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Have you ever thought that you’ve already
peaked, that you’ve reached your limits in
life, that you will never be more successful?
I’ll never achieve significance, do something
meaningful, or enjoy the good things in life that I’ve
seen others enjoy. Sad to say, but if you think this way,
you’ll be exactly right… unless you are willing to change
your thinking.
That’s why the first step to living at your full potential
is to enlarge your vision. To live your best life now, you
must start seeing your dreams coming to pass. You must
conceive it and believe it is possible if you ever hope to
experience it.
To “conceive” it, you must have an image on the inside,
of the life you want to live on the outside. The image has to
become a part of you, in your thoughts, your conversation,
deep down in your subconscious mind, in your actions, in
every part of your being.
I tell my children all the time, “You’re going to go much
farther than Daddy. You have so much potential. You’re
going to accomplish great things!”
I’m not simply trying to instill pride in our children; I
want them to have a big vision. I want them to conceive
great possibilities at an early age. And I know they must
have it on the inside before God can ever bring it to pass on
the outside.
My own father accomplished great things in his lifetime.
He inspired people all over the world. But I’m not going to
be satisfied to do merely what Daddy did. I don’t want to
simply hold my ground and maintain. No, I want to press
on toward new heights.
RAISING YOUR LEVEL
OFÂ EXPECTATION
An old adage purports that if you want to be successful,
you must follow your dreams. While I’d never suggest that
anyone should abandon his or her dreams, the truth is, your
life will follow your expectations.
What you expect is what you will get. If you dwell on
positive thoughts, your life will move in that direction;
if you continually think negative thoughts, you will live a
negative life. If you expect defeat, failure or mediocrity,
your subconscious mind will make sure that you lose, fail
or sabotage every attempt to push above average.
That’s why one of the key elements to enlarging your
vision is raising your level of expectancy. You have
to change your thinking before you can ever change
your living.
It’s important that you program your mind for success.
That won’t happen automatically. Each day, you must
choose to live with an attitude that expects good things to
happen to you.
When you get up in the morning, the first thing you
should do is set your mind in the right direction. Start your
day with faith and expectancy, and then go out anticipating
good things. Expect circumstances to change in your favor.
Expect people to go out of their way to help you. Expect to
be at the right place at the right time.
Don’t be surprised if you hear a voice whispering in your
mind, You don’t have a chance. This is going to be a lousy day for
you. Nothing good ever happens to you. You might as well not even
get your hopes up. That way, you won’t be too disappointed.
Don’t listen to such lies! You can’t even have faith
without hope! Start expecting doors of opportunity to
open for you. Expect to excel in your career. Expect to rise
above life’s challenges.
DEVELOPING A PROSPEROUS
MINDSET
How we see ourselves will make us or break us.
It’s important to understand that you are already
equipped with everything you need to live a prosperous
life; you’re filled with possibilities, incredible potential,
creative ideas and dreams.
But just because those things are within you doesn’t
mean they will do you any good. You have to start tapping
Understand, you are not a cosmic
accident, wandering randomly
and aimlessly through life.
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into them. In other words, you’ve got to believe beyond a
shadow of a doubt that you have what it takes. You were
created to excel; you have ability, insight, talent and
wisdom.
Maybe you have come from a poor environment, or
maybe you don’t have a lot of material possessions right
now. That’s OK; there are good things ahead for you.
But let me caution you; don’t allow that poverty image to
become ingrained in you. Don’t grow accustomed to living
with less, doing less and being less to the point that you
eventually sit back and accept it.
No, start looking through eyes of faith, seeing yourself
rising to new levels. See yourself prospering, and keep that
image in your heart and mind. You may be living in poverty
at the moment, but don’t ever let poverty live in you.
Too often we become satisfied and complacent, accepting
whatever comes our way. “I’ve gone as far as I can go. I’ll
never get any more promotions. This is just my lot in life.”
That’s not true! Your “lot in life” is to continually
increase. Your lot in life is to be an overcomer, to live
prosperously in every area. Quit eating the cheese and
crackers and step into the banquet hall!
CHOOSING THE
RIGHTÂ THOUGHTS
A war is raging all around you, yet, amazingly, you may
not even be aware of it. The battle is not for a piece of land
or for natural resources such as gas, oil, gold or water. The
prize in this war is much more valuable. The battle is for
your mind.
To live your life at your full potential, you must discover
the power of your thoughts and words.
Thoughts determine actions, attitude and self-image.
Really, thoughts determine destiny. We must be extremely
careful not only about what we ingest through our eyes and
ears, but what we think about. If you dwell on depressing
thoughts, you will live a depressing life. If you continually
gravitate toward negative thoughts, you will gravitate
toward negative people, activities, philosophies and
lifestyles. Your life will always follow your thoughts.
Almost like a magnet, we draw in what we constantly
think about. If you’re always thinking positive, happy,
joyful thoughts, you’re going to be a positive, happy,
joyful person and you will attract other happy, upbeat,
positive people.
Our thoughts also affect our emotions. We will feel
exactly the way we think. You will never be happy unless
you first think happy thoughts. Conversely, it’s impossible
to remain discouraged unless you first think discouraging
thoughts. So much of success or failure in life begins in
our minds and is influenced by what we allow ourselves to
dwell on.
Many don’t realize it, but we can choose our thoughts.
Nobody can make us think about something. You decide
what you will entertain in your mind. Just because a
negative, discouraging thought occurs to you, doesn’t mean
you have to “water” it, nurture it, coddle it and help it
to grow.
Anyone can be temporarily discouraged and depressed.
Life is tough, and sometimes it takes its toll on us. We all
get knocked down occasionally. But you need not remain
down. If you are depressed, you must understand, no
one is making you depressed. If you’re unhappy, no one
is forcing you to be unhappy. If you’re negative and you
have a bad attitude, nobody’s coercing you to be bored,
Change the Channel
We all know how to use the remote control to change
the channels on the TV. If we see something we don’t
like, no big deal—we just flip the channel.
We need to learn how to mentally change channels
when negative images of the past pop in our minds
unexpectedly. Unfortunately, when some people
see those negative experiences on their minds’
“screens,” instead of quickly changing channels, they
pull up a chair and get some popcorn, as though
they’re going to watch a good movie. They willingly
allow themselves to relive all those hurts and pains.
Then they wonder why they are depressed, upset
or discouraged.
Learn to change the channel. Don’t let your mind or
your emotions drag you down into despair. Instead,
dwell on the good things in your life.
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uncooperative, sarcastic or sullen. You are choosing to
remain in that condition, and the first step out of that mess
is to recognize that the only person who can improve the
situation is you!
We must take responsibility for our own actions. As long
as we keep making excuses and blaming the family tree,
our environment, past relationships, our circumstances and
attributing blame to anyone or anything, we will never be
truly free and emotionally healthy. We must realize that, to
a large extent, we can control our own destinies.
Your circumstances don’t have you down. Your thoughts
about your circumstances have you down. On the other
hand, you can be in one of the biggest battles of your life and
still be filled with joy and peace and victory—if you simply
learn how to choose the right thoughts. It’s time to think
about what you’re thinking about.
REPROGRAMMING YOUR
MENTALÂ COMPUTER
Your mind is similar to a computer. What you program
into it dictates how it will function. How foolish it would
be to complain, “I hate this computer! It never gives me
the right answer; it never does what I want it to do.” Think
about it: you can have the most powerful computer in
the world, but if you program it with the wrong software
or with misinformation, it will never function as the
manufacturer intended.
Beyond that, we now have a myriad of computer viruses
lurking in cyberspace, waiting for an opportunity to
destroy your hard drive and the information stored in
your computer. Such viruses can get into a perfectly good
computer and contaminate the software. Before long, the
computer will develop a sluggishness; it will malfunction.
You may not be able to get to the programs you need. All
too often, you unwittingly pass along the virus to a friend,
family member or business associate.
Usually these problems occur not because the computer
is defective, but because somebody reprogrammed
or contaminated good, valuable programs or
information within.
Similarly, too often we allow negative thoughts, words,
and other devious viruses to access our minds, subtly
changing our software, or corrupting our information
or values. We were created to live abundant lives, to be
happy, healthy and whole. But when our thinking becomes
contaminated, we make serious mistakes and wrong choices.
We go through life with low self-esteem, worries, fears,
feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. Making matters
worse, we pass on our negative attitudes to others.
When you recognize these things happening, you must
reprogram your computer. You must change your thinking.
Understand, you are not defective. But until you get your
thinking in line with your owner’s manual, you will never
operate to your full potential.
We never get to a place where we don’t have to deal with
negative, destructive thoughts. So the sooner we learn
how to control our thought lives, the better off we will
be. Because no matter how positively we live, we all will
occasionally be susceptible to discouragement.
HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE
You may be tempted to think that your best life is still a
long way off. Actually, nothing could be further from the
truth. Your best life starts today! The final step to enjoying
your best life now is to choose to be happy today!
You don’t have to wait for everything to be perfectly
straightened out in your family or with your business, or
for all your problems to be solved. You don’t have to forgo
happiness until you lose weight, break an unhealthy habit or
accomplish all your goals. No, you can be happy right where
you are, right now.
Happiness is a choice. When you get up in the morning,
you can choose to be happy and enjoy that day, or you can
choose to be unhappy and go around with a sour attitude.
It’s up to you. If you make the mistake of allowing your
Do you take time to make a
difference, to encourage others,
to lift their spirits, to make people
feel better about themselves?
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circumstances to dictate your happiness, you miss out on
abundant life.
You may be going through tough times, or you may have
major obstacles in your path, all of which give you good
reason to be unhappy or upset. But being unhappy won’t
change anything for the better. Being negative or sour isn’t
going to improve anything either. You might as well choose
to be happy and enjoy your life!
To enjoy every single day of your life, you must stop
fretting about the future. Quit worrying about how
everything is going to turn out. Live one day at a time;
better yet, make the most of this moment. It’s good to have
a big-picture outlook to set goals, to establish budgets and
make plans, but if you’re always living in the future, you’re
never really enjoying the present the way you’re intended to.
You must learn to live one day at a time. By an act of
your will, choose to start enjoying your life right now. Life
is too short not to enjoy every single day. Learn to enjoy
your family, your friends, your health, your work; enjoy
everything in your life.
Happiness is a decision you make, not an emotion you feel.
Certainly there are times in all our lives when bad things
happen, or things don’t turn out as we had hoped. But that’s
when we must make a decision that we’re going to be happy
in spite of our circumstances.
It’s extremely important that we know how to live a life
of peace. If we’re going to do that, we need to be flexible
and willing to make some adjustments. When things happen
that would normally bother us, we need to put our foot
down and say, “No, I’m not going to let that take my peace.
I’m going to rule over my emotions. I’m not going to allow
myself to get upset or aggravated. I’m going to choose to
be happy.”
Forgiveness Sets You Free
In 1973, during the middle of an intense Houston
Rockets basketball game, a fight broke out at center
court. Player Rudy Tomjanovich, rushed over,
running at full speed. Just as he got there, a player
whipped around and without even looking, swung as
hard as he could.
Unfortunately, the punch landed right on Rudy’s
face. It fractured Rudy’s skull, broke his nose and
cheekbones, and nearly killed him. Rudy was
sidelined for months.
One day, after he had recuperated, a reporter asked
him, “Rudy, have you ever forgiven the player that
did that to you?” Without hesitating, Rudy said,
“Absolutely, I’ve totally forgiven him.”
The reporter shook his head. “Come on, Rudy, that
guy nearly killed you…. Do you mean to tell me that
you don’t have any anger, any hatred or bitterness
toward him?”
Rudy smiled. “I don’t have any at all.” When the
reporter asked how he could possibly forgive the
player who’d hurt him so badly, Rudy replied, “I knew
if I wanted to move on with my life, I had to let it go.
I didn’t do it for him. I did it for me. I did it so I could
be free.”
A relaxed attitude will not only
lengthen your life, it will make it
much more enjoyable.