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This powerful workbook that is already being used in support groups and classrooms was inspired by Angela’s Removing the Sword of Trauma event. It is for survivors, warriors, advocates, loved ones and supporters ready to move past pain and suffering and reclaim joy and happiness.
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- 1. Angela Shelton’s WYOUR OWN HER WORKBOOK BE ARRIORO For survivors, warriors, advocates, loved ones and supporters ready to move past pain and suffering and reclaim joy and happiness. A workbook that takes you on a journey to THIS WORKBOOK BELONGS TO: REMOVE thE SwORd Of tRauMa, REclaiM YOuR StREngth and POwER and liVE a JOYful lifE. Sign your name here! Written by Angela Shelton. Illustration by James Murray. © Copyright Angela Shelton 2008 www.SuRViVORManual.cOM
- 2. WARRIOR WORKSHEET Dear Warrior, __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ I began this workbook after __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ going through my own __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ journey of recovery. I now __________________________________________________________________________________ lead a joyful life and hope __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ you will do the same. You __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ can learn about my story __________________________________________________________________________________ in my film Searching for __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ Angela Shelton and my book __________________________________________________________________________________ Finding Angela Shelton. __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 2
- 3. WARRIOR WORKSHEET There are sheets like this __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ throughout the workbook. Tear them __________________________________________________________________________________ out if you need to and carry __________________________________________________________________________________ them with you. They are meant to __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ be guideposts for you to discover __________________________________________________________________________________ your inner warrior. __________________________________________________________________________________ There are questions in the blue __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ sections to use in a group setting __________________________________________________________________________________ to inspire conversation. __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ Thank you for using this __________________________________________________________________________________ workbook and for moving into __________________________________________________________________________________ your own healing and/or healing __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ someone else. __________________________________________________________________________________ Love, __________________________________________________________________________________ Angela Shelton __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 3
- 4. hOw tO uSE thiS wORKBOOK: You may use this workbook alone or in a group. Share your answers with friends and supporters to help one another through the process of healing. By supporting one another we help the world heal and move past pain and suffering and into joy and happiness. The Journal Journeys provide a jumping off point. Finish the sentences provided to help you pinpoint insights into yourself and others. waRning: This workbook may bring up intense emotions. It is recommended that you have a therapist present if you are working in a group. If you are working alone, share this with someone you trust and feel safe with such as a therapist or friend. This workbook was inspired by Angela Shelton’s speaking events. Please visit http://angelashelton.com/events for more information about bringing Angela Shelton and her work to your community. Check out the website, too! www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 4
- 5. WARRIOR WORKSHEET Use the blank pages to draw, doodle, or rant. There are no rules and this workbook cannot be graded ! finding angela Shelton is now mandatory reading in classrooms across the country. You may be graded on the paper you write for that book, but not for this workbook! Check out what the Army of Angels are up to at www.findingangelashelton.com www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 5
- 6. WARRIOR WORKSHEET When beginning a journey of transformation you are faced with many new levels of healing, awareness and wholeness. Now is a time to think about what you are ready for and make a commitment to yourself. What are you ready to receive and what are you willing to let go of? For example if I was to be a Goddess, I had to let go of self-hatred because the two did not fit. Just like joy and violence cannot coexist, self-hatred cannot exist when you are living a life you love. What are you ready to receive __________________________________________________________________________________ and what are you willing to give __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ up? If you are ready to receive __________________________________________________________________________________ being a warrior, then you must give __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ up the role of the victim. __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM REadY tO REcEiVE: __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM willing tO lEt gO Of: __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ Order this workbook at www.angelashelton.com www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 6
- 7. GROUP QUESTIONS: what iS tRauMa? .Experiencing trauma is like being pierced with a sword. . . what aRE SOME tYPES Of tRauMa? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 7
- 8. WARRIOR WORKSHEET whY dO PEOPlE KEEP faMilY SEcREtS? Being pierced with the sword of trauma can leave you silent, frozen in fear, stuck, and in pain. what KindS Of Pain and/OR SuffERing haVE YOu EXPERiEncEd? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 8
- 9. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i EXPERiEncEd Pain whEn __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i fEEl anXiEtY whEn __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i SuffEREd whEn __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 9
- 10. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what affEctS haS thE SwORd had On YOuR lifE? It is nearly impossible to have healthy, intimate relationships. Being wounded by the sword of trauma can make you quick to anger, depressed, or isolated. hOw dOES thE SwORd KEEP YOu fROM haVing hEalthY intiMatE RElatiOnShiPS? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 10
- 11. JOURNAL JOURNEY i haVE BEEn KEPt fROM intiMacY BEcauSE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ whEn i thinK aBOut intiMacY i fEEl __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM ScaREd Of __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 11
- 12. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what hEalth PROBlEMS haS thE SwORd cauSEd in YOuR lifE OR thE lifE Of a lOVEd OnE? Your sword can cause health problems, including chronic migraines, body aches, nightmares, mental health problems, insomnia, or numbness. hOw dO thE affEctS Of tRauMa ShOw uP in YOuR BOdY? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 12
- 13. WARRIOR WORKSHEET MY BOdY iSSuES aRE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i fEEl uncOMfORtaBlE in MY BOdY whEn __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 13
- 14. WARRIOR WORKSHEET hOw iS YOuR BREathing? Being wounded makes it hard to breathe deeply. what wOuld YOu haVE tO SaY Out lOud in ORdER tO BREathE MORE fREElY? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 14
- 15. WARRIOR WORKSHEET if i cOuld talK tO MY BOdY, i wOuld SaY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ if i cOuld talK tO MY Pain, i wOuld SaY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 15
- 16. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what aRE SOME waYS that YOu can ignORE Pain? You can live with the sword pierced through you. You can ignore the fact that you are wounded and deal with the symptoms instead of the cause. You have a choice. what SYMPtOMS haVE YOu had tO dEal with aROund tRauMa in YOuR lifE OR thE lifE Of a lOVEd OnE? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 16
- 17. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i haVE ignOREd thE Pain in MY lifE BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i cOPE BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM SilEnt aBOut __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 17
- 18. WARRIOR WORKSHEET hOw can SOMEOnE ElSE’S Pain affEct YOu? You can get into relationships with other people who are wounded. haVE YOu EVER BEEn in a RElatiOnShiP with SOMEOnE whO waS wOundEd? hOw did that affEct YOu? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 18
- 19. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i haVE had tO dEal with OthERS’ Pain BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ SOMEOnE ElSE’S Pain haS affEctEd ME BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 19
- 20. WARRIOR WORKSHEET hOw dOES dEnial ManifESt in thE wORld? You can live in entire communities that are in pain. Keeping the sword in place is living in denial. Denial is a powerful choice that you have freedom to make. hOw haS dEnial affEctEd YOu in YOuR lifE? haVE YOu EVER witnESSEd gROuPS Of PEOPlE in dEnial? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 20
- 21. WARRIOR WORKSHEET dEnial ShOwS uP in MY lifE aS __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i haVE dEalt with dEnial BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i haVE BEEn SilEnt aBOut __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 21
- 22. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what if YOu wERE PiERcEd with a SwORd? what fEaR dO YOu haVE tO facE? what SEcREtS aRE YOu KEEPing? hOw haVE YOu PERSOnallY BEEn PiERcEd with thE SwORd? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 22
- 23. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i aM fEaRful Of __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i fEEl liKE i can’t __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i haVE BEEn StucK and StuntEd BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 23
- 24. WARRIOR WORKSHEET hOw dO YOu affEct thE wORld aROund YOu? When you see the sword and realize you are wounded, you can also see how you are affecting yourself and the world around you. what if EVERYthing YOu did affEctEd EVERYthing and EVERYOnE ElSE in thE wORld? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 24
- 25. WARRIOR WORKSHEET MY EMOtiOnS affEct OthERS whEn i __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ MY angER affEctS OthERS whEn i __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ MY fEaRS affEct OthERS whEn i __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 25
- 26. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what did YOu dO aS a child that MadE YOu lOSE tRacK Of tiME? You can see that you can live a much healthier life when you remove the sword that wounded you in the first place. taKE a MOMEnt and gO BacK tO YOuR childhOOd and find OnE haPPY MEMORY. what did YOu lOVE tO dO? what MadE YOu giddY? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 26
- 27. WARRIOR WORKSHEET whEn i waS littlE, MY faVORitE thing tO dO waS __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i lOSE all tRacK Of tiME whEn i __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i haVE thE MOSt fun whEn i __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 27
- 28. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what haPPEnEd in YOuR lifE that cREatEd anY Kind Of Pain & SuffERing? What is your trauma? What is your story? what Kind Of REcuRRing Pain and SuffERing ShOwS uP in YOuR lifE? what dO YOu cOMPlain aBOut MOSt? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 28
- 29. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what MEMORY affEctS YOu thE MOSt? How is being wounded keeping you away from joy and happiness? How is the past affecting your life? hOw dOES a Painful EXPERiEncE KEEP YOu fROM JOY and haPPinESS? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 29
- 30. WARRIOR WORKSHEET MY StORY iS __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 30
- 32. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what iS hOlding YOu awaY fROM JOY and haPPinESS? The thought of facing trauma and going through the process of recovery brings up fear. what wOuld YOu haVE tO lEt gO Of in ORdER tO MOVE PaSt Pain and SuffERing? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 32
- 33. WARRIOR WORKSHEET thE MEMORY that hauntS ME thE MOSt iS __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM nOt haPPY aBOut __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 33
- 34. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what dO YOu thinK OthERS aRE SaYing tO thEMSElVES inSidE thEiR hEadS? You may hear all of your negative thought patterns telling you that you are stupid, worthless, ugly, or nothing. what aRE thE nEgatiVE thingS YOu SaY tO YOuRSElf inSidE YOuR hEad? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 34
- 35. WARRIOR WORKSHEET EVERY SinglE nEgatiVE thing i haVE EVER Said tO MYSElf in MY hEad: __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 35
- 36. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i nEEd tO lEt gO Of __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM hOlding OntO __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM afRaid tO facE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 36
- 37. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what if thE unKnOwn waS JOYOuS? The thought of touching your sword can scare you and leave you frozen in fear and not knowing where to begin. what wOuld YOuR lifE lOOK liKE if YOu had nO fEaR? what wOuld YOu BE dOing? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 37
- 38. WARRIOR WORKSHEET if i had nO fEaR i wOuld __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ if MOnEY waS nO OBJEct i wOuld __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ lEtting gO Of Pain MaKES ME nERVOuS BEcauSE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 38
- 39. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what wOuld lifE BE liKE if YOu lEft YOuR SwORd in? what iS YOuR BiggESt fEaR aBOut REMOVing YOuR SwORd? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 39
- 40. WARRIOR WORKSHEET MY SwORd giVES ME cOMfORt BEcauSE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM faMiliaR with __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ if i waS a waRRiOR thEn i wOuld haVE tO __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 40
- 41. WARRIOR WORKSHEET if YOuR child waS wOundEd and nEEdEd StitchES, hOw wOuld YOu cOMfORt thEM? If you were going through surgery you would have to make a plan. You need to make a plan to remove your sword, too. what iS thE fiRSt thing that cOMES tO Mind whEn YOu thinK aBOut a Plan tO REMOVE YOuR SwORd? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 41
- 42. WARRIOR WORKSHEET MY Plan tO REMOVE MY SwORd wOuld haVE tO haVE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ if i had tO tEll MY child thEY had tO haVE SuRgERY, i wOuld SaY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 42
- 43. WARRIOR WORKSHEET whERE dO YOu fEEl SafE? You need help, support, a place in which to remove it in the safest way possible, and a place to recover. whERE iS thE fiRSt PlacE YOu wOuld gO if YOu wERE gOing tO REMOVE YOuR SwORd? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 43
- 44. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i fEEl SafESt whEn i __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ if i had tO hidE SOMEwhERE i wOuld gO __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 44
- 45. WARRIOR WORKSHEET if YOuR child waS ill and nEEdEd ROund-thE-clOcK caRE, what Kind Of actiOnS wOuld YOu taKE? You need to support system. Make a plan and gather support before removing your sword. whERE dO YOu gEt thE MOSt SuPPORt in YOuR lifE? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 45
- 46. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i fEEl MOSt SuPPORtEd BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 46
- 47. WARRIOR WORKSHEET SOMEtiMES thE BESt cOMfORt iS SPiRit. Removing your sword is a process that you must ultimately do yourself. Your team is your backup. whO iS On YOuR tEaM? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 47
- 48. WARRIOR WORKSHEET if i nEEdEd hElP i wOuld call __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i MOSt tRuSt __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 48
- 49. WARRIOR WORKSHEET whO dO YOu tRuSt? Find therapists, support groups, friends, and supportive family members you feel safest with. whO in YOuR lifE dO YOu fEEl thE SafESt with? whO wOuld YOu call if YOu nEEdEd hElP? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 49
- 50. WARRIOR WORKSHEET thE PEOPlE in MY lifE whO haVE inSPiREd, hElPEd and SuPPORtEd ME aRE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 50
- 51. WARRIOR WORKSHEET iS thERE anY Pain that YOu fEEl cOMfORtaBlE with BEcauSE it iS faMiliaR? Removing the sword hurts and can seem like a daunting task. whY nOt JuSt lEaVE YOuR SwORd in? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 51
- 52. WARRIOR WORKSHEET if i REMOVEd MY SwORd i wOuld lOSE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM ScaREd Of BEing fulfillEd BEcauSE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ if i waS liVing a JOYful lifE thEn i __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 52
- 53. WARRIOR WORKSHEET if YOuR child waS nEEdEd SuRgERY and it waS gOing tO huRt, But it wOuld BE BEttER fOR thEM in thE lOng Run, what wOuld YOu SaY tO thEM? Sometimes the pain of removing the sword hurts worse than it did going in. what if thE PROcESS Of REMOVing YOuR SwORd huRtS wORSE than what Put it thERE? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 53
- 54. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what dO YOu haVE tO fEEl in ORdER tO hEal? In order to heal it, you have to feel it. what iS thE wORSt that can haPPEn if YOu REMOVE YOuR SwORd? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 54
- 55. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what MaKES YOu angRY? You may feel rage, pain, fear, anxiety, isolation, and self-hatred among many others. wRitE dOwn all thE wORdS that cOME tO Mind aS YOu thinK aBOut REMOVing YOuR SwORd: __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 55
- 56. WARRIOR WORKSHEET gO On a Rant. SaY anYthing YOu want aBOut what iS cOMing uP fOR YOu Right nOw. __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 56
- 58. WARRIOR WORKSHEET YOu aRE allOwEd tO fEEl Pain in ORdER tO MOVE PaSt it. Allow yourself the freedom to scream, yell, and cry. what wOuld YOu SaY if YOu cOuld talK tO YOuR SwORd and thE tRauMa that Put it thERE? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 58
- 59. WARRIOR WORKSHEET dEaR SwORd, __________________________________________________________________________________ YOu haVE SERVEd ME BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM gOing tO lEt gO Of YOu nOw BEcauSE __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 59
- 60. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what wOuld haPPEn if YOu JuSt gaVE uP? It may seem exhausting and overwhelming to remove your sword. what iRRitatES OR uPSEtS YOu aBOut thiS PROcESS? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 60
- 61. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i aM annOYEd BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM OVERwhElMEd BY __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i gEt fRuStRatEd whEn __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 61
- 62. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i dOn’t want tO fEEl __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i aM SicK and tiREd Of __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 62
- 63. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what will YOu dO with YOuR SwORd OncE YOu haVE it? Remember that once you face the fear and remove the sword—you will have it ! what wOuld YOu dO with YOuR lifE if YOu had nO Pain OR SuffERing? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 63
- 64. WARRIOR WORKSHEET if i hadn’t BEEn thROugh __________________________________________________________________________________ i wOuld __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ OncE i haVE MY SwORd i want tO __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 64
- 65. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what in YOuR lifE haS allOwEd YOu tO BE uPSEt and cOMPlain? With your sword out, you may feel sad, empty, depressed, lonely, or just plain dumb. what will YOu MiSS aBOut YOuR SwORd? it iS OK tO acKnOwlEdgE thE addictiOn tO it. __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 65
- 66. WARRIOR WORKSHEET i cOMPlain MOSt aBOut __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ i liKE gEtting attEntiOn whEn i __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ whEn i REMOVE MY SwORd i will nEEd tO lEaRn tO __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 66
- 67. WARRIOR WORKSHEET what cOMfORting dO childREn nEEd? Now is the time to take care of yourself on all levels-body, mind, and spirit. if YOu wERE YOuR Own child, hOw wOuld YOu taKE caRE Of YOuRSElf? __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 67
- 68. WARRIOR WORKSHEET MY innER child nEEdS __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ www.SuRViVORManual.cOM 68