1. coming out as a straight allY:
championing equality in the state of Florida
...because nothing is more important than our humanity
2. we are straight allies.
We are mothers and fathers teaching our children to love and accept each
other’s intrinsic humanness. We are sisters and brothers holding the hands of our
siblings with great pride in who they are. We are co-workers who want to see our
colleagues treated fairly, free from bias and discrimination. We are young and old
who believe that we live in the land of the free, where all people are created
equal. We are clergy and missionaries shepherding our congregations to
welcome everyone into their hearts, openly and without judgment. We are
veterans who have fought for the freedom of others across the ocean and who
will continue to fight for basic human rights on our own native soil. We are
citizens who believe in everyone’s right to pursue their own happiness.
From Stonewall to the demise of DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act), we are the
family and friends of Harvey Milk, Marco McMillian, Matthew Shepard, Ebony
Whitaker and Amanda Gonzalez-Andular. We are following in the legacy of other
great Movements: Abolitionist Movement, Women’s Suffrage, Eastern European
Liberation Movement, Farm Workers, the Civil Rights, and the Feminist
movements. We are helping lead the growing chorus in this fight.
We are Friends. We are Families. We are Co-Workers. We are Communities.
We are Straight Allies…because nothing is more important than our humanity.
3. our CREATIVE TEAM.
Chevara Orrin is a community advocate
extraordinaire and soul connector. Her
commitment to LGBT equality stems from a
long history of civil rights and social justice
activism.
“Our tiny legs carried us to the National Civil Rights
Museum, then the Lorraine Motel, (a deteriorating
franchise). We stood near the balcony where King
was assassinated). We sang freedom songs and
listened to civil-rights giants Andrew Young, John
Lewis, Ralph David Abernathy and Jesse Jackson
recount the horrors and joys of the movement.
Stories of The Poor People's Campaign, the
resistance against the war in Vietnam, and the
Memphis Sanitation Strike resonated with me and
inspired me to become a freedom fighter.”
Dan Bagan tells stories with photographs,
design and video. He has been recognized
for his powerful imagery that is a signature of
his work. He has created successful
commercial campaigns for corporations,
practices and individuals that reach their
audience and deliver their message. Behind
his easy manner is a passion for his art and a
drive to capture and tell a story. Dan has
leveraged his experience as a executive and
a marketing consultant to understand his
audience and create images that move
people.
Laura Riggs Laura Riggs is a Student.
Traveler. Writer. Teacher. Specialist. and Ad
Designer.
I believe in learning. I believe in exploring. I
believe in sharing. I believe in education. I
believe in becoming better. These are just
a few things that I believe define me. Yet,
above all, I believe nothing is definite.
Everyday we are given the opportunity to
break the rules and grow.
4. We are mothers and fathers teaching our children to love and accept each other’s
intrinsic humanness. We are sisters and brothers holding the hands of our siblings with
great pride in who they are.
FAMILIES.
5. FRIENDS.
From Stonewall to the demise of DOMA, we are the family and friends of Harvey Milk,
Marco McMillian, Matthew Shepard, Ebony Whitaker and Amanda Gonzalez-Andular.
We are following in the legacy of other great Movements: Abolitionist Movement,
Women's Suffrage, Eastern European Liberation Movement, Farm Workers, the Civil
Rights, and the Feminist movements.
6. We are co-workers who want to see our colleagues treated fairly, free from bias and
discrimination. We are young and old who believe that we live in the land of the free,
where all people are created equal.
CO-WORKERS.
7. COMMUNITIES.
We are clergy and missionaries shepherding our congregations to welcome everyone
into their hearts, openly and without judgment. We are veterans who have fought for the
freedom of others across the ocean and who will continue to fight for basic human
rights on our own native soil. We are citizens who believe in everyone’s right to pursue
their own happiness.
9. THERE IS NO HIERARCHY OF OPPRESSION
“I cannot afford to believe that freedom from intolerance is the right of only one
particular group. And I cannot afford to choose between the fronts upon which I must
battle these forces of discrimination, wherever they appear to destroy me. And when
they appear to destroy me, it will not be long before they appear to destroy you.”
—Audre Lorde
10. straight ally 101.
An "Ally" is a person who is a member of the dominant or majority group who works to end oppression in their
personal and professional life through support of, and as an advocate for, the oppressed
population." (Washington and Evans, Becoming and Ally) Allies to racial, religious and ethnic minorities have
been remarkably effective in promoting positive change in the dominant culture, and only recently has their
instrumental position been extended to the area of sexual orientation. The past few years have witnessed the
development of heterosexual Ally organizations which have attempted to make the culture of a campus or
workplace more aware and accepting of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender individuals.
✴Stay Informed
✴Be Vocal
✴Be Authentic
✴Practice Everyday Advocacy
✴Come OUT! [Be a Role Model]
SOURCE: ADAPTED FROM THE SAFE ON CAMPUS RESOURCE MANUAL - WESTERN MICHIGAN UNIVERSITY
13. terminology.
SEXUAL ORIENTATION
"SEXUAL ORIENTATION" IS THE PREFERRED TERM USED WHEN REFERRING TO AN INDIVIDUAL'S PHYSICAL AND/OR EMOTIONAL
ATTRACTION TO THE SAME AND/OR OPPOSITE GENDER. "HETEROSEXUAL," "BISEXUAL" AND "HOMOSEXUAL" ARE ALL SEXUAL
ORIENTATIONS. A PERSON'S SEXUAL ORIENTATION IS DISTINCT FROM A PERSON'S GENDER IDENTITY AND EXPRESSION.
GENDER IDENTITY
THE TERM "GENDER IDENTITY” REFERS TO A PERSON'S INNATE, DEEPLY FELT PSYCHOLOGICAL IDENTIFICATION AS MALE OR
FEMALE, WHICH MAY OR MAY NOT CORRESPOND TO THE PERSON'S BODY OR DESIGNATED SEX AT BIRTH (MEANING WHAT SEX
WAS ORIGINALLY LISTED ON A PERSON'S BIRTH CERTIFICATE).
GENDER EXPRESSION
GENDER EXPRESSION REFERS TO ALL OF THE EXTERNAL CHARACTERISTICS AND BEHAVIORS THAT ARE SOCIALLY DEFINED AS
EITHER MASCULINE OR FEMININE, SUCH AS DRESS, GROOMING, MANNERISMS, SPEECH PATTERNS AND SOCIAL INTERACTIONS.
SOCIAL OR CULTURAL NORMS CAN VARY WIDELY AND SOME CHARACTERISTICS THAT MAY BE ACCEPTED AS MASCULINE,
FEMININE OR NEUTRAL IN ONE CULTURE MAY NOT BE ASSESSED SIMILARLY IN ANOTHER.
TRANSGENDER
A BROAD RANGE OF PEOPLE WHO EXPERIENCE AND/OR EXPRESS THEIR GENDER DIFFERENTLY FROM WHAT MOST PEOPLE
EXPECT — EITHER IN TERMS OF EXPRESSING A GENDER THAT DOES NOT MATCH THE SEX LISTED ON THEIR ORIGINAL BIRTH
CERTIFICATE (I.E., DESIGNATED SEX AT BIRTH), OR PHYSICALLY CHANGING THEIR SEX. IT IS AN UMBRELLA TERM THAT INCLUDES
PEOPLE WHO ARE TRANSSEXUAL, CROSS-DRESSERS OR OTHERWISE GENDER NON-CONFORMING. NOT ALL PEOPLE WHO
CONSIDER THEMSELVES (OR WHO MAY BE CONSIDERED BY OTHERS AS) TRANSGENDER WILL UNDERGO A GENDER TRANSITION.
SOURCE: HUMAN RIGHTS CAMPAIGN
14. inclusive language.
SOURCE: HTTP://WWW.AUBURN.EDU/AGLBC/ALLY.HTM
Words to Avoid Try These Instead!
Husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend Partner, spouse, significant other
Homosexual Gay man or lesbian
Sexual preference Sexual orientation
"Lifestyle" or “Alternative Lifestyle" Sexual orientation
Welcome dialogue and interaction with the LGBT community requires the
use of inclusive language, avoiding stereotyping, providing a “safe zone”,
and maintaining confidentiality.
15. Being a trans* ally
I'M ALREADY AN ALLY TO LESBIAN, GAY, AND BISEXUAL PEOPLE. AREN'T I AN ALLY TO TRANS*
PEOPLE BY DEFAULT?
IN RECENT YEARS, "LBGT" HAS BECOME A WIDELY USED TERM TO REFER COLLECTIVELY TO
LESBIAN, BISEXUAL, GAY AND TRANS* PEOPLE. WHILE THERE ARE MANY COMMONALITIES AND
POINTS OF OVERLAP AMONGST TRANS* AND GAY, LESBIAN, AND BISEXUAL PEOPLES, THERE ARE
MANY ISSUES, CONCERNS, AND EXPERIENCES THAT ARE SPECIFIC TO TRANS* PEOPLE.
IN ORDER TO BE A GOOD ALLY TO TRANS* PEOPLE, IT IS IMPORTANT TO LEARN ABOUT HOW THE
LIVES AND CONCERNS OF TRANS* PEOPLE DIFFER FROM THOSE OF LBG PEOPLE. LEARNING
MORE ABOUT THESE DIFFERENCES WILL ENABLE ALLIES TO BETTER SUPPORT AND UNDERSTAND
PEOPLE WHO ARE TRANS* AND/OR BISEXUAL, LESBIAN, OR GAY.
TRANSGENDER IS AN UMBRELLA TERM FOR PEOPLE WHOSE GENDER IDENTITY DIFFERS FROM
WHAT IS TYPICALLY ASSOCIATED WITH THE SEX THEY WERE ASSIGNED AT BIRTH.
TRANSGENDER PEOPLE MAY OR MAY NOT ALTER THEIR BODIES HORMONALLY AND/OR
SURGICALLY, BUT IT'S IMPORTANT TO KNOW THAT BEING TRANSGENDER IS NOT DEPENDENT
UPON MEDICAL PROCEDURES. TRANSGENDER IS AN ADJECTIVE AND SHOULD NEVER BE USED AS
A NOUN. RATHER THAN SAYING "MAX IS A TRANSGENDER," SAY "MAX IS A TRANSGENDER
PERSON." AND TRANSGENDER NEVER NEEDS AN "-ED" AT THE END.
SOURCES: HTTP://WEB.MIT.EDU/TRANS/ALLIES.HTML AND HTTP://WWW.GLAAD.ORG/TRANSGENDER/ALLIES
16. What Pronoun?
Source: Corbett, Greville G. (2011). "Sex-based and Non-sex-based Gender Systems". In Dryer; Haspelmath, Martin. The World Atlas of Language Structures Online. Munich: Max Planck Digital Library. Retrieved 2013-04-27
Many of the world's languages do not have gender-specific pronouns. English,
however, has gender-specificity for certain pronouns, particularly personal pronouns
of the third person. Problems of usage arise in contexts where a transgender or
gender non-conforming person is being referred to by these gender-specific
pronouns. In such cases, we recommend the use of gender-neutral pronouns.
✴Gender Specific are pronouns associated with a particular gender, such as a pronoun
denoting female or male. Examples include the English third-person personal pronouns he
and she.
✴Gender Neutral are pronouns not associated with a particular gender, and that does not
imply male or female. Many English pronouns are gender-neutral, including they, which can
be substituted in a singular use.
✴Spivak Pronouns are a proposed set of gender-neutral pronouns in English popularized by
LambdaMOO (an online, virtual reality community) based on pronouns used by Michael
Spivak (an American Mathematician). Though not in widespread use, they have been
employed in writing for gender-neutral language by some people who dislike the more
common alternatives "he/she" or singular they.
17. What Pronoun?
SOURCE: HTTP://WEB.MIT.EDU/TRANS/GENDERNEUTRALPRONOUNS.PDF
Subject Object
Possesive
Adjective
Possessive
Pronoun
Reflexive
Female She Her Her Hers Herself
Male He Him His His Himself
Gender
Neutral
Ze Hir Hir Hirs Hirself
Spivak E Em Eir Eirs Emself
If you don’t know what pronouns to use, ask. Be polite and respectful when
you ask a person which pronoun they prefer. Then use that pronoun and
encourage others to do so.
18. KEY ISSUES.
According to the Human Rights
Campaign (HRC), among Fortune
500 companies, 89-percent have
sexual orientation non-
discrimination policies and 66-
percent have gender identity non-
discrimination policies.
Additionally, more than 90
companies have joined the
Business Coalition for Workplace
Fairness, a group of leading U.S.
employers that support the
Employment Non-Discrimination
Act.
19. KEY ISSUES.
While it is illegal to discriminate in employment, housing and public accommodations based
on race, color, religion, sex, national origin, age, handicap or marital status, the LGBT
community is currently left out of non-discrimination protections in 29 states across the US.
Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_employment_discrimination_in_the_United_States
20. KEY ISSUES.
There is currently no employment protection for the LGBT community at a national
level. The regulation of LGBT non-discrimination policies varies by jurisdiction.
Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_employment_discrimination_in_the_United_States
22. Be vocal.
...because nothing is more important than our humanity
“There comes a time when one must take a position that is not safe nor political nor
popular but he must take it because his conscience tells him it is right”.--Martin Luther
23. workplace allies.
A poll by Small Business Majority shows two-thirds of small
business owners support a federal law prohibiting discrimination
against LGBT workers and job applicants.
[1] Small Business Majority Poll - Small Businesses Support Workplace Nondiscrimination Policies
http://www.smallbusinessmajority.org/small-business-research/workplace-nondiscrimination/index.php
24. workplace allies.
LGBT equality is good for business. Increasingly, more employers are beginning to
understand that diversity brings the skills, perspective and other assets that are essential
to establishing a competitive workforce. Continued lack of support for the passage of a
comprehensive Human Rights Ordinance could prevent the most qualified job
candidates from considering employment in Jacksonville and cause others around the
nation to view our community as “behind the curve” or close-minded.
[1] Small Business Majority Poll - Small Businesses Support Workplace Nondiscrimination Policies
http://www.smallbusinessmajority.org/small-business-research/workplace-nondiscrimination/index.php
25. allies of faith.
People look to their faith as a source of guidance and inspiration – and LGBT
people and our family and friends are no different. The Human Rights Campaign
Religion and Faith Program and GLAAD are working to create a world where
nobody is forced to choose between who they are or who they love and what they
believe. A growing number of religious groups have issued statements officially
welcoming LGBT people as members.
SOURCE: GLAAD Missing Voices Fact Sheet, a study of religious voices in mainstream media reports about LGBT equality
http://www.glaad.org/publications/missingvoices
Unitarian
Universalist
Church of
Jacksonville
26. COMMUNITY ALLIES.
Since our launch in August 2013, We Are Straight Allies is honored to have been
mentioned, featured, discussed, or highlighted by these esteemed organizations,
showcasing the work with are doing in the city of Jacksonville, and beyond.
27. making progress.
We Are Straight Allies has played a crucial role, along with the Jacksonville Coalition
for Equality, Equality Florida, and the HRC, to gain passage of a resolution at Neptune
Beach and workshops leading to the passage of the Human Rights Ordinance in
Atlantic Beach, offering protection from discrimination for their LGBT communities.
28. be authentic.
...because nothing is more important than our humanity
“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change
the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has.” -- Margaret Mead
29. 10 things every ally needs to know.
1. Being an Ally is About Listening
2. Stop Thinking of ‘Ally’ as a Noun
3. ‘Ally’ is Not a Self-Proclaimed Identity
4. Allies Don’t Take Breaks
5. Allies Educate Themselves Constantly
6. You Can’t Be an Ally in Isolation
7. Allies Don’t Need to Be in the Spotlight
8. Allies Focus on Those Who Share Their Identity
9. When Criticized or Called Out, Allies Listen, Apologize, Act Accountably,
and Act Differently Going Forward
10. Allies Never Monopolize the Emotional Energy
SOURCE: HTTP://EVERYDAYFEMINISM.COM/2013/11/THINGS-ALLIES-NEED-TO-KNOW/
30. one spark creator ignites controversy
SOURCE: HTTP://WWW.FIRSTCOASTNEWS.COM/VIDEOS/NEWS/LOCAL/2014/04/09/7535291/
31. mayor Andrew gillum
✴With a passion for public service, and the ability to
motivate and mobilize people to action, Mayor Andrew D.
Gillum is recognized statewide, in Florida, and nationally as
an emerging leader.
✴As Mayor, Andrew has launched numerous transformative
initiatives, such as: The Tallahassee Future Leaders
Academy, a summer jobs program for over 100 Tallahassee
youth and Operation Safe Neighborhoods, which is
designed to empower neighbors and help deter acts of
violence.
✴Mayor Gillum has received numerous awards and
recognitions for his passion and service over the years, and
has been named an emerging leader by the Congressional
Black Caucus, Jet Magazine, Ebony Magazine, the
Association of Trial Lawyers for America (ATLA), The Drum
Major Institute, IMPACT, and the Washington Post.
✴“Being an ally is important to me because love is never
wrong, and equality must continue to be a part of the
progress we work to drive in our community, our state, and
in our country.”
✴Read more about MAYOR GILLUM here: http://wp.me/
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32. Pat geraghty
✴Chairman of the board of directors and CEO
of Florida Blue State’s largest health plan
serving more than 7 million people in
Florida
✴He learned about discrimination early on
when his grandfather, an Irish immigrant.
was denied employment
✴Pat is proud to be a Straight Ally, working
to build a more inclusive, more fair,
community for everyone to live in
✴“Florida Blue stands for inclusiveness and
for passing the Human Rights Ordinance in
Jacksonville. We will be supportive in the
efforts to work on the changes in the HRO.”
✴Read more about PAT here: http://wp.me/
p3PnKk-73
33. gloria steinem
✴ Feminist activist, organizer, writer, lecturer
✴ She helped to found the Women's Action
Alliance, the National Women's Political
Caucus, and Choice USA
✴ Founding president of the Ms. Foundation
for Women
✴ “On campuses, people will say, ‘why are
the same right-wing people against
lesbianism and birth control?’ They find
that bizarre. It’s not bizarre. It’s because
the right wing is against any form of
sexual expression that can’t end in
conception. So we have the same
adversaries and the same allies.”
✴ Read more about GLORIA here: http://
wp.me/p3PnKk-8N
34. LUIS “louie” LOPEZ
✴Originally from Los Angeles, Retired Professional
Jockey
✴Retired from United States Navy
✴Married with two children
✴“By the time John was twelve, we were convinced he
might be gay and were always conscientious to let
John know we were accepting, if that was the case.
Later, he came out to me as a Transgender young adult
and preferred we call her Nina. In Nina's (John) eyes,
she was never gay, but someone who has felt, and
viewed herself, as a girl at a very early age.”
✴“I personally have seen some of the rejection, prejudice
and taunts my daughter has experienced. As a parent, I
can be hurt by someone, but if it happens to my
children it slices like a dagger every time. The irony is,
I always wanted a daughter and a son, and in the end it
looks like that is who I have been given.”
✴“My hope is for people will take the time to understand
and not judge because everything is not always what it
seems to be.”
✴Read more about LOUIE here: http://wp.me/p3PnKk-8i
35. rachel vitti
✴Wife of Dr. Nikolai Vitti, Superintendent of Duval
County Schools
✴Mother of four children
✴Social justice advocate
✴The sobering fact is that less than 50 years ago,
without the voice of allies, I would have been
arrested and jailed for displaying my human right
to love a man, who shares my heart, brings me to
a poignant pause…my four bi-racial children
would have been deemed to be illegitimate and
would not have been given the protections and
privileges afforded to the children of lawfully
wedded parents.”
✴Less than 50 years ago, allies stood to bring a
voice to Mildred and Richard Loving and their
three children, so they too could benefit from
America’s Promise.”
✴Read more about RACHEL here: http://wp.me/
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36. CALISE FAMILY
✴Matthew J. Calise, son, and Jill Flowers Calise, wife, of James
(Jimmy) Calise (1962-2005)
✴Matthew graduated from Florida State University with degrees in
both marketing and management
✴Jill received her teaching degree at the University of Florida and
Masters Degree in Educational Leadership from the University of
North Florida
✴Jimmy and Jill were married a little more than 25 years ago, in
1988. One month before their wedding day, Jimmy learned that he
was HIV positive
✴Matthew was born in May, 1989
✴When Matthew was 7-years-old, his father came out to him as gay
✴By middle school, Jimmy’s HIV had progressed into AIDS
✴Just shy of 16, Matthew’s father passed away
✴To honor the impact that Jimmy had on their lives, Matthew and
Jill each got a tattoo that they display with great pride
✴“In our family, we believe that it takes a village to raise a child. We
also believe it takes a village to make a change and create a
movement. Today, we become a proud part of that community. One
that believes in both love and equality for all.”
✴Read more about MATTHEW AND JILL here: http://wp.me/p3PnKk-
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40. Action tips.
✴Avoid using biased language and encourage others to do the
same, “no homo”, “that’s so gay”
✴Inquire about inclusive intake forms in doctor’s offices,
businesses, and schools
✴Discourage sharing of disparaging jokes, cartoons, memes, or
videos by your family, friends and colleagues
✴Support businesses and organizations that promote equality
✴Incorporate affirming and inclusive language in your everyday
conversations
✴Display your support proudly with stickers, car magnets, ribbons,
bracelets or t-shirts from organizations that support equality
41. our mission.
✴We Are Straight Allies seeks to educate, engage and “call to action” the business,
faith-based, military, government, nonprofit, educational, arts and private sectors
as we move towards passage of a comprehensive policies that protects the LGBT
community against discrimination across the State of Florida. The campaign is
designed to reaffirm those who currently support fundamental human rights for all
citizens and to further engage those who are ambivalent, previously voted against
protections, or who are uninformed about the real challenges that face members
of our LGBT community.
✴This is a place for everyday people to share their stories as to how they have seen
their loved ones affected by intolerance. We seek to put an end to the
discrimination and violence directed at our fellow LGBT community. We publicly
stand united with our Gay, Lesbian, Bi-Sexual, and Transgender families, friends,
co-workers, and communities.
✴For those who have been beaten, tortured, and silenced because of fear or shame,
we offer to be your voice, to hold your hands, to stand by your side, and we
promise to fight for an end to your mistreatment and suffering.
✴We are your Straight Allies.
42. COME OUT, TAKE ACTION!
...because nothing is more important than our humanity
“Until we are all free, we are none of us free. ” ― Emma Lazarus
43. SIGN THE PLEDGE.
FIND THE PLEDGE ONLINE AT: HTTP://WWW.EQFL.ORG/JAX/STRAIGHTALLYPLEDGE
44. contact city council.
Champion Level contributions are for individuals wanting to support We Are Straight Allies.
LET THEM KNOW WHY IT’S IMPORTANT TO YOU THAT THEY SUPPORT
LGBT EQUALITY AND PASS PROTECTIVE POLICIES
45. VIA INSTRAGRAM
POST YOUR COMING OUT TO VOTE PHOTO WITH THE HASHTAGS #WERSTR8ALLIES #VOTE
SHARE YOUR STORY.
“I’m Coming Out to #VOTE!
#WeAreStr8Allies”
47. STAY ENGAGED.
•FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA OR SIGN UP FOR EMAIL UPDATES
•EDUCATE YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY AND COLLEAGUES AS TO THE
IMPORTANCE OF THE PASSAGE OF A HRO IN JACKSONVILLE, FL
•MAKE SURE YOUR CURRENT EMPLOYER HAS A COMPREHENSIVE NON-
DISCRIMINATION POLICY ALREADY IN PLACE
49. GET INVOLVED.
✴We Are Straight Allies needs your help! We are seeking funding to
find even more allies like you, across the State of Florida, in order to
gain majority support for the passage of comprehensive LGBT
Non-Discrimination Protections.
✴Make a financial contribution in any amount to support
the campaign. Your support will enable us to run
the campaign in local, regional and national print
publications, create additional marketing
materials, such as postcards and posters, and
offer more Straight Ally educational workshops
across the State of Florida.
✴Purchase an “I’m Coming Out” T-Shirt.
Order yours TODAY. Publicly show your
support for our LGBT Community!