6. Have an
experience
Observe and
Decide on reflect on
best option experience
Develop new
ideas and
principles Bernice McCarthy http://www.aboutlearning.com/
10. Active Listening Skill
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Intensity
Intensity Empathy
Empathy
Active
Active
Listening Skills
Listening Skills
Responsibility
Responsibility Acceptance
Acceptance
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Fundamentals of Management:
12-10 Gao Junshan, UST Beijing
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Active listening is paying attention to other people
in a manner where they feel that you hear their
message and that you fully understand them. At the
core of active listening is the ability to be empathic
with people, meaning that while you may not
necessarily agree with them, you do understand
their experience.
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12. Active Listening Behaviors
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• Prepare to Listen
• Focus on the Speaker
• Screen Out Distractions
• Concentrate on the Message
• Listen to tapes while you
commute
13. ASSERTIVE
COMMUNICATION
SKILL
“ UNDERSTANDING YOUR RIGHTS
”
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16. Assertiveness is about self
confidence which means having a
positive attitude towards yourself
and others.
17. ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION SKILL
GAYA KOMUNIKASI
PASIF ASERTIF AGRESIF
ESENSINYA Mendahulukan hak orang Mengupayakan hak anda Mengutamakan hak anda
lain tanpa menyepelekan tanpa mempedulikan hak
orang lain org lain
IMPLIKASI Perasaan saya tidaklah Kita sama-sama penting, Perasaan anda tdk
penting, kita sejajar penting.
ketika
saya ‘inferior’ Saya ‘superior’
berkomunikasi dg
(rendah diri) (lebih hebat)
or. lain
GAYA VERBAL Cenderung meminta Pernyataan ‘saya’; Pernyataan ‘anda’;
maaf; berkata halus tegas nada suara tinggi
GAYA NON Menghindari tatapan Menatap langsung; Menatap tajam; tegang;
VERBAL langsung; tak bisa diam, postur rileks; gerakan postur kaku; menunjuk2
mengangguk2 teratur
KONSEKUENSI Kepercayaan diri Kepercayaan diri Dibenci; harga diri
berkurang, marah pd diri bertambah; dihargai & berkurang; tdk dihargai;
sendiri, dikasihani m’hargai org lain ditakuti ;
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18. “ Understanding between stress
and assertiveness”
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19. ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION SKILL
Understanding between stress and assertiveness
keringat
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pending
wajah
kopi rokok
stres
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21. ASSERTIVE
COMMUNICATION
SKILL
Training
“HANDLING CONFLICT AND
AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR”
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22. One party perceives its interests are
being opposed or set back by
another party
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23. TINGKAT KONFLIK
ANTAR ORGANISASI
DI DALAM ORGANISASI
ANTAR KELOMPOK
DI DALAM KELOMPOK
ANTAR PRIBADI
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24. DIMENSI DARI KONFLIK & ORIENTASI PEMECAHANNYA
T S
I A
N N KOMPETISI KOLABORASI
G
G A
K T
A T
T E
G
A
K
E
S KOMPROMI
T
E K
G U
R
A A
N
S
A
G
HINDAR AKOMODASI
T
N E
G
A
S
TIDAK ADA KERJASAMA KERJASAMA SANGAT ERAT
TINGKATAN KERJASAMA
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26. also known as 'multi-rater feedback', 'multisource
feedback', or 'multisource assessment', is employee
development feedback that comes from all around
the employee.
"360" refers to the 360 degrees in a circle .
360o
27. Performance Evaluator’s
overlooked by situational
evaluator factors
Unreliability
Disagreement
True Assessment
Deficiency Employee’s
Invalidity temporary
personal
factors
Actual Performance Measured Performance
Poorly defined
task performance
28. Criterion contamination:
Reliability:
Elements that affect the
appraisal measures that Performance measures Measures that are
are not part of the actual consistent across
performance raters and over time
Zone of valid
assessment
Strategic relevance:
Criterion deficiency:
Performance standards Actual
linked to organizational performance Aspects of actual
goals and performance that are
competencies not measured
29. Sesi I
Effective Managing Stress
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30. Hans Selye "stres tidak selalu sesuatu yang buruk -
itu semua tergantung pada bagaimana Anda
menerimanya. Stres karena menggembirakan, kerja
yang sukses kreatif bermanfaat, sedangkan
kegagalan, penghinaan atau infeksi adalah
merugikan. “
Selye percaya efek biokimia dari stres akan dialami
terlepas dari apakah situasi itu positif atau negatif
31. Kombinasi respon fisiologis dan emosional untuk
suatu peristiwa atau situasi
Keadaan ketegangan mental atau emosional atau
kegentingan
mekanisme pertahanan yang digunakan untuk
merespon bahaya yang dirasakan
stres adalah komunikasi internal yang kuat untuk
meningkatkan
sumber energi karena pelepasan hormon yang
dikeluarkan selama respon stres
32. Respon Fisiologis Kognitif dan Emosional
meliputi : tanggapan termasuk :
Peningkatan denyut Suka bicara sendiri
jantung Kegelisahan
Peningkatan tekanan Ketidakmampuan untuk
darah berkonsentrasi
Berkeringat
Mulut kering
Sakit kepala
33. Akademik tekanan
Frustrasi
Persepsi kurangnya waktu untuk menyelesaikan
pekerjaan
Kesulitan membuat keputusan
Tekanan sosial
34.
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36. What Makes a Good Employee?
1. Integrity
2. Ability to work with people
3. Responsibility
4. Judgment
5. Motivation to succeed
6. Work ethic
7. Intelligence
8. Creativity/enthusiasm
9. Communications skills
10. Technical competence
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41. Membangun Hubungan Efektif dengan
Rekan Kerja dan Pimpinan
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42. Kemampuan Beradaptasi
Kemampuan melayani klien
Komunikasi
Kemampuan memecahkan masalah dengan kreatif
Kemampuan untuk bekerja dalam team dan
berkolaborasi
Bisa dipercaya
Bertanggung jawab
Dorongan untuk berprestasi
43. Membangun Hubungan Melalui
Komunikasi yang Effektif dengan
Rekan kerja dan Pimpinan
1. The art of Looking (memandang)
2. The art of Smiling (tersenyum)
3. The art of Listening (mendengar)
4. The art of Questioning (bertanya)
5. The art of Answering (menjawab)
6. The art of Surprising (kejutan positif)
7. The art of Admitting Mistake (mengakui kesalahan)
8. The art of Asking Apology (meminta maaf)
9. The art of Stating Empathy (pernyataan empati)
10.The art of Closing Conversation (menutup pembicaraan)
44. 1. Sense of direction (kecakapan menetapkan tujuan)
2. Understanding (kemampuan memahami dengan
memanfaatkan pengalaman atau pengetahuan)
3. Courage ( keberanian untuk berbuat sesuatu)
4. Charity ( bersikap murah hati /ramah )
5. Esteem(mempunyai jati diri/kepribadian )
6. Self confidence (mempunyai kepercayaan diri)
7. Self acceptence (dapat menerima dan menyadari
keadaan dirinya )
45. You are You
Sikap Anda adalah penentu segalanya
Hargai diri Anda dan orang lain
Percaya pada diri sendiri
Percaya Anda bisa membuat sesuatu yang berbeda
Niatkan untuk memberikan dan melakukan yang
terbaik dalam segala hal sejak awal
46. Setting your
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47. Goal Setting
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WHY SHOULD YOU SET GOALS
• Establish your ultimate destination
• Identify the roads you can take to get there
“The person who starts out going nowhere,
• Know when you have arrived at your goal
generally gets there”
-Dale Carnegie
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Do not understand the importance of goals.
Do not know how to set goals.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of failure.
49. Ω Mapping Ω Problem Statement Ω Strategic Direction ►►► Conclusion
Family/home
Social
Educational
Religious
Achievement/recognition
Career
Physical/health
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1. Ones that make things happen
2. Those that let it happen
3. And the ones that don’t know what happened.
What one are you going to be?
51. How does it work, and how
can we use it ef fectively?
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52. Positive punishment is the type where you add
an unpleasant stimulus as a consequence of a
response (and the response is weakened)
Negative punishment is the type where you
remove a pleasant stimulus as a consequence of a
response (and the response is weakened)
53. Although it should not be overused, in some cases
punishment can have positive side effects:
◦ It can sometimes lead to an increase in social behavior
(especially after negative punishment like time out)
◦ It can sometimes lead to an unexpected improvement in
mood
◦ It can lead to an increase in attention to the environment
54. Immediate vs. delayed
Consistently applied
Negative Punishment instead of Positive Punishment
when possible
Sufficient (but not too much) intensity
Explanation
Combined with positive reinforcement!
Much of mentoring is about helping your client learn from experiences that they have, but what impact does this have on the way you mentor, how can you find out how they like to learn the best, and how can you put over information in a way that helps someone learn in a more effective way? These are the concepts we will be looking at in this session
So lets start off by looking at a model that explains how we learn from experience. This is often known as Kolb’s Learning Cycle. All the time we are learning from our experiences and how do we do that? If you think about any thing you have learned from experience, firstly you experience something and then you reflect on the experience. You think about what things went well, what didn’t go so well. If there were things that didn’t go as well as you wanted then you will look for new ideas or principles and come up with a new approach and then have a go at that and then keep going round the cycle. Your job as a mentor is to help your client got through this cycle time and time again. This experiential learning cycle is one that is useful to use with clients to help them understand the role of the mentor.
Honey and Mumford used Kolb’s Learning Cycle to come up with a way of identifying people’s preferred learning styles. It is useful to be able to identify someone you are mentoring’s learning style because then you can adapt the way you communicate with them to fit in with their style and so they learn in the most easy way for them. Activists, as the name implies, are people who prefer to learn by doing. They like to just get in there and have a go and see what happens. They like to experiment, take risks, try things out. They will enjoy things that they can be fully involved with, like brain storming, problem solving, role playing, and just having a go. A reflector is someone who learns by watching and thinking about things. They like to take their time and look at things from several different perspectives before they do something different. A theorist is someone who likes to understand the theory and concepts behind things. They like to analyse and to think logically through things. They like models, concepts, statistics, and theories. Once they have these then things make sense to them. And finally there is pragmatists. For pragmatists to learn they need to see how the learning is going to be put into practice. They will be keen to know how they can use the learning and what are the most practical ways of doing that. They tend not to like lengthy discussions. Each of these learning styles relates to one of the stages of Kolb’s learning cycle. To learn well for all our experiences we will want to enhance our skills in each of these areas. So in mentoring you may want to use their learning style to help them learn more easily and also, if the situation demands, help them acquire skills in other learning styles.
This exercise is to help you think about the learning styles and the impact they will have on the way you mentor
Here are some thoughts to add and to compare to the ones you have already thought of.
This model was developed by Bernice McCarthy, once again based on Kolb’s learning cycle. It is useful to help people think about putting together presentations, meetings, lectures, training sessions, etc in such a way as to ensure all the learning styles are catered for. In giving information you will want to start by making sure that people know about why it is that they would want the information and get them in the best frame of mind for taking in the information. So you will want to make sure they understand why it will be useful for them, what it will do for them, what they will get out of it. And in this way to create meaning for them and to motivate them. Then is the what section. This is part where you will want to give the information, concepts etc so that they understand the theory and can reflect on the ideas behind them. This is the teaching part of the model. After that then is the How section, and this is the part for the person or people to acquire and try out the skills that will allow them to put the ideas into practice. So here you may want to coach the person, or facilitate ways in which they can try out new skills, doing exercises and so on. And finally there is the What if… section. This is where you will want to open it up to the audience so that they can ask questions, and think about what might happen if they were to do this or that, so that they are fully set up for putting it all into practice and using the new knowledge.
Taking listening skills for granted, many people confuse listening with hearing. Hearing is merely picking up sound vibrations. Listening, in contrast, is making sense of what we hear. Passive listening requires a listener to absorb and remember the words being spoken. Active listening requires a listener to understand the communication from the sender’s point of view. There are four requirements for active listening. Concentrate on what the speaker is saying, and tune out miscellaneous thoughts that create distractions. Empathize with the speaker and try to understand what the speaker wants to communicate rather than what you want to hear. Accept what the speaker is saying; listen objectively without judging. Take the responsibility for completeness, that is for getting the full intended meaning from the speaker’s communication.