Family empowerment is to be done thoughtfully. Empowering the family is empowering the society. I have planned a narrative therapy for families with internal problems. The Story of Ruth Ellis, The Story of Ramu and Latha, and The Story of Divorce are delivered in three consecutive days and on the fourth day "Why do we stay in unhealthy relationship" is delivered. It will work out a therapeutic effect for sure. Try this when you conduct Family empowerment sessions, or else do call me to deliver it in its actual style.
4. I often hear people say
âI love him/herâ
even if their relationship is
harmful, abusive or unhealthy
5. Itâs difficult even in
difficult times
They stay in this relationship
for the wrong reasons and sometimes
they find it extremely difficult
to leave the relationship.
6. Leaving can be more complicated
than it seems
It may seem simple. But the more you
try to leave or give it up, youâll
find itâs not that easy
7. There are many reason why men
and women stay in an unhealthy
relationship
The following will explain some of the
reasons why people decide to stay in a
harmful relationship
8. 1. Reliance or
Codependency
Someone can become financially
dependent on their partner and believe
that without money they will not have a
lavish lifestyle or simply believe that they
wonât be able to stand on their own feet
9. The Provisions
Some people may stay in an abusive or
unhealthy relationship because their
partner provides with lavish and
grandiose things.
10. Shopping at high end stores
or buying big brands is
glamorous
But when you love it more than your
partner it becomes unhealthy
11. someone may think that
they have nowhere to go if
they leave
There may dwell a feeling of
helplessness in their mind
12. The prevailing social and
cultural background is
important here
It may be aggravated by the individual
financial freedom of either of the
partners
13. In all these situations
They will be strong when they decide
to stay in the relationship, .
14. So try to understand
And decide to stay together peacefully
Try to be happy with what you have
15. If you canât do it yourself
Get some professional help
16. 2. Believing
abuse is normal
Perhaps someone grew up in an
environment where abuse was
common and do not recognize that
their relationship is unhealthy
17. 3. Low self esteem
A person with low self- esteem may
believe that the abuse or
maltreatment is their fault
because their partner constantly
blames them or puts them down
18. 4. Pregnancy or Parenting
A person may feel pressured to stay in
an unhealthy relationship because of
pregnancy or may feel pressured to
raise their child by both parents.
19. Fear of losing the child
The abusive partner may threaten to
take away their child if they leave
20. 5. Change
A person may stay in an unhealthy
relationship because their partner
promises that they will change and
they hope that they eventually will
21. 6. Settle
Some people may settle being in an
unhealthy relationship
rather than being alone.
22. Fear of being left alone
The thought of being alone may scare
someone and would rather
be with anyone.
23. According to Dr. Wendy Walsh,
who wrote
âShould I Stay or Should I Go?â
a partner is afraid to be single, he or she
imagines that being in a bad relationship
better than being alone
24. Apprehensions about
single life
He or she also distorts the future by
really thinking that single life will be far
worse than it actually turns out to be
25. 7. Good Enough
Someone may believe that the abusive
partner is âgood-enough for meâ and
may feel that they do not
deserve better
26. No one else will be
good enough
Or the abusive partner may have
already convinced them that no one
else will love them more than they do,
that they will only love them and their
âweaknessesâ and that they are not
good enough for others
27. 8. Cognitive Dissonance
Cognitive dissonance is a way to justify
our actions so that we may never have
to feel that we did something wrong
28. Facing the fact that
itâs a mistake
People have a hard time breaking free
from bad relationships because it
means coming to terms that you stayed
in a bad relationship for a long time,
and facing the fact
that it was a mistake
29. Present Commitment
If you canât accept and come to terms
that it is a mistake you will continue to
justify your present commitment to the
relationship
30. 9. Personal Needs
It is important to not compromise your
self-worth. Know what your needs are and
how to find happiness. Stick to your needs
and find the confidence to work it away