(Webinar slides) Life on Purpose: An Alternative Approach to Work-Life Challanges

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‣  Ellen is a strategic talent advisor, psychologist, certified coach and Founding Principal
of Lawyers Life Coach LLC.
‣  Ellen consults with practice groups, law firms and corporate legal departments on
strategic talent management and retention
‣  Ellen is particularly known for her expertise on the challenges faced by women in the
profession
‣  Ellen has been selected as the exclusive Women In Law Empowerment Forum
(WILEF)-endorsed leadership development coach
‣  Ellen is Co-Chair of the Board of the ThirdPath Institute, on the Board of WILEF and a
member of the Center for Women in the Law’s Consortium
‣  Ellen received her Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Rochester, her coach
training from the MentorCoach ™ program, for which she has also taught, and served
on the faculties of three universities before starting her independent practice.
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Poll Slide #1
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How satisfied are you with your work/life balance?!
!
!
Very satisfied!
Somewhat satisfied!
Occasionally satisfied!
I never have work/life balance!

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AN ALTERNATIVE APPROACH
LESSONS FROM A BOBO DOLL
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"More than education, more than
experience, more than training,
a person's level of resilience will
determine who succeeds and
who fails. That's true in the
cancer ward, it's true in the
Olympics, and it's true in
the boardroom."
Diane L. Coutu, quoting Dean Becker, CEO of Adaptiv Learning
Systems. Harvard Business Review, May 2002, p.47

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•  Central, self-organizing life aim
•  Over-riding sense of mission and
meaning
•  Creates overarching values
manifested in day-to-day behavior
•  Generates goals and effort to
accomplish
•  Resonates across time and
context
•  Provides foundation that allows
resilience in face of adversity
Steger & Kashdan, 2013
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£  People who anchor their
lives in a meaningful
purpose report:
¤  Less depression, anxiety,
stress, substance abuse,
and workaholism
¤  More engagement in their
work
¤  More control over their
lives
Steger & Kashdan, 2013
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  Have a hard time saying no
  Sometimes wonder why you are
driving so hard
  Have a hard time prioritizing tasks
  Feel like you have no time for yourself
  Sometimes feel so depleted that
nothing seems as important as getting
some sleep
  Feel badly about how little time you
spend with your family/friends/
community
Robin J. Ely, Ph.D., Harvard Business School
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v  What matters most to you
v  What you stand for
v  Sense of purpose
v  What gives your life meaning
v  The motivation in your life
v  Lifelong striving
v  Something you can work toward but
cannot arrive at
v  Not a goal you can achieve
v  Describes a quality not a quantity
v  Your perspective vs. what others think
is “right”
v  Provides foundation that allows
resilience in face of adversity
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Intention!
!
Importance
Behavior
Difference
Work!
Intention!
!
Importance
Behavior
Difference
Leisure!
Intention!
!
Importance
Behavior
Difference
Health!
Intention!
!
Importance
Behavior
Difference
Intimate Relationships!
Intention!
!
Importance
Behavior
Difference
Friends!
Intention!
!
Importance
Behavior
Difference
Community!
Intention!
!
Importance
Behavior
Difference
Family!
Intention!
!
Importance
Behavior
Difference
Education!
Intention!
!
Importance
Behavior
Difference
Spirituality!
!
!
YOU
!
!
!
Obstacle!
Obstacle!
Obstacle!
Obstacle!
Obstacle!
Obstacle!
Obstacle!
Obstacle!

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Dah,l et al. !
The Art & Science of Valuing 2009!

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Poll Slide #2
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The chatter in my mind includes:!
!
Worries that I’ll lose a client!
Fears of making a mistake!
Thoughts that I “should” be exercising more!
Feeling guilty about neglecting my family!

Get Unhooked
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ü  Adapt to situational demands
ü  Maintain balance between
competing life domains
ü  Tolerate distress and develop
open, receptive attitude toward
emotions, thoughts, sensations
ü  Be aware of and committed to
behaviors congruent with
deeply held values
Kashdan & Rottenberg, 2010
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REFLECTION RITUALS
v “BALANCE” IS
IMPOSSIBLE WITHOUT
REGULAR
REFLECTION
v Aware of stress level and
need to recover
v Take time to reflect on
what is most important
v “Workability”
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– !
By saying “Yes” to:!
!
1.  ___________________!
2.  ___________________!
3.  ___________________!
By saying “No” to:!
1.  ___________________!
2.  ___________________!
3.  ___________________!
I am saying “No” to:!
!
1.  ___________________!
2.  ___________________!
3.  ___________________!
I am saying “Yes” to:!
1.  ___________________!
2.  ___________________!
3.  ___________________!

Poll Slide #3
My workplace:
Recognizes and supports my life outside of work
Tolerates but disapproves of my life outside of work
Does not acknowledge the legitimacy of life outside of work
Is an environment of chronic overwork
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