals
Shout outs 42
Halla to the world
Fashion 44
What does your school uniform say about you?
BUWA 46
Readers get creative

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The beat 54
The latest on the music front
The written word 55
Books to read (or not)
Puzzles 56
Exercise your brain
Mahala 57
Must-have giveaways

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Editor: Bongani Madondo
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GIRLS MUST VALUE
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THEMSELVES I AM loveLife Mpintsh

Girls you are beautiful and God loves you. Stop despising
The volunteer program that I have done here with
yourselves . Your bodies are so precious and they are
loveLife is about leadership, conflict management and
not for sale; so don’t defile them. Use your minds
drug and alcohol abuse. I am a mover as I write to you
positively and find something that you can do with your
now and still want to continue with the programme if
hands to generate money for yourselves. Don’t go
there are still others to do. To all groundBREAKERS,
around begging from men. You can use your sweet
guys I love you and you keep it up. - Solomon Seitshiro
voices to sing, and your minds are just as capable, so
value yourself. You are as beautiful as the stars at night. Ed’s Note: Mpintshis can and should apply to become
- Atsile Mampe a groundBREAKER! Simply call 0800 121 900 to find
your nearest regional office and get more info on the
groundBREAKER recruitment process.

“2 achiev da impossble 1 mst thnk
absurd...coz ryly nothing is impossble
wen da possblty of being possble is possble.
nd rememba ppl - succes consists of failure,
bt 2 fail witout loss of enthusaism. so do
yo bst. blive in yoslf nd dream big. gudlck
2 ol of yal” - MYMsta user ace champ

Send your letters (including your age & postal address) to: The Editor, PO Box 45, Parklands,
2121 or email uncut@lovelife.org.za. The winning letter will receive a hamper of books and CDs.
You can also post your comments and views on www.mymsta.mobi (standard data rates apply)


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Life throws a million challenges at
ecause I decided not to us, but we always have choices. I

B have sex, my peers
classed me as inferior and
‘not worth it’ because of my
chose to retain my purity rather
than give it away.

Today, I am proud to say that I am
‘untouchable’ body, as they called
it. They had me under their thumbs an ‘untouched girl’ and I will remain
and made me feel as miserable as untouchable until I’m prepared to
possible. At a certain stage they deal with the consequences, like
succeeded, and I was totally the chance of getting HIV or falling
uncomfortable. pregnant. To the girls whose
virginity was stolen away from
I also came across sisters whose them, I say, “Sisi you are just as
last portion of pride was snatched pure, you remain a virgin until you
away from them by selfish choose to give it away”.
strangers. Those men took
something special from them that We tend to forget HIV/Aids runs
they cannot buy back from any after no man, but we run after it.
store in the world. This disease knows no race, wealth
or beauty, so it can infect anyone.
Each time I prayed, I asked God UNCUT magazine gives us inside
to spare me from any temptations stories on HIV/Aids in every issue.
and He did. I then figured out that They can only do so much to give
the only reason someone wants to us the guidance, but what we do
make you feel like an outcast, is with it is up to us.
to make themselves feel good. I
posses a quality that they long to
have, which is why they class me.

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GENERATION CHAT: GROWING UP
How young people experience puberty is completely differ
another. This mother and daughter duo tell us about theirent from one generation to
different experiences

Kelebogile Montsheng (16) is originally from Mafikeng and is about to start
Grade 11 at a co-ed high school.

Puberty is a stage when humans reach adults need to give guidance and
sexual maturity and are able to reproduce. understand that everyone reaches a stage
I got this from my natural science text of adolescence that might be tough for a
book, as I’m studying it right now! young person. My mum has always been
reasonable, except with boys.
I think I reached the stage of puberty
when I got my first menstruation at 13.
I think the transition is made easier if
The most difficult thing was experiencing
parents are responsible and
period pains. During this time my
understanding. I actually liked growing
confidence was not affected and when I
up into the person I am. I learnt that it’s
got it I knew what was going on, so I
normal to become a teenager after being,
didn’t struggle that much.
basically a child. No-one should be
My mom had told me about the scared. It’s a normal thing. It’s life and
menstruation thing before it started. I think you will get used to it.

Mapule Motsheng (35) originally from Mafikeng, is a part time student and full
time mom.

I grew up in a rural area where no one teaching my daughter means she will
taught you anything about life. As a result have a smoother time than I did.
I was in the dark about puberty. Life was
I blame myself for controlling her a lot
not easy. I was not staying with my
when she was younger. She was shy and
parents and it’s difficult to talk about life
used to stay at home a lot with me. She
with a person outside your family. I went

Photos by: Roya Varjavandi
never used to speak to people like she
through hard times when I thought nobody
does now.
loves me and I learned that life is not
always nice. That’s why Kele lives with At 15 she started getting used to people
me; I want to be responsible for and had a lot of new friends. Sometimes
my daughter. it worries me because I don’t know the
friends. But I realise now if I don’t say
I learnt one thing that if you are a mother
anything she will not come right.
you don’t have to leave your children
behind as they must learn the basics of
Tell us what you think – is puberty tough or easy? Log onto
life from their parents, and not from other www.mymsta.mobi and post your comments in the “Is puberty tough
families. The way I’m bringing up and or easy?” forum in MySpot.


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RELATIONSHIPS:
BELONGING IN A MULTI-RACIAL
RELATIONSHIP
You may think that in order to feel a sense of belonging with someone you’d have to be from
a similar background, but that’s not always true as this multi-racial couple have proven

Nancy Moloantoa (26) hails from Mamelodi, Pretoria and works Armin Lalui (26) lives in Pretoria and works as an Economist
in vehicle finance and is studying toward being a counsellor for an NGO (Non-Governmental Organisation)

Belonging is a state of mind; it should not be defined by race, I have never felt that I belong to one nationality or another.
class or status. I had both a “white wedding” and a “black I was raised in a multicultural family and I try to take a global
wedding”; basically a cultural wedding. perspective of things rather than from a nationalistic point
of view.
I truly felt I belong to both. Celebrating my culture and teaching
my husband about my culture is very important. It also shows More than any cultural link, I think my strongest sense of
respect towards my family in terms of staying true to my self belonging is to my Faith. I am a member of the Baha’i Faith
and where I come from. and the teachings of this Faith define my views more than any
other aspect of my life, such as education, nationality, race
As a multi-racial couple we are not defined by the society or or gender.
community we live in and that's how I think it should be for
anyone. We resemble unity in diversity - we cut across both I think being in a multi-racial marriage is healthy as it broadens
racial and class divisions that have for so long South Africa my perspective of different issues. I also think that as the world
has struggled with to get along. becomes more globalised and more multi-cultural relationships
are formed, people will develop greater tolerance for those who
I married a white man purely because I love this man—not his are different from us. It will not be as easy to say we belong
whiteness. Had I fallen in love with a black man or any person to one nation or another as the world will be a much more

Photos by: Roya Varjavandi
from a different background and race it wouldn’t have been diverse place.
any different.


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MIZZ B ...answers your questions on
sex, relationships and all the
ish life brings you.

Crying about the past

I am a 22 year-old-lady and was abused by family members, emotionally and physically. I’ve
lived with this since I was eight years old and never told any of my family except my fiancé. I
grew up without my mother, as she left us with my father when we were young. I ended up being raped
by my father’s brother. I grew up hating my dad and step mum because they never cared for us. Now
I’ve found myself a very understanding fiance and things are going well except that I’m very emotional
and can’t stop crying because of my past, and he is also stressing about me. I’m scared that my past
is putting a strain on to my relationship and that I might lose him because of that. I’m working and
happy where I am, and I’m paying tertiary fees for my sister, but I can’t stop feeling bad. I need help.

It’s obviously difficult to forget your past, but how you deal with them is the important part. You have
been through a lot and feel that no one loves you. The important part is that you realise how the whole
experience affects your relationship with the man you love, and who loves you back. Therefore you have to
seek professional help about it.

Please go and consult with social workers or a psychologist so that you are able to deal with the hardships
that you underwent. You will not forget about them but the social worker will assist you to cope with the
experience and help you look forward to a brighter future. You have a lot of great things in your life that you
should be proud of. The fact that you are working, assisting your sister and have a life time partner is worth
celebrating and surely proof that you have the potential to be a better person in life no matter your upbringing.
Go out there and seek help to let go of the hatred, as it is hindering your happiness in life today.

The most important thing to know is that no matter how bad people treat you, there is nothing wrong with you.
Don’t blame yourself and don’t let it impact on your self esteem. Go out and seek counseling before you get
married. You have come too far. Use your effort to make yourself and loved ones happy.


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HIV Testing

I recently had sex with my girlfriend and
we didn't use a condom. It was my first time
MYMsta forum in My Spot
not to use it. I know my status and I always did,
as I test regularly. The thing is I am not sure if I “im a big dreamer,im talented yes i know,but it
seems like 4 the past 3yrz the trust in myself has
should invite her to test with me. I know I am going
faded away,i now dont know what to do because
to test this week and two or three months later
each time i thnk abwt it i wana kil myself,i feel
just to be on the safe side. Was I careless?
like a failure coz i need inspiration”
It’s great that you get tested regularly, but you i feel the same way,m also a dreamer bt iv mesd up
definitely need to go again since you had my lyf by dropin outa skwl n takin drugs so plz dnt
unprotected sex. And yes, you’ve been careless, kill yo dreams lyk i kild myn – nawty ofy
because you do not know your girlfriend's status and therz onli 1 lyf, its either u live it or u die, its either
having unprotected sex puts you at risk. Also even if u sit nd feel sory 4 ur self or u rise again, rember, if
you know your status and your partner’s status, you its prblm then its definately worth solving – go getter
still need to always take precautions by using a condom
luk u jst need wa i cal faith. i knw it iz wrkng fo me
in order to avoid unplanned pregnancy and because an it wil wrk fo u if u, jst belive, an nv give up on ur
you have no guarantee your partner will be faithful. I self, tel everone dat u dnt mind waiting fo da rite
advise you to take your girlfriend along when you go tym, it wil come, an nv compare ur self wit others u
for your test so she can also be tested as well. It’s hv to serve ur own purpose, an it iz unique tk care
- cooluboy
definitely something you should do together, and doing
so will make your relationship stronger. Mizz B: Having a dream is a wonderful guideline on
what you want to achieve in life. For example, your
dream might be to finish your studies or start your own
business. The challenge is that in order for this dream
to come true, it requires hard work and sacrifices.
So you need to keep focus at all times so that you don’t
loose sight of what you want to achieve, and yes part
Stuck in the middle of your focus involves a lot of inspiration like
reading motivational material, volunteering in
companies/organisations that carry what you want
to achieve or by having a mentor who will be there as
Two people are fighting, the first is my cousin a guide and to offer support. Killing yourself is not
and the other is my friend. My cousin told an option! You life is important and who will live
your dream if your gone?? Keep hope alive, and
me that he heard people saying that my friend is you WILL succeed. Most importantly keep on
gossiping about him; my friend told the same story making your move, and keep working towards
your dreams.
about my cousin. These two are furious and want
to fight. How do I solve this?

You are in a very difficult position because two
people that you care about are now fighting.
This can make you feel like you must choose between
them because of loyalty. This is unfair because you
risk losing either your friend or your cousin. Are you
sure that this fight is really about gossip? Maybe there
is some jealousy happening because you are close to
both of these people? If you can, remove yourself from These comments are posted by MYMsta users and do not necessarily
this tension by explaining to them that you are feeling reflect the views of Mizz B, loveLife or a professional counsellor.
frustrated by their fighting. This will make them realise
that you do not want to choose. Maybe then they will Send your questions to Mizz B, PO Box 45, Parklands,
decide to resolve this fight on their own because they 2121 or email talk@lovelife.co.za. You can also call
see it is unfair to you. If this does not help, then maybe loveLife’s toll-free youth line on 0800 121 900. And
remember that Mizz B is also on MYMsta. Log onto
you can encourage them to sit down and talk. There www.mymsta.mobi and you can send her messages
might be a misunderstanding and talking is the only anytime. She will respond within 48 hours.
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