conversation styles how to make friends and meet new people

1. BY: DON GABOR

2.  It helps to learn
 How adjust into a new social and work
environment.
 Break through the shyness barriers, be a better
speaker .
 Meet new people and make friends

3.  Body language + tone of voice + words = total
communication
 Body language speaks before we speak
 Communicates feelings, ideas, attitudes before
we speak.
 Projects level of receptivity
 First impression should be friendly and open

4.  Each letter represents a nonverbal gesture
 Will encourage others to talk with you
 S= SMILE
 Pleasant and friendly smile
 Indicates open and friendly attitude
 Couple it with a friendly “HELLO”
 Don’t frown or wrinkle your brow
 signal of nonreceptivity.

5.  O=OPEN ARMS
 Indicates you are friendly
 “I am available for contact and willing to listen.”
 Standing or sitting with crossed arms indicates
you are close minded.
 F=FORWARD LEAN
 Lean forward slightly in a casual and friendly
manner
 Body language indicates: I HEAR WHAT YOU ARE
SAYING AND I AM INTERESTED-KEEP TALKING.
 Leaning backward indicates disinterest

6.  T= TOUCH
 Start and end your conversation with a friendly
handshake.
 Couple it with a friendly “HI” and a nice smile and
your name.
 E=EYE CONTACT
 Direct eye contact :that you are listening to the
other person.
 N=Nod
 Indicates that you are listening and understand to
what is being said
 Blank face indicates
 Your thoughts are elsewhere

7.  Establish eye contact and smile and then
follow the simple procedure
 RISK VERSUS REJECTION
 Don’t fear the risk of being rejected
 Be the first one to say hello
 Indicates :you are confidence and friendly
 ASK EASY-TO-ANSWER RITUAL QUESTION
 Give a compliment to someone followed by an
easy –to-answer ritual question.

8.  Focus on the situation you are in
 Look outward-not inward
 Balance the two-way information exchange
 Discuss the topics/events that are important
to you.
 Change the topics using free information
 Refer to free information- “I heard you mention
earlier……”

9.  Best time to end the conversation
 Look for a pause in a conversation
 Use the person’s name and add a compliment
 “it’s been great talking with you.”
 And then say goodbye with a handshake

10.  All you need is 5 seconds to make a great first
impression.
 1st second
 Focus on the moment of introduction
 2nd second
 Listen for the name ,every letters in the name.
 3rd second
 Repeat the name aloud
 4th second
 Think of someone you know with the same name.
 5th second
 Use the name during and at the end of the
conversation

11.  They tend to prevent others to open up with
you.
 “I’m right- you’re wrong.”
 If you don’t agree with someone say -“it seems to
me..” , “I believe..”
 Never say “you are dead wrong” , “from where
have you got this idea.”
 “It doesn’t matter to Me”
 Indicates that you are not taking any responsibility in
decision process.
 Express your preference
 “Tell me something I don’t know”
 “I’m Boring”
Focus on the positive events in your life and talk
about them

12.  Someone you can trust , share common
interests
 Good friendship can begin at any stage of
life.
 Components of good friendship:
 Respect, love, fun, learning, understanding

13. o Not always easy
o It take time ,commitment, lot of trust.
o Take the initiative and reach out to others
o Show genuine interest in people
o Develop trust
o Reveal some of your personal information and
feelings
o Share your common interests

14.  Plan a activity around your mutual interest.
 Invitation could be: “I remember when we talked
last time you said you like(activity) so I was
wondering, are you interested in joining me for
….”
 Do what you can for your friends.
 If you are a good friend , you will have good
friends.
 In best friendships learning ,laughing and
developing never stops.

15.  C-H-A-T
 C=candid
 Straight forward approach
 They talk about
 Sports, crime, business politics
 Do
 Show interest in their business and personal goals
 Ask for their opinion and advice
 Don’t
 Get into debates with them

16.  H= hang back
 Reserved , soft spoken, excellent listener
 Takes little time to open up, but when they
open they feel more comfortable
 People think they are shy, unwilling to
communicate
 They talk about
 Food cooking books restaurants
relationships, dance
 Do ask for their views, feelings that concern
people
 Don’t get aggressive with them

17.  A= Accurate
 Technical approach
 See everything as a problem and want to have
all the answers
 They talk about
 Science& math's ,stock markets, how things work
 Don’t change the topic frequently
 Do praise their technical knowledge
 T= Talkative
 Energetic who can talk about anything except
technical things
 Fun and friendly person who is open to contact
 Sometimes they fail to listen
 Do laugh at their jokes

18.  Turn on “VIBRATE” while attending social and
business function
 Choose the right time to call
 Find a private or a semiprivate place to talk
 Speak at a normal volume

19.  Chat room : is a website where ongoing
conversations about particular topics takes
place.
 Do lurk before you leap
 Observe how people in a chat room
communicates before participating in discussion
 Don’t flame other members of the group if
you disagree with what they say.