This document discusses relationship-based safety and challenges some common myths about safety. It argues that human error is a symptom of deeper issues within complex systems, not a cause of failures. Investigating accidents focuses more on understanding why actions made sense at the time rather than finding mistakes. The document also questions whether safety is really a science and whether current safety education reinforces the wrong paradigm. It advocates for an evolutionary approach to safety that focuses on critical thinking, action, feedback and reconciling goals rather than providing answers or constraints.