1. MY BEST FAIL
STORY OF 2013
How I failed to parent myself
properly at one point in 2013?
Submission by Stefan Alievikj

2. What was 2013 about for me?
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What happened in 2013 are all events, moments
that I would for sure discuss still 10 years from
now, 20 years.. Maybe until the rest of life
2013 was the year when I graduated, when I got a
job before graduation and then got
promoted, 2013 is the year when I travelled 4
countries, attended amazing youth events, and
visited amazing cities:
Bled, Brussels, Maribor, Zagreb, Sarajevo… it was
also the year I failed to maintain a healthy
relationship.. And there was this few-months
period when I dedicated 0 time for myself

3. Events: February 2013
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It’s the heat period… C:F competitions and we are all
brainstorming. Did you know that I though of “dream job
instructors” at the point I was breaking up a relationship? It
was later on when we developed the idea with my
teammates about what these DJIs would be?
February 2013… final semester at university…. It was a start
of a time-consuming reading list of novels, theory, critics…
Also here was my job: editor at Mladiinfo and constantly
searching and proof-reading information on free
educational opportunities.
Also, living with roommates and renting an old-furniture
apartment was an every day challenge. At one point we
had these awful cockroaches even and we were the ones
to deal with the issue…or when I was showering and I saw
the bathroom flooding
The point is: there were so many things ONGOING.. Things
simply happen and happen and happen…

4. Consequences: March-May
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Wanting to take on with everything (and there was
always something to do, always a homework to do,
always a post to check, always something to fix…) I was
forgetting or denying that I should dedicate a little time
for myself. That I need to go carefully through my
emotions and see what happened… why this break-up
happened?
And as I was trying harder and harder to control
everything, I started to lose concentration, to write bad
papers for university, to make mistakes with my job… in
one word I was becoming less efficient. Our C:F
submission for the finals was weak, although our team
placed 3rd in semi-finals. We could have all played
better

5. What was the failure?
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Looking at February-June period from distance, I can
conclude one thing:
I FAILED TO PARENT MYSELF PROPERLY
I believe that no matter how much work there is, if you
don’t take the break and call friends and go out and
open yourself to other and new experiences, you will just
start to fail getting better at what were you doing
awesomely before. And yes, those few months were halt
for my development. Lesson learnt the harder way

6. Therefore, one thing: no
matter how hard it might be
sometimes, don’t forget to
keep on moving, to keep on
trying out new things. I know
I knew this before, but didn’t
REPEAT it enough times to
myself, to remind myself…
as there is no better
psychologist for yourself
than exactly YOU, being
your true self.
CHEERS!
P.S. We moved out from that
crappy apartment in July
2013!